There seem to be a lot of non-Muslims marrying Moroccans?

Question

This question is meant to be respectful. How do you dress when you go out in public? How about when you are in Morocco? How do you dress around his family members like his father and brothers? What kind of dress did you wear for your wedding? Did it show lots of cleavage? Does his family accept you? I am just curious because I was looking through the questions here and noticed a lot of non-muslims married to Moroccans. In Islam men are supposed to have ghira and even though you are not Muslims I cannot imagine him letting you just dress willy-nilly around his family and friends or in public.

Thanks. I am aware it is not enforced but that doesn't mean what people wear is proper. I am glad they accept you, as they should. Please learn about the word ghira though because maybe you will understand what I am trying to say. And what makes you think that the way Muslim women dress is 'un-cool'?

I guess it depends how much one practices their religion. Loss of ghira is a big problem. I am not married to a Moroccan.

Muslim men must have ghira for their wife, daughters, mothers, sisters & other Muslim women. Muslim women are to have ghira for all the men too. It is a self-respect and honor that plays itself out as jealousy. American culture seems to have lost all notion of honor! I just think it would be odd for him to allow you to dress that way in front of his family. Lack of ghira is a sin, it's like you aren't a man.

My question was sincere. It's funny that "Josie D" signed up for a yahoo account today and only finds and answers my question. Could this just be a second, new account of somebody else who already answered? I think so.

Answer 1

I havent been around his family yet, but am going to meet them in October. I plan to dress the way I always do. I am going to be there during the fall and winter and I always wear pants and short (sometimes long) sleeve shirts and sweaters. We have talked about me wearing a hijab, but I'm not sure yet. I really have no problem with it and since he wants me to wear one I probably will. When I am around his family indoors I do not intend to wear it. I have spoken to his brother and his mother online and have seen his sister online. His family already accepts me because he loves me. We are getting married while I am there and if we have a walima (marriage fiesta) then I will wear an American wedding dress. Normally I would probably pick a sleeveless gown, but I found a beautiful gown that comes with a lacy bolero. I havent decided whether to buy it or just rent a dress once I'm there. During the summer I wear shorts and sun dresses and if I were in Morocco during the summer I would still wear the sun dresses, but not the shorts out of respect.

Answer 2

First of all no one is getting defesive from what I see. The question ask how the NON muslims dress that are married to the muslims. No one has said anything wrong. For me I am married to a man that does not have a prefrence on how I dress. My husbands family all practice Islam and the women cover themselves etc. I however dress like a non muslim. I wear shorts, capris, tank tops etc. Him nor his family have ever said anything bad to me about it. They realize it is my life and I am free to dress how I choose. When I went to Morocco I dressed the same as I do here at home. No one treated me bad and I had no problems while I was there. My husbands family and I get along great. We had two marriage ceremonies, one muslim and one christian. For my muslim wedding I wore four different dresses, all very beautiful, and for the christian one a strapless gown that did show a bit of cleavage. I agree with everyone here as I have traveled all over the world to twenty different countries because of my work. Some dress differently for respect, some dress how they want because it is who they are. Some families might prefer the said spouse to dress more modestly and other familes will not care. Like what celtic_angel said it's all in the up bringing of the families. I have seen though in many countries these days that the richer familes seem to loose sight of their religions sometimes. I am not saying all of them are like that just some. It is ignorant to try to push your ideas onto others just because it is how you think they should live their life. We all have a mind of our own and each should live our lives the way we choose, which includes dressing the way we want. As long as we are not harming others, whether it be emotionally, physically, or spiritually, nothing is bad about that.

Answer 3

good grief


Edit- okay as much as my statement above gives how I feel about this question the answer below me is even worse.
To speak this way is shameful to Islam and shows the ignorance of this husband mentioned, not those who have less money or cover (for that matter those who are wealthy and cover). The majority of women choose to cover, no need of force from husbands. Covering is not limited to poor or rich and such a statement shows such a limited education in Islam. His mother not covering is a shame, not something to try to boast about.

Covering is part of Islam and if a family chooses not to observe the laws of Islam that is their decision but it is a shame in Morocco as it is in many other Muslim cultures.

Working for the government in Morocco does not mean someone is rich that is for sure. SubhanAllah. Thank Allah being 'rich' doesn't mean people don't adhere to the laws of Islam.

Answer 4

I've been trying to keep my mouth shut on this subject as well --- but I must 100% agree with Sarah T.

It is shameful -- and it reflects very badly on the man too. NOT that they are to keep their woman in line but that their wife (or other female relative) should respect him and/or herself enough.

I am not against these women one bit. I just find it funny that they needed to get defensive about how they dress. Why couldn't they answer the question and leave it at that?

Oh and MY MUSLIM MOROCCAN husband never forced me to wear it either. Nor is his family dirt poor or all uneducated. Since when is not practicing your religion something to be proud of?

Answer 5

I am a christian married to a moroccan muslim. I dress the way I want around him the public and his parents. His family fully accepts me. None of them push their religion or ideas onto me. I agree with celtic_angel. It all has do on how they were raised and how into the religion the family and him are. The more religious ones yeah will try to push, but they are also told to respect the christians. I am friends with many that are christians married to muslim men and all of them dress the way that they want.

Answer 6

His family welcomed me with open arms. I adore them. I am very respectful of their culture and religion - I haven't converted. I have always dressed in the latest styles but not showing off too much of my body. Now I am more aware of it. My fiance cautions me if my jeans or t-shirts are too tight or a dress or skirt is too short. So I don't wear my mini-skirts anymore. Cleavage is a no-no and tight clothes but I still dress cool! ;-) Oh, also in the larger cities in Morocco many women dress in western style clothes so it's not strictly enforced.

Answer 7

I am married to a moroccan man, and I dress the way I want. He comes from a modern family that are very open. In fact my husband says that the people who try to make their wives and such cover them selves are very ignorant people. He is a muslim and comes from a muslim family, but even his mom doesn't cover her head or anything. You will find that those who come from the bigger cities and rich families of Morocco are more open to the western and European ways. Like my husband's father works in the Moroccan government and they are very wealthy, they are open to everything and all people. It really depends on how they were raised. You asked if i dressed differently and I said no, giving a reason as to why I do not. My husband and his parents are not the kind of people to push their religion or ideas onto others. For this I am thankful. They do practice many things concerning Islam, but they do not judge people or push Islam onto others.

Answer 8

When I was in Morocco I dressed modestly but in modern clothing. Occasionally I wore a jalaba or hijab, but I was not forced to. For my wedding I wore 4 beautiful dresses, all traditional and modest, no cleavage and all with long sleeves. At home I could wear basically anything I wanted, but when men came visit, I changed into clothing that covered me more. For example, I didn't wear capris or shorts around men other than my husband. I did wear loose fitting t-shirts but never tank tops or anything too revealing.

My husband's family loves me and totally accepted me despite the fact that I am previously divorced and was not Muslim when we met. They are very open people. I changed my attitudes and behavior a lot when I was there, but never under duress. I wanted to blend in, to acclimate, so it was easy for me.

Answer 9

Moroccan girls in Rabat are tall and beautiful with blondies that turn man like a flock chasing and wanting to get to know.
Friendly and nice, however I had this bad experiences before I went to Morocco I studied Arabics language but they speak French and fortunately I know French and still feeling excited.
There seem to be a lot of non-Muslim marrying Moroccan but strict rules apply.Ghira is merely a regulated temptation. Totally mixed cultures and religions with respect except the kids who called me Jackie Chan or Kunta Kunte and I watched them.

Answer 10

I thought this question was interesting. But what's with bonikingv's answer? rotfl... and he got a thumbs up too!! and btw does he even know what gheira is?