I am a good looking guy. The pretty females just dont want to look at me. Why?

Question

I realize pretty or cute females just date guys who are not good looking or just because they feel they dont deserve being with a handsome guy. I am a handsome guy but, I never had a girlfriend because one reason, I am deaf in one ear and heard of hearing in the other. Well, I do socialize etc but I have many theories in females growing up studing them and their behavior around males. I think I found out why females dont wanna look at a handsome guy... They are afraid they dont deserve them or just scared... like pass out maybe? A load of females that are below adverage just easily look at handsome guys.
I do see some females smile at me and stare at me but they are not my type... or are they playing a game? I see the type of females I am attracted to just become shy or hang out with jerks or really muscular guys...
My father tells me, if you see a pretty girl at the bar and she is not being talked by, its because the guys are scared to approach her... talk to her. Same for males...

Also... they type I that look at me are consider the "Hot Chick" group... I dont like that. Also, I have a good personallity... dont assume I am blah blah like them Jerks. Im consider the Nice guy group... Where I am coming from is college. Now its not just any college, its the Art Institue. I live in a dorm and I see what happeneds all the time.. When I walk past a pretty girl, she just totally ignores me... when I walk past someone below, they happly enjoy the sight. Then I see that pretty girl being hooked up by guys.. Hard to explain

I know I look handsome because people (women) older than me tell me that

Answer 1

Similar, but different in degree for males. Men are also intimidated by beautiful women, but even some nervous ones will give her a chance if she's nice. Even if she's not nice, she'll be more likely than a beautiful man to have suitors approach her. Women have less tolerance than guys for being intimidated, and they make (usually false) assumptions about good-looking men like that they have had it easy, are into themselves, or are a player. There's little more confusing than a nice, attractive man's chances with women.
Also, attractive women will not tend to show interest in a guy who shows interest in them, unless it's an extremely confident interest. No offense, but that confidence is rarely learned, so just don't look desperate and don't show any interest in attractive women, and that will increase your chances with most of them.

Answer 2

I know I tend to go for personality. And that generally, really physically attractive men and women don't develop their personalities as much, because they generally don't need to in order to socialize.

Looks are fleeting -- I want a guy with a sense of humor, a generous heart, a keen intellect. Looks are secondary. They are icing. Focus on the cake...

By the way, if you are as handsome as you say you are, the pretty girls are noticing. But they are NOT going to show interest until they can see what kind of person you are. They are NOT going to come up to you -- because they think you might be the kind of snob you think they are!

So here's my advice: don't let the fact that you are handsome be a drawback. Act as if you were average looking, and use your personality, your charm, your wit. Be warm, and smile, and the girls you want to talk to will smile back. RELAX. There is nothing sexier than a guy comfortable in his own skin. Learn how to chat about things you find interesting, and girls will chat back. And go after the kind of girl you want to meet. You should be approaching them!

Also, bars are a terrible place to meet quality women. When I would go to bars it was just to hang out with friends -- not one time did I ever give a guy my number there. Now, the LIBRARY on the other hand... ;-)

Answer 3

You are looking for a female at the wrong place. Bars are no place to be looking for a woman, ugly or pretty. I don't kknow where you got your idea of women looking at pretty or handsome men. Because they do and enjoy the sight. Maybe they don't get with you because your not their type. But just hang in there there will be a woman for you.

Answer 4

All surveys show that 'looks' are not in the top three attributes women look for whereas for men, 'looks' are the number one feature looked for in a partner. Your deafness is also a handicap. Being good looking may or may not neutralise this handicap. You need to be doing something more than posing if you really want to bag a prize bird - they know their value and wan't waste time on posers.

Answer 5

This sounds like you are ready for a commitment. It sounds like he is not ready and he is still on the sampler menu! If you feel like you want him to be more focused on you take the time for yourself and see what you think you deseve and what you want in a man. If you want a real futrue with him or someone special than you should think of how you want to spend your time- constantly looking over your sholder to see if the girl next door is creeping with your man or if you want a man who will keep his mind focused and treating you like a queen. I recomend this great book called "The Spiritual Fragrance Of a Woman" I love it! I will probably read it again. A few of my girlfriends have it and they cant stop talking about it! One of the ladies was having issues with Her BF and she found her self in this book she says that it has helped to bring back her peace and seeing that she should be treated better. That she has lifted her standards and is worth waiting for because she is truly a queen.

Answer 6

Your answer is in your question. You *assume* pretty women don’t think they deserve to be with a handsome guy like you, and that’s why they’re not throwing themselves at you. Maybe you treat them like they don’t deserve to be with you?

And the ones who look at you and smile just aren’t your type. Maybe your standards are set so high that nice girls who smile at you aren’t good enough for a handsome guy such as yourself?

Women go for men who make them feel special. From the way you talk about women, I wouldn’t go for you, either.

Answer 7

Women can detect a lot of things. Things they like and want...
CONFIDENCE- which you don't have. no no no, you my friend are borderline narcissistic- though you surprisingly admit a flaw in yourself- hearing.
See, in asking your question you establish yourself as something good and everyone who doesn't want to talk to you as being UNDESERVING or INTIMIDATED by someone with looks such as you! Wow, the self absorption.
I have no idea why you're asking a question. It seems you've figured out your own disillusioned answer and wanted to share it with the world.
Please seek help for yourself and the rest will fall into place.

Answer 8

People of similar attractiveness tend to be together much more cohesively than people of differing attractiveness.

Look to your friends to measure up your own attractiveness. Chances are, you're the average of their attractivenesses.

Then go from there. Don't go too high or too low.

Answer 9

Because to be a good looking guy it's not all!
A man who gives respect, gentle treat and sweet words will have more women than an arrogant one, besides his attractiveness.

Answer 10

hmmmm, how do you know you're actually good looking? girls are very picky about what they find attractive. you can't always tell whether you're attractive to girls or not.

i used to think i was really good looking and that the only reason i didn't get attention was because i wasn't popular, but i discovered that i'm actually not attractive by most girls' standards.