My wife is doing strange things. I let her ex girlfriend move in with us for about a year and then I had to force her to move out Aug. 1. Now my wife wants to work where she works, she went to get her hair done at her house today by her exs mom and she has an excuse to be with her everyday. She is telling me they are just best friends but I just can not believe that. I have a trusting problem b/c of our past. I offered to get her hair done but she said no, I do not want her to work b/c she is ill and the dr. even told her not to. When her ex was living there she would stay up late all the time and now she comes to bed when I do. We fight a lot b/c I tell her all this and she tells me if you can not trust me you need to leave me. Please someone help me.
2007-08-08 04:54:55 · 4 answers · asked by luckyarborlane 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She is bored out of her brain. Invite friends and family over, go for walks together. There are plenty of activities you can do together that don't cost money. Spend more time with her. Be enjoyable to be with. Stop fighting with her. Make her life more enjoyable! She won't need the ex then..
2007-08-10 15:20:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm assuming your wife was/is bi since you said "ex girlfriend".
If this was an "ex boyfriend" I think everything would be a whole lot easier for people to pick up what is happening.
I would be straight forward with your wife. She is spending too much time with the Ex. Your marriage should be the primary relationship for both of you.
Her wanting to work despite Doctors warnings appear to be a sign that she is trying to gain some independence. Whether she wants this independence to leave you or just be a stronger person I don't know.
I would say look at your marriage and try and discover what the real problem is.
Remember that people want to be with their equal and not a servant that does everything they say or someone who tries to buy their affection.
Are you be her equal?
Are you saying "No" often enough?
Are you giving in to her whims?
Good Luck
2007-08-08 13:42:00 · answer #2 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has something deep going on with her ex girl and she can't admit to herself that she is hurting you. Best friends are nice but when it takes up time to where you only see her briefly, it's time to confront her for a final time with all of what you feel & see.
2007-08-08 12:03:36 · answer #3 · answered by pedebeed 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to leave her. I think she might be having an affair. She also seems a little manipulative.
2007-08-08 12:04:28 · answer #4 · answered by julie W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋