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I'm very close to my mom and I always have been. I have been with my fiancee for 8 years and I love him very very much. But is it wrong that I love my mom more than my future husband? No matter who I would be with, I think I would always love her more than any one else. Is this normal,bad, strange?

2007-08-08 06:43:51 · 17 answers · asked by Susy_Q 3 in Family & Relationships Other - Family & Relationships

17 answers

Normal, your birth family is forever, your fiancee' may not be.

2007-08-08 06:45:49 · answer #1 · answered by M G 5 · 1 2

Yes I think it is wrong. I don't know your religion, but the bible says leave the mother and thy father and become one with your wife. That goes for both people involved. What you are basically asking is it ok for you fiancee to get married to two women which is you and your mother because if you are still that attached to the umbilical cord then she is going to run your marriage because what ever she say or thinks mean that's what you are going to do, and if you love your fiancee, how exactly is that fair? You don't suppose to love your mom any less, but if you guys have that kind of love then she will always be there so grow up, let go a little bit, and try to have a life of your own so you can have a daughter with your future husband who will love you the way you love you mom. Good luck.

2007-08-08 06:49:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 3

I don't believe that it's wrong to love your mom for we are to honor our mother and father, But to say you love her more than your future husband Hard one, the love for our parents should be lots diffrent than the love you and your fiancee share this love between you two is to be intimate something that you dont share for parents siblings cousins etc. Ask this would your mother's needs come before ur husbands need? If so then it's not right. When man and woman marry we are to leave mother and father and cleve one to another the two become as one flesh. Would you agree wit ur husband putting his mother in front of you and ur kids when you have them. I love my mom and do everything I can for her but my husband does and always will come first.

2007-08-08 07:02:34 · answer #3 · answered by Jen 2 · 0 1

They're different kinds of love, so you can love him the most you would ever love any partner and you can love her the most that you'd ever love a Mom. You can hope that your love for him never conflicts with your love for her, but your honor for her (the old 10-Commandment deal) might mean that she had to come first sometimes -- and your vows to him will mean that he gets to come first sometime. Keep in mind that you don't want his love for you to be the same as his love for his Mom, right? Both of you will always balance your love for the people in your life, whether spouse, parents or kids, and will try to do the right thing by all of them. If everyone tries to act with love and not jealosy (avoiding that poisonous "You like HER better!), it makes for a stronger family. And your fiancee will be your Mom's son too...just like you'll be his Mom's daughter...ain't love grand! .

2007-08-08 06:53:53 · answer #4 · answered by Neonzeus 3 · 1 1

If I was your fiancee...I would be soooo mad!! I'm a Christian...so I have different views on it. In the Bible it says for the woman and man to become one. and you are suposed to leave your mother and father. Which means, your love, and your number one in life should be your fiancee...your family comes second because thats just the way it is. if i wasnt a Christian...i would probably say it was normal...but i cant see how it IS normal, since i AM a Christian...you need to talk to your fiancee...

2007-08-08 09:16:15 · answer #5 · answered by Teenager 5 · 0 1

Well the love for your mom and your future husband is different than one another, so you really can't compare the two.

2007-08-08 06:47:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2 1

i don't think so...its still LOVE, no matter who you love, you mom or your fiancee.

your mom gave you life. Period. Your fianciee, well its your Family :) nothing to add :)

2007-08-08 07:19:27 · answer #7 · answered by steven25t 7 · 0 0

I think that that is normal. I put almost all my family before a bf or whatever. And + it is second nature to (most) girls to cling or love them more than anyone else!! I say your normal, just don't tell your future husband that!! Haha! GL XXX

2007-08-08 06:48:15 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Froggi_Kisses♥ 2 · 0 2

What a wonderful girl are u. Remember this, your mum is the reason you can meet your fiance, she is the one make you breath in this world, she is the one teach you about love... so why not you love her more.. since she is the starter in your life.

2007-08-08 06:48:40 · answer #9 · answered by ironlady42 4 · 0 1

Yes its wrong if you love your mom more i dont think this is the right guy! and you shouldnt get married i think you should love your spouse more personally but maybe thats just me!

2007-08-08 07:09:39 · answer #10 · answered by Avaria 6 · 1 2

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