I'm a mom of six already, plus a foster mom, and I think I'm pregnant?

Question

I'm fairly sure I'm pregnant (2 weakish positives), and to be honest I just don't know how to feel about it. I've already got 6 children, plus we have other foster kids quite often, my youngest was only adopted 2 months ago, he's only 11 months! Help, I'm kind of scared this time?

Thanks to the first two answers. I really hope somebody can be as helpful and supportive to you one day when you find yourselves in a tight situation.

did_u_no_wrong- last time I checked, men weren't the ones who had to go through nine months of pregnancy, and hours of agonising labour, but please comment away. Your wife must be a lucky lady.

And to all those who feel it is their duty to inform me how babies are made, yes, I made 3, I'm well aware. I'm also on the pill, and was about to get depo done. I'm a huge anaestheitc risk (tubal ligation), so would you suggest that my husband and I not have sex again until I reach menopause? Jeez, if you can't give some helpful advice, don't bother answering!!!!!

Jen M- I hope you don't fall pregnant too. Ever, lol.

Claire R- I'm so sorry to hear of your miscarriage. I'll pray for you, and may God bless you and your baby.

Answer 1

Hi Snickette,
I feel some of the posters on here should be banned from posting in this section. I don't have as many children with you but I am sure sometimes before this when someone said how do you do it and you looked around and saif whats one more. ( espescially from that jump 2 to 3 babies)
Are your other childrenold enough to take on somehousehold chores that you could start now to get into routine for the new addition. ?

I am a fan of whiteboards for the little things I need done, my 7 year old makes school lunches for his siblings and will turn on and off the shower, get the vaccum ready for me .

I hope this has helped and I wish you all the best.

love hugs and tummy rubs xx

Answer 2

We have 6 children and sadly, I am miscarrying a little surprise right now.

We were really shocked that we were pregnant this time (we used 2 types of birth control), but since the Lord created the little life, we knew, that with His help, we would be fine.

So will you! My children are 8, 6, 4, 23 months and twins that are 11 months. I also have an at home business and I homeschool 2 of my boys. I LOVE children and have a lot of patience. Other than that, I am just an ordinary human being! We are managing, and so can you. Just pray and the Lord will help you. It is HARD work, totally. But I cannot imagine them not being here.

I would do the hard work any day and have them, then to not have the hard work and not have them.

Every new child that we have add a new dimension to our family. Each one has their own personalities, talents and unique looks. Our family becomes a better family with each new addition.

Answer 3

With you already having this number of kids, you have a lot of patience! One more isnt going to make you go over the edge. You will adapt to the new baby fairly quickly. You may not think so now, but you will. After this one, I would consider getting my tubes tied....but that is just me, I have little patience compared to you. It drives me nuts at birthday parties. lol Just relax, you will adapt to the baby just as you did the others and just as you did to your foster children. I am glad to see someone doing such a wonderful deed by helping these children out. You are a wonderful person and mother. It will work out just fine for you. Just take it easy and slow. It will be a breeze for you.

Answer 4

Well, maybe this is lucky number 7. If you don't want to have more children, you should consider birthcontrol or talking with your partner about one of you getting something done surgically. You need to take responsiblity for you actions. If you don't think you could rear another child maybe you should consider adoption.

EDIT: Is it me or did you not come on here and ask for people's advice. Did you think people weren't going to have an opinion on it? Look, I can't imagine what it's like to raise six children, and I think it's wonderful that you have given so much and became a foster mom, you have been blessed with another baby, and you are in the situation so embrace it and take responsibility.

Answer 5

I know how you feel, I have 5 children already, and we actually went through a lot to get pregnant with number 6, only to discover that s/he had brought a friend too! Neither of us had even considered the possibility of a twin pregnancy and to be honest I am scared to death even though it was planned. Guess the only thing to do now is get on and deal with it, we are given these treasures for a reason, we will cope, don't we always!

Answer 6

it may seem like its not going to work and you may not know what your going to do now..just know that a baby takes 9 months before he/she makes their debut..you still have time to get everything in order and figure out how everything goes! Trust me all moms feel the way your feeling right now, but you will forget about it by the time you deliver! We'd all be screwed if babies came the same day as learning of their existance. :P Congrats though! Babies are wonderful even if their timing isn't right.

Answer 7

oh my goodness! I can see why you are alittle scared and probably upset too. I would probably go to the doctor and make sure first of all. Then you can decide what would be best for your family in this situation. Dont worry about what other people on here say. These things happen even with the best of planning. Good luck! and i hope it all works out for you.

Answer 8

What a trying time for you. Is it possible to bow out of foster parenting for a year or two while you get used to your new situation? I know those children need you, but won't you be an even better mom if you take some time to catch your breath and take care of yourself?

Take care and God bless.

Answer 9

Just remember a baby's a blessing! Really I don't want to sound like that Duggar lady, cuz I have 14 kids, but seriously this baby is gonna come here and be here for a reason.

Answer 10

You may have to try to give up a few of the fosters, have relatives/friends raise the new one until you lose a foster, or have an open adoption and adopt the new one out.