My husband has just told me not to stress out about it. I am not even on this account, I am his wife! Anyhow, she is also on his credit because he cosigned for a car for her. She was court ordered to refi but couldn't so he agreed to leave it alone so that she could have a car. Our bank account username is their initials still, I moved my money to his bank and he added me to this account, it is our primary one. She still calls him with personal issues. I have had it, I am angry, hurt and don't know what to do now. Help please. Other than this stuff everything is good. I just feel that he is still too attached, and I wonder what else is there that I don't know about.
2007-08-08
05:50:02
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Oh good grief! Tell you husband to get her off your blockbuster account. There is no need for her to be on it. When did he cosign for a car with her? If he did after you married him...then I say that he is a louse for not discussing this with you first. My husband told his ex that she could have the car....his name was still on the loan...but if she missed one payment...that he would have the care repossessed. This was way before we even met. If your husband is allowing her to call for personal issues and they have no reason to be talking....then he is disrespecting you. If on the other hand they share children...then there will be times they need to talk.
2007-08-08 05:57:28
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answered by Anonymous
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Oh who cares about a blockbuster account as long as you aren't having to pay late fees of hers...for craps sake get a netflicks account in both of your names and have movies sent to your home and never use blockbuster again. Simple solution to that one.
The car, nothing you can do about - they bought it before you were in the picture. You knew about the loan before marrying him - you don't have a right to allow it to upset you now. If it was such a huge thing to you, then you shouldn't have married him until the loan was changed.
The bank username. Like many things online, AOL for instance, once you set a username it can't be changed, your password can, but your username is permanent. My bank is the same way - I couldn't change it without closing out the account and starting a brand new one. Why in the world are you letting yourself get so upset over a couple of letters in the alphabet?
Your husband had a life before you - he didn't spawn up from the earth in front of your eyes, sometimes there is a small amount of cross over from one part of life to the other. What you are allowing yourself to get upset over is, in a word, silly.
A blockbuster account, a loan that has to be ridden out and some permanent letters on a website do not have some underlying meaning that he is not over his ex - or wants her back, or she is holding on - it is just technology being a pain in the azz.
2007-08-08 06:24:48
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answered by allrightythen 7
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I really believe that u need to make ur husband aware of how bad this is effecting ya'll relationship and explain that u understand that he had a life before u but now since u 2 became 1 he has to see things through ur eyes do u think he would agree with u remaining friends with an ex try not to make a argument but be firm with ur statement because his ex knows exactly what she is doing and also remind him that it must be a reason why she is the ex and ur the wife and explain the damage that he is doing to ur relationship
2007-08-08 06:00:58
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answered by craving cash 2
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You should not worry about this stuff too much unless what she does could hurt your credit. The other stuff is just petty details that a person should handle if they trust the other person. Over time, tell him you would just like him to start cutting all the ties to her, including being the one she calls with problems. Tell him in a loving way and ask for it to take place in steps over the next six months.
2007-08-08 06:01:33
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answered by Wolfithius 4
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I went through the same thing-
You need to tell him that she is not only his EXwife but, EXeverything!
She is his EX block buster account holder, EXbank account user name, EXeverything! Tell him that even though it might not be a big deal to him and may even sound petty that it is a big deal to you and it means a lot. Ask him to try to look at it from your point of view- if you had an EX and still had his name all over things.
2007-08-08 05:57:45
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answered by Anonymous
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Look, tell your husband to **** or get off the pot, severe the ties with respects to finance, initials on banking instruments and co signatures, she needs to get the vehicle refinanced or sell it, that's why they call it D I V O R C E, THE RELATIONSHIP IS OVER AND IT NEEDS TO BE GIVEN A PROPER BURIAL SO THAT HE focuses on the important things like his new marriage so he isn't going through the pain again when you put a boot up his ***. The man is a slow learner or very inconsiderate. enlighten him, it will only get worse if you don't nip this NOW!
2007-08-08 06:03:10
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answered by want2flybye 5
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Well obviously you knew all of this when you married him.......if he is still to attached to her. Do they have kids together? If they do then he is being a respectful guy for the kids sake. There is nothing wrong with that. BUT if he has no ties with her then she shouldnt be involved in his life at all.....unless they havent been divorced very long and he jumped and married you. If you knew all of this when you married him then its your fault too for putting yourself in the situation.
Just being honest
2007-08-08 06:16:29
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answered by oklasoonersgrl 2
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properly finished Claudia. If this does not take place on your credit record you're actually not accountable one bit for it.!!! the sequence company people paintings on value. Ask anybody they'll lie, lie, mislead get the money paid. Even after some people die, they mislead the relatives contributors tell them that the invoice is due. they're scammers, a hundred% scum of the earth. in case you touch them back, tell them you under no circumstances remembered even seeing a card on your call or maybe endure in concepts seeing his card. do no longer acknowlege the debt in any way or tell them which you will make money. tell your husband to look after this and report financial ruin if he has to. tell him to get a e book on financial ruin from the library or bookstall so he can learn the in's and out's before he is going to ascertain a financial ruin criminal expert. next step: Your husband is in hassle. while you're actually not in suitable words he could attempt to open credit on your call. hassle-free to do on the grounds that he has your ss variety. Did you bypass over your reviews? each account? make optimistic no longer something is joint. additionally make optimistic his call isn't everywhere on your checking money owed or low value costs money owed. exchange your beneficiaries while you're at it. you won't decide directly to try this - yet i beg you to do it. placed a FRAUD alert on your credit reviews. there isn't any value for this and justifiable on the grounds that your husband is in extensive debt. Fraud indicators are tense to eliminate however. You bypass back to each bureau in my opinion and you will locate it. while you're keen to pay, placed a credit freeze on each of your 3 reviews. this could value you approximately 4 greenbacks for each record. once you decide on a private loan or credit you dial a variety and quickly unfreeze your reviews so others can view them. money properly spent suitable now in case you question me. it is what businesses like lifestyles-lock do. They placed freezes on your reviews - yet... they value you approximately $a hundred greenbacks a 365 days to try this for you - that's all they do. notice to self- study this later - locate out why down is it somebody else?
2016-12-30 06:07:50
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answered by hostetter 4
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I would insist on being on all the accounts with him. If your married it should be you and him, not him and her or all 3 of you. She is in his past, your the present.
2007-08-08 05:55:55
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answered by the_wayward1 4
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