If 2 people have been together for 4 years and have no children.. do you think they should get married or not?
2007-08-08 05:35:20 · 43 answers · asked by Dee S 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I was with my ex for 131/2 years without being married and I'm so glad today that we never did get married I now am free to look for the love of my life and try to work things out with him just because you are with someone for a certain number of years wheather or not there are children involved doesn't mean you should get married that's not a reason if you are going to marry someone make sure it's for all the right reasons not just for something to do make sure there's trust and honesty most important love
2007-08-08 12:18:57 · answer #1 · answered by sassysandyinmi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have u discuss having children I believe that a marriage that is stable before u have children is also a positive I am not marriage and I have children things just didn't work out that way for us but the ideal goal should be raise ur children as a family if possible I am not 1 to write that in stone but if u have a healthy relationship and u both have the same wants (children) then it can be a gift to u both children is a gift either way just make sure before u marry that u and ur partner has the same wants and needs and I think if u both agree than it is great that u took out time to get to know each other first hand then started ur family
2007-08-08 05:45:00 · answer #2 · answered by craving cash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not if they are happy with the way things are. I'm a Wiccan.. and our idea of marriage is different.. there are 2 kinds.. the traditional.. which is a one year & one day contract marriage.. open ended and renewable.. or the legal one forced on us by the states.. which is a lifetime commitment.
I am not sure that a lifetime commitment is such a great idea.. I feel that way about my mate.. but when I look at the statistics for my state, it is depressing.. nearly 2/3rds of marriages end in divorce.. I think that points to a problem.. marriages dictated by one religions ethics.. forced on everyone. I don't care much for that.
The known world was ruled once by religion.. and they called it "the dark ages"..
2007-08-08 05:48:49 · answer #3 · answered by aralissselundel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
after 4 years yes. Get married or go differ ways to find the person that they want to marry. If not ready after 4 years never will be so time to move on
2007-08-08 05:41:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOT !!! you don't get married because you've been together for a specific amount of time or whatever - you have to wait until it's absolutely, positively, 100% for sure, not even a small doubt the right thing and the right time to do it - id' wait until you're in your late 20s if not 30 - trust me - if it's meant to be then you'll still be together then - if it's not meant to be you'll have broken up by then and not made it messy t split up by being married
2007-08-08 05:42:17 · answer #5 · answered by lancej0hns0n 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage isn't something you do because its expected or because you've been together for "x" number of years - with or without kids. Its something you do because you BELIEVE in the future, and you believe in the person you're committing the REST OF YOUR LIFE to.
You never mention anything about love, commitment or any of the other things that go into a GOOD marriage, so if you cannot consider those things, then don't consider marriage.
2007-08-08 05:39:58 · answer #6 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if they are totally committed to each other and LOVE each other then yes I believe they should. Children is not the only reason for people to get married, that is supposed to be something that comes after marriage because they do love each other.
2007-08-08 05:38:39 · answer #7 · answered by mom of 3 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that is totally up to them if they want to get married or not. mainly is how they look at marriage and do they believe in it. If you and your companion feel50/50 about marriage, drop the whole ideal of it. only if the two of you feel 97.9% that what you want and going to stick it out when all hell break out between the two of you. Then go for it and I wish you the best of happiness together. yes..I do believe in marriage even if this country have the highest divorce rate on this planet!
2007-08-08 05:47:40 · answer #8 · answered by Thomas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think if you have put all that time and investment into your relationship now would be the time to get married. why wouldn't you get married we did this same thing but we lived with each other for 5 years and now we have been married for 2 years and love ever moment of it. but marriage is not for every one, i'm just glad we did
2007-08-08 05:40:19 · answer #9 · answered by DENISE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They should marry and have 22 children
2007-08-08 05:38:05 · answer #10 · answered by Buffet4life 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋