Is my husband using me? please help me figure it out please read.:(?
i got married arranged married to a man from fiji, so i brought him here to canada. he showed me so much love when we had just gotten married. so i thought its not that bad i can make this work.i did ssense him wanting to be incharge of everything. so i did fall in love over course of months he starts changing after 5 months being in canada. i see him trying to hide stuff from me. always making it seem like i have no business interferering with his family matters. i would practically beg for se'x with him when i wanted it. it was like he wanted se'x he got it he wanted to be the one in control of getting everything. sometimes he said i am tired back hurts. or i would cry he wouldn't care. he would say we are all miserable. and i asked him why are u miserable u are here in canada better than what u had before. u are still not happy. i feel like u are using me for ur papers. couple of times we fought about me feeling like he is using me and one time he took his green card and started...
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to leave. i ran after him looking for him.and this man portrays himself as sweet shy genuine type( u guys won't beleive that what extent he goes to for others to think he is good). 3 months ago i find out he loves porn. ok but i caught him with it. and other things like emails i never knew about. he knows everything about me. keeps me in check 24/7. now i realize that he hides more things from me. he was begging me to forgive him and said he won't look at porn anymore. he had yahoo IM with 2 women on there. he said they are from work. if they need me they IM me rather than calling my desk. from that day on he is extra special abt my feelings. how can he love me then make me miserable and when get caught love me again? do u think he is embarrassed that if i leave him what will his parents back home think or he mite not get his citizenship. or doe he relaly love me?
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2007-08-08 05:47:47 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Those are grounds for a divorce. I can't tell you what you need to do, if it isn't in your heart to do so. You now know what kind of man you have. It is a question of whether you want to leave him. I will tell you this... It will not get better. You've done found him out and your instincts are correct, he was only interested in one thing, and it was his citizenship. -Be careful.
2007-08-08 05:57:04 · answer #1 · answered by †Evonne† 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send him back to Fiji. He is just using you to stay in the country
2007-08-08 12:53:41 · answer #2 · answered by Alissa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick him out! Or leave him immediately, this is only going to get worse if you stay in this relationship. You shouldn't have to beg for anything.
2007-08-08 12:53:21 · answer #3 · answered by copperheadjft 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't go into an arranged marriage with someone i didn't know if i were paid a million dollars.
we don't know a person until we are around them for a matter of a year or more....
sorry but he's a jerk.
2007-08-08 12:53:19 · answer #4 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, kick him out and move on. You deserve alot better than that. If it don't come easy it is not worth saving. Good Luck
2007-08-08 13:00:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have never been to Fiji. What's it like?
2007-08-08 12:55:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
LEAVE him,the best for you.
2007-08-08 12:59:57 · answer #7 · answered by loverofSEV 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he is.....DUH
2007-08-08 12:57:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋