Here is a new one for everybody. My ex was in Shoal Creek Hospital (mental hospital) & she was there because she had been thinking about killing herself. They told her to get a room mate when she got out & that she shouldn't be by herself. In the meant time, her ex who lives in Kansas and has been there all her life sold the house and moved to Austin & has been here for a months now. My ex called me and wanted to know if I would take her back. We have been apart for 11/2 year now. She said we could go to couple's counseling. We tried that before and she wouldn't put in any effort, so I quit. I still love her, but is she nuts wanting me to take her back when she has moved the ex to Texas from Kansas & they are living together. She says they are just friends. The ex was one of our problems when we were in counseling to begin with. She was always calling the ex behind my back.
I would like to know what everyones feed back is on this?
2007-08-08 05:47:40 · 6 answers · asked by J.J. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
So she is crazy for wanting you back?
People can be cured from mental illness.
If she loves you and you love her, then try the counseling first and see how it goes.
I wish both of you the best should you decide to try to work it out.
2007-08-08 05:56:30 · answer #1 · answered by Here I Am 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she is just looking for a crutch. It is always easier to fall back on something familiar, than move forward. If she was sincere about saving the relationship she should have put forth the effort the first time. If trust was an issue then it probably will be again. It is hard to rebuild that trust. I believe if she was sincere, she would show you first (by trying to rebuild the relationship) before asking you to get back together.
2007-08-08 06:01:04 · answer #2 · answered by Mary O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really love her then taking her back would have to be on your terms and she would have to accept it. there would have to be counseling, no talking to the ex, and if there was even a half of a screw up, then the relationship is over and you don't look back. but you can only do this if you are being true to yourself by accepting her back. you can't take her back for any other reason than you love her and are willing to try again. don't take her back because you feel sorry for her. and make sure you feel strong about the boundaries you have to make in order for your attempt at reconciliation to work. if you let her come back and she screws up and you still keep her around, then you are the one screwing up now. take her back with conditions that she must follow.
2007-08-08 06:00:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Exes are Exes for a reason.....keep it that way.
If you take her back, maybe you need a long rest at the nut hut
2007-08-08 05:54:08 · answer #4 · answered by Greenie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your past with this ex is a huge sign- take notice and run for your life ( the other direction) ....
2007-08-08 08:55:06 · answer #5 · answered by beautiful diva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her the truth how you really feel and how you feel about the exs
2007-08-08 06:00:01 · answer #6 · answered by betty m 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋