I am 21 and my boyfriend is 23 we've been together for 6yrs in October, and have lived together for three of them. I'm in no rush to get married, I was just wondering what ya'll thought might be a good time and how do you keep a long marriage together? Thanks ahead of time.
2007-08-08 05:34:16 · 30 answers · asked by soccergirlie1612 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow me and my boyfriend are in the same situation! Im 22 and he's 24, we've been together 5 years and been living together almost 4 years. Neither one of us is in a rush to get married, i mean we're still pretty young, but we've come to the conclusion that are relationship is so beautiful that when the time is right ,it's right.
I let him know that i'm in no hurry wat so ever to become his wife because I know that when he is good and ready to ask me he will, and of course i'll say yes. I just dont want him to feel pressured into marrying me cuz of ocurse that's the wrong reason to marry someone. So we both know it's in the future but we're not rushing it.
As far as having themarriage last, just keep doing wat ur doing now and wat you've been doing (cuz i mean 6 years wow!)and u'll have a great long lasting marriage! Good luck!
2007-08-08 05:41:37 · answer #1 · answered by [Lady D] 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The two of you should discuss your goals for your relationship, education, and careers. Make sure you plan well so that you will be financially stable in all that you do once you are married. It seems like you guys are really committed, whenever you feel the time is right, then take the leap. Trust, communication, respect, love, compromise. You have to be willing to do all of the above and even more to have a long, happy marriage. It will get tough, you will get stressed, but as long as you can count on each other to be there as a wife/husband should be...the two of you should be okay. Plus it doesn't hurt to have some type of relationship with God. We all know right from wrong, but sometimes we need a little help from the Man above. Good Luck
2007-08-08 12:40:51 · answer #2 · answered by Banorange 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talking to your BF would be a great start. If you both aren't ready but love one another then waiting isn't a bad thing. If he is ready and you are not then it could cause a few problems. Don't ask us ask your BF. I have been married for almost one year but talked to my wife many times about marriage before we got engaged.
A good time to get married is when you can afford it. If you can't pay bills and things like that...Dont get married. Not being able to afford marriage will only lead to fights and possible divorce.
Like I said above, talk to him..Make sure you are both on the same page. Make sure you are stable in every part of making a good marriage. Good luck to you.
2007-08-08 12:42:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll know when the time is right. Some people stay together for much longer than you and your boyfriend have and they're perfectly content. If you're getting pressure from family or friends to marry this guy, don't give into it. Marriage is a big step (as you well know) and only you and your partner can determine when you should take that step.
2007-08-08 12:36:49 · answer #4 · answered by Beth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
has he proposed? Thats typically the first step. Are you both financially secure? Weddings are extremely expensive in most cases 2k-15k+
If you've been together for so long already, maybe your guy views marraige as the beginning of a family - if he's not ready for kids... he may postpone this step.
And the key to a happy marraige is keeping eachother grounded - focusng on goals and making sure you care if your spouse is unhappy ! Unhappy people don't last long!
2007-08-08 12:38:37 · answer #5 · answered by mbschlosser 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, if I had it to do all over again, I'd have waited until I was at least 30. However, it's really a personal choice. I've known people that got married at 18 and have been together for many years.
2007-08-08 12:38:04 · answer #6 · answered by michaelyoung_airforce 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wel, I believe that once u r happy and settled and enjoying ur life only then u should get married. The best time is when u r financially happy, emotionally happy and r ready to get married. I believe the minimum age to get married would be late twenties. At least by that time u'l get the hang of practical life. Hope this helps. Good Luck! :-)
2007-08-08 12:46:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
most people would be too young to be married but you and him have lived together for 3 yrs.
obviously it's working.
Go for it .
Start planning to day.
Just remember a relationship/marriage is not 50/50
It is 100/100
Tell me the last thing that turned out great when you only put half of you best effort into it.
2007-08-08 12:38:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will know when you are ready. There is no unwritten rule about marrying at a certain age.
The key to a long, happy marriage is trust, understanding, communication, committment, love, and being willing to meet your spouse half way.
2007-08-08 12:37:13 · answer #9 · answered by endo_chic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well! You guys are on the right track. I'd recommend getting married when you guys have your careers set and you're financially stable. If you want a wedding, just know that they AT LEAST a few thousand dollars... the average wedding costs 20k, but my friend had hers for $5,000 and it was lovely. Good luck and I'm glad you are happy with him :)
2007-08-08 12:38:55 · answer #10 · answered by Cochy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋