So, in conversation with a man he implied that it would be hard to date/particiapte in a relationship if I pursued this educational goal.
Guys seriously, do you agree or disagree? And why?
2007-08-08 06:34:38 · 12 answers · asked by fantasyisbliss 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Come on ladies, don't judge here.
Chances are he either has some sort of insecurity issues (he doesn't want you being more successful than him) or he's just scared of losing you (you'll be too busy to spend time with him). It's hard to tell with such little details, but do either of these sound possible?
Neither one of this scenarios necessarily mean he's an egocentric, selfish person. He may be talking out of fear, rather than trying to control you. You should definitely let him know that it's not his business to try to run your life, but if you can address his fears and assure him things will be okay, you may be able to have your cake and eat it too!
2007-08-08 10:49:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As someone who has recently completed a master's degree, I can tell you that graduate school does significantly limit the amount of time that a person has for dating. The demands of a master's degree are incredible, and if you want to do well in your classes, you'll have to devote most of your time to doing the coursework. Most people in graduate school don't have much in the way of social lives due to this fact. This could be part of what this man was talking about.
He may also have been implying that highly educated women have a harder time finding dates than women who stop with their master's degrees. It IS true that, the higher a woman's terminal degree, the less is the chance that she will be married. However, this is not necessarily due to the fact that she CAN'T find a man. A lot of highly educated women simply CHOOSE to remain unmarried in order to pursue career goals. For some of these women, marriage is just not that appealing, or necessary.
Take everything that man said with about ten grains of salt. Your chances of finding a man after your degree will be as great as you make them.
2007-08-08 09:06:10 · answer #2 · answered by Nerys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say go after the degree and dump the guy!! A person who truely loves you, loves you for everything that you are as well as everything you are not. Your partner should support you in all of your life goals - which includes your education. Yes a relationship is difficult while you are working towards a higher education but it is not impossible at the same time.
2007-08-08 06:46:40 · answer #3 · answered by siamsa_siamsa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to such garbage!!!!!! The more you do to fulfil yourself and expand your education the more attractive you become to "real" men.
True the burden of studying will cut down on available time for socializing but that is temporary. Pursue your goals.
Guys who prefer "bimbos" are looking for a victim not a true companion. I would recommend distancing yourself from said creature.
2007-08-09 06:36:33 · answer #4 · answered by Old Stray 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree that it would be hard, but it is certainly not impossible. It depends on whether you are able to balance your study-priorities and the amount of time you need to spend studying and attenting classes - with the time you spend with the person.
For me, it was even harder to do this, because i also have to work in the weekends to pay extra fees. It is hard, having to divide my time like this... but i do not regret trying it, and so far so good, my study and relationship is still going well!
If you know yourself well, you should be the one to decide whether this is possible or not.
You would also need a partner who does not demand more time and attention from you than what you have available.
2007-08-08 06:43:54 · answer #5 · answered by Artist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Masters degree - if this guy isn't supportive of your decision to better yourself as an educated individual; then he really isn't worth your time - granted, if you choose to pursue both at the same time, it will be difficult; it's all up to you! The Masters will last a lifetime, will this new boyfriend?
2007-08-08 06:43:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd need to get to know the man more ... if he was patient, kind, not boastful, or jealous, didn't take pleasure in wrong doings (himself or others), is pleased with truth, always ready to excuse, trust, hope, and endure what ever comes ... then the man would win hands down.
However, it kinda sounds like he's jealousy of knowledge ... which kinda kills the above stuff.
2007-08-08 06:52:19 · answer #7 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the degree!
Guys can be temporary, but the education will always serve you. Is he really worth it if he is giving you "implied" ultimatums because you want to continue your education?
2007-08-08 06:42:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he was a bit more intellegent and intellectual and a bit less insecure, he (the person youre dating) would support your efforts in your graduate program instead of trying to force you in the position of choosing him or your education...
2007-08-08 06:45:45 · answer #9 · answered by Dee_Smithers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys, maybe most, feel intimidated by an educated woman.
The important thing is to do what you want with your life and not let a man dictate your life.
Good luck
2007-08-08 06:41:33 · answer #10 · answered by Handy man 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋