My beautiful Christian daughter is 9 years old. Is it too early to plan her wedding?

Question

I just know she'll find a good man to love her and take care of her. It will allow her to find her identity in his success.

Honestly, she is smarter than most of you.

Since she is 8 now, I probably only have 8-10 years to get ready. Should I be getting the dresses, renting the hotel for the reception, etc?

Answer 1

Can you imagine that one lady who answered, saying you don't know what size your daughter will be wearing?!!! It will be a Zero, no doubt!

You are so considerate. Possibly the best father ever. However, you really ought to find the man for her. And you don't have 8-10 years to get ready, you only have about 7. All good Christian girls should be married at 15, and you most certainly could find a rich old man for her to settle down with, before she chooses to get knocked up by some poor boy.

Good luck with the planning. And keep her smoking and purging!!

Answer 2

I'm not sure if I agree with Lizzi because my mom always told me that what belongs to someone, belongs to them, you should not take kids things away. You, however ARE the parent, and she is ONLY NINE! I wouldn't allow sleep overs since she did this piercing by herself. You should check to make sure it is not infected* If she was my kid I would take it out. Make a list of rules that she is expected to follow and post them in the house. Tell her "I have made these rules because we have not had clear communication about what you are allowed to be doing at nine years old" You can put things like No cursing, etc. on it. And if she does stuff like this now, imagine how hard it will be to control her when she is a teen. Her friends are also apparently influencing her. Talk to a teacher at school to find out how her attitude has been there, and talk to her friends parents. The mother at her friends should be responsible for this piercing.

Answer 3

if she's getting married by next week, yes, you do need to get those dresses, hotel, etc.
Man.... she's only 9! how fashion would change for the next 10 years!

I think it's okay just to keep in imagination or even play of getting married. i know most children at this age do. Make sure she's imagining getting married with a man. My 3 yr old daughter loves playing pretend as if she's getting married, and she just ask her Barney or whoever she can grab to be her partner.

Imaginative play is the best moment i taught kids the concept of marriage, family and values. Since it's playtime not sermon, I found kids would take the value better than when we disciplining them.

Answer 4

this is the dumbest thing i've heard. do you know what size of dress your daughter will need? do you know what style she likes? or better yet what will be in style in 10 years? do you know who her friends will be and who she wants to have in her wedding party and what sizes they will need. or what colors you need to buy them in because of what she wants in wedding colors? do you know what kind of honeymoon destination she will enjoy in the future. maybe she loves beaches. or maybe she hates them because she has to put on a swimsuit, maybe she likes the warm weather, but on the other hand maybe she would prefer skiing. and what kind of destination will her husband (for now he is only imaginary) like? and if she is 8 and you have 8 years to get her ready, she is going to be getting married for her sweet sixteen.

don't be an idiot no wedding takes 10 years to plan, and no bride wants their father planning ALL the details, especially before their even mentally ready to comprehend the idea of getting married.

you need to take your meds because i agree, you are crazy, and if you tell you're daughter she needs to start planning a wedding now in her life you'll make her crazy, and take away her childhood by making yourself as well as herself obsessed with marriage. because even though you are "sure" she will meet some one she might not. and then all you do is make her feel like a failure in life because she was so pressured (from the time she was 8) to get married and she never did. don't do that to an 8 year old

Answer 5

i don't think so, see when a parent already has most of their life planned out they tend to think that you are controlling them or they might tend to act rebellious on purpose evn though all you are trying to do is help. and 19 is too young to get married if she is smart which she probably is she should get a good education finish college and get a job or else she'lll have to rely on her boy friend or husband for most of the money.you should let her plan her own life but if she tends to go in a wrong path set her straight .have you seen the movie "because i said so", the mom tries to find her daughter a great guy and the daughter ends up getting herself a great guy and the mother ends up almost ruining their love, don't do that , please.

Answer 6

Start saving buddy...and just for fun, start setting her up on dates with 8 or 9 year old CHRISTIAN boys whose parents are successful. There is a good chance that he will be too and therefore, your daughter will have a good life....You know, if it all works out according to plan.
Good luck.

Answer 7

Uh , did you forget how old your "daughter" is.. in the Q, you said she was 9, now you say she is 8... LOL.. when trolls make up posts.. it's important to pay attention to the details.

Answer 8

It is never too early to begin saving money, but I suggest saving for her college fund as well as a wedding fund. But planning her life isn't up to you.

Answer 9

My hot atheist son is 4. Why don't we hook them up? Too bad you had to have a girl, now you guys have to fork out all the money for the big event.

Answer 10

Better yet....put the $$ aside to pay for it...that way should she turn out to be "Not the Marrying kind" you'll have a nice little nest egg.