Well this weekend, my husband has been working side jobs and he had some girl in his truck and out of all people it was my mom, and sisters they seen them sitting in the truck together.. anyways he jumped out as soon as he seen my family and he acted like he was doing something else. He never once acknowledged my family he ignored them like they were strangers to him.. well later that weekend he would not answer his phone for nothing and then he finally answered the house phone and he was out of breath. I asked him what he was doing and he said that he was sleeping, I did not believe him, he kept asking how long it would take to get home, and he has never done that. Then the next day he tried to tell me that he wasn't sleeping he was hooking something else up. so I don't know what to believe. His answers just do not add up. Never in a million years did I think that he would ever cheat on me.. I just can not look at him the same. I have 2 kids 17months and a 5 month old.. ANY IDEAS?
2007-08-08 04:59:04 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
start assisting a magician and let him saw you in half
2007-08-11 09:41:23 · answer #1 · answered by R. Gyle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have learnt from past bitter experience that you need to trust your intuition. We women are usually right and are very perceptive about this sort of thing. If I was you I would not confront him directly but give him a little time to relax and let his guard down. Thats when they slip up and make mistakes that you can then collar him about. Signs to look for are... does he hide his mobile phone or keep it on his person at all times? Does he get text messages and not tell you who they are from or make up lame excuses? Does he get through a lot of mobile phone credit lately? Check the truck, is there any sign in there of anything dodgy? Receipts? Bottles of juice with lipstick? Hair on the seat that is not his? Does he shower as soon as he comes in? Is he doing anything that is not normal in his routine? Is he going to work for longer hours? Can you ring him at work and does he answer? Is he taking more care about his appearance? Is he making cash withdrawals from the bank which dont tally with what he is buying? Does he smell different? Is he still sleeping with you? Is he snappier than usual? Are there signs around your house that someone has been there that you dont know? Has he been doing his own laundry?
Trust your intuition but get proof before you confront him. That way you are in charge of the situation. Good luck.
2007-08-08 05:16:11 · answer #2 · answered by janey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A girl in the truck doesn't mean he had an affairs. It could be his colleague, friends taking a lift from him of all you know. Since you don't have concrete evidence. Find more clues & investigate further. Don't just jump to conclusion. but i guess it's not wrong as a wife you deserve to know the truth. It looks that you have a young kid. During pregnancy some men have the tendency of wanting to have fun outside. Pay attention to his emotions and needs. His reaction to you and the family. Have confidence in yourself cos only you could make the marriage work. Gd luck!
2007-08-08 05:09:08 · answer #3 · answered by Scorpgal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This does sound like cheating and lying. Lying is a vicious circle and he will get caught in his own lies. I would say get out or get some counseling. I would also try to find proof first, maybe come home early one day or something. But if you are thinking this is the case then it probably is. Woman's intuition is powerful. I would walk away before you get hurt more. SORRY!!!
2007-08-08 05:11:04 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ Nikkee D ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what men are capable of anything and everything. I know from experience.. U need to either follow him or get someone to follow him. Look at his cell phone bill or email accts.. THat's where u can find out everything, but always prepare yourself for the worst , when I found out my husband was cheating on me, I went into a shock. I negelected my kids wanted nothing to do with the world. It may sound stupid but it;s the truth.. It's awful.. I hate cheaters. They donot ever think about who they are hurting...
2007-08-08 05:28:47 · answer #5 · answered by Brenda G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I agree with you. But be very careful saying anything to him untill you have actual proof. If you are wrong, the fact that you are accusing could be as bad as him doing.
Now that said, if this is a new thing, and he is being so sloppy about it, you will catch him.
Set him up, I will be home in an hour, when your around the corner.
If it is happening a little creativity on your part, and you will catch him.
Hopefully we are all wrong.
2007-08-08 05:07:12 · answer #6 · answered by jlcjills 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if I were you I would go to the house we shared. Pack myself and the kids a suitcase. Put it next to the door. When he gets home or whatever say do you want to be in this relationship or not b/c if you have moved on then its time me and my children do the same. If he doesn't answer right away I would pick up the case and get ready to go. Dont deal with this crap and dont avoid it either.
personally i would leave either way b/c with me they are no 2nd chances when it comes to cheating. they are tooooo many STD's out there for me to deal with that crap.
2007-08-08 05:08:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is cheating! If he ignored you family, then he was guilty of something! If he says one thing, and changes it for the same incidence he does not remember what he has said. He is full of lies right now. Tell him that if he wants your marriage, then you and he need to go to marriage counseling. If he refuses, cut your losses and move on. You should not keep those children in an unhappy household. They will feel it.
2007-08-08 05:07:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are jumping to conclusions.
He could of been masturbating and doesn't want to tell you the truth. He could of confided in this other person then felt strange about. And yes he could be having an affair. You need to keep an eye out to determine the truth. Good luck.
2007-08-08 07:39:31 · answer #9 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have no doubt in my mind that he's cheating on you. and i think you feel the same way deep down. if i was you i wouldn't do anything to let him know you're on to him. hire a private investigator so that way he has no bullshitting out of it and so you will have a nice juicy case in court.
p.s., you gotta know why he was out of breath, right? and you gotta know why he wanted to know when you're coming home, right? i think you know. well, good luck and sorry...i can imagine how hard this is with the young ones. what a fool.
2007-08-08 05:11:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to catch him. Tell him you are staying weekend at your mom's or sisters house to....I don't know ..paint a room or go shopping with them. Phone to let him know that you are "out". Drive by to try to catch him.
I'd bet he is cheating or about to start cheating. Sorry. What a jerk.
2007-08-08 05:24:21 · answer #11 · answered by philosophy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋