i like to pay for things for my boyfriend but it seems like it is getting to be that i pay way to often, in fact the past few months i think there was only 1 time he paid for our food, and that was on his birthday, keep in mind i also gave him $40.00 in his card which most likely paid for our meal and his gas money to get there, do you think its right that i have to pay all the time? should i start leaving my money at home and just tell him im broke, cuz i might start doing that..
2007-08-08 06:26:30 · 30 answers · asked by Ally 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Leaving your money at home is a good idea. It will tell you a lot about your boyfriend. Don't just do it once, do it several times over a long period of time. A few weeks for instance. If he gets upset or has a problem with paying for your stuff then more than likely he's just a moocher.
I'm old fashioned and a firm believer that the man should foot the bill. Unless of course you each want to pay for your own.
2007-08-08 06:34:10 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Favorite this a thousand times. I strongly agree that in the beginning stages of the relationship the guy should pay for everything but once the relationship is established and exclusive that should end. I have been dating a woman and in an exclusive relationship with her that has went on for over a year and I m about to drop it because I am sick of bearing the financial burden of this. I am a great guy, a professional that is rather well off but so is she, I am sick of the mentality that I should be paying for every time we go out while she is buying high end shoes and bags and paying off her car or going for facials and manicures. I may not mind as much as I have come to now if she didn t want to go out ALL of the time, we only spend a few nights in a month at mos Don t get me wrong I like having fun and went out a lot as a single anyway but t. I think if she values the relationship but if she appreciates and values the relationship and likes doing these things I think she should be contributing as well. She is very good in a lot of ways which is why I have continued to do this and the relationship has gotten as far as it has but I cant keep doing this, and this is contributing to a growing resentment in me. So question... should I even attempt to have this conversation with her or just move on. I don t think having this type of conversation with any woman you actually have to have it with (because I am seeing a lot of women post that say they don t feel that guys should constantly pay for everything) would go over very well and probably lead to a tremendous fight and break up anyway, I m open for suggestions.
2016-05-17 06:27:33 · answer #2 · answered by lily 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no girl its not alright that you have to pay all the time at least he should be paying 50% of the time.girl why did u start doin that in the first place. you know its hard to break a bad habbit and its worse when you make someone else comfortable with ur bad habbit. but any ways what u can do to help is start small let him ask you out dont tell him ur goin out, cause he will expect u to pay. and when he does ask u out let him get the bill if he says he has no money tell him u only got money for ur food. stop putting gas in his car and money on his card he was maintaining himself before u came along. if he has a problem with ur new behavior i think he was never good for you in the first place cause he will want you to take care of him for the rest of his life.
2007-08-08 06:52:54 · answer #3 · answered by Kate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Allie, you do need to start leaving your money at home. Come on now, your boyfriend is taking advantage of you. Next time he wants to go out to eat, tell him your broke or your saving up for something. Or when you go out to eat, don't pull your wallet out. Let him make the first move. Please don't say you might just leave your money at home and really do that. You could get treated more better. If he starts to pay, then you know he appreciates your company.
2007-08-08 06:33:36 · answer #4 · answered by Miss YSL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you paying for everything. I guess I'm old school because my husband never let me pay for anything. Even if I was treating him he would get upset because the way he looks at it is he's the man and he should be paying. Tell your so called boyfriend you are broke and if he says he is too then he needs to get a damn job and take you out for a change. Nip it in the bud now. My ex-husband made me pay for everything and even griped when I needed to buy diapers for our daughter. That's why he is my EX. Good luck!
2007-08-08 06:31:01 · answer #5 · answered by Dani&Morgan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know another chick that is in this exact same situation. They both have decent jobs (her's is a LITTLE better than his). She had an apt while he lived at home w/his parents. The only thing he had to pay for was his Harley payment. Everything else went to his mom. The chick paid for EVERYTHING. And when her back was turned he cheated on her EVERY chance he got. She was the laughing stock of the people that knew her. Also - she was GOREGEOUS!!!!!, HE wasn't all that. So now they just got an apt together......we'll see how it goes. She is SOOOOOOOOOOOOOO insecure that she puts up with EVERYTHING from him and goes back to him EVERY time........
Is this the way YOU want to end up....?????
2007-08-08 06:33:13 · answer #6 · answered by barhopper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WRONG!!!!! If that's the way it is then he is just savoring the free ride. I would tell him that it is wrong and when he is ready to take some responsibilty in the relationship to let you know. There are ALOT of good guys out there but there hard to find. (Just imagine if you ever married the quy) No way
2007-08-08 06:32:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah well acutely it seems like he is taken advantages of that because he knows that you are a responsible person that would never leave home with out money just tell him that you need a man to pamper you not you pamper Ur man and tell him to get a job and start acting like a mature man who take care of his responsibilities and even though he is just Ur bf if he wants to get any further with u he needs to understand that well good luck babe
2007-08-08 06:32:10 · answer #8 · answered by ♥♥lala♥♥♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try talking to him about it first. Just let him know that you can't afford to keep paying for your dates and that it would be nice if he would help out. If he can't do that, then get a new boyfriend, he's just looking for a meal ticket. Good luck!!
2007-08-08 06:30:41 · answer #9 · answered by Vbonics 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dam girl tell him your broke and be broke for a long time lets see how long dude sticks around for you don't want to be spending money and plus if he is using you for that. Good luck and be strong
2007-08-08 06:35:05 · answer #10 · answered by Sexy Eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋