Teenage problems..................sumone plssssssss help?????????????

Question

i just want 2 know difference between love & attraction.... i am girl who feels that now its time 2 study & do sumthing for my family.....but suddenly my heart has started beating for sumone, i want 2 concentrate on my studies as i m in hsc now but these has put me in dilemma, i just want 2 avoid such feelings for anyone right now as it may be immature behaviour but i dont know my heart is not ready 2 accept this due to which i loose my concentation in studies....& if i try to forget him.thts not possible as i see him everyday....plssssss give solutions to come out of it

Answer 1

hey its perfectly normal
take a notebook and write down ten bad things about him
everytime you get carried away look at the notebook

Answer 2

Its very common problem in everybody's life and we all go through such dilemma. Honestly telling persons with these feelings are loosers. Its out of few bad habits which attract abruptly like smoking and drinking.Just get cleared first what is more important to u ..... yourself or ur family. if family i guess than just dont feel any good and bad about ur inmate.. Slowly you will start learning the art of true life where only family stands for u anywhere and rest just run off . Be patient and think you had been living without him and will easily make to some best point. By getting him you will not get aanything but will become responsible for him. slowly ur and his expections will rise and start getting into troubles.And never think you will get the best of a relationship i.e just love,everything is complementry in this world. Do reply by mail what decision you finally took......plz Hope for equal humainity in u...like

Answer 3

It's totally normal to feel attraction. Don't feel guilty about liking a guy at this age. You can still study, help your family and like a boy. Just don't get too serious or hurt if things don't work out. That's when you really need to make sure your studies don't suffer. By the way, just a suggestion: you really should use proper English when you type rather than that weird abbreviated texting language. Its so difficult to understand what you're asking and you'll never really learn to write properly.

Answer 4

Love and attraction... all these things are always common among teenagers as the emotional as well as physical growth takes place on a huge scale at this stage. You'll easily feel hurt by anything,you think is bad, that happens around you. Patience is temporarily withdrawn from their dictionary. People @ this stage just let go of their emotions and leave them uncontrolled by teenagers..So is your case!! The crucial part of the problem lies in how well you, as a teenager, can handle these unnecessary-yet-larger-than-life. (you know what I mean right??). Take some time to think over it when you are free..think about what really matters to you now(which you claim is your studies and your family well-being) and think about what really needs no head-breaking. If your boyfriend is going through the same phase discuss with him about what needs to be done. As teen you tend to get depressed on things like these...and the solution is?? Friends!! Make use of them and your parents to help you deal with the situation.

Answer 5

Hi there,

Love is something that is intense and a serious affair. While Attraction is a temporary phase when you like some qualities in the other person.

I think what you mention up there is attraction and not love. So instead of concentrating on that person for his charms to which you are getting attracted, concentrate on your studies.
The best way to do this by talking to yourself and telling it that you are made to get the best and this one is not the best. Since you have to seen him everyday, start finding negative points in him like he is not dressed well, he is egoistic, he has less manners, he doesn't know how to talk respectfully and like that and ignore him. Slowly but steadily you will come over your infactuation and concentrate in your studies.

Answer 6

You are not immature, sweetheart. You are possibly the most mature student in your school. You don't want to start relationships with boys because they will interfere with your education. You'll start looking around when you're ready.

Turning your feelings off, refusing to let your heart get attached is a great idea for now. You won't get pregnant, or have your heart broken, or have your grades sabotaged because someone broke up with you.

You just say to any guy, "I'm not doing the boy-girl thing right now. I'm getting a career first. If you still want a date in 4 years, call me. If I'm available, we can have coffee."

I'm proud of you!!

TX Mom

P.S. Love is something deep down in the soul which has grown and completely engulfs you. Attraction is just: "He's got great abs." Attraction is for the eyes, love is for the heart.

I spent lots of time with my husband before I fell in love with him. You want to know why? I wanted to be sure that he'd make a good husband BEFORE I let myself fall in love for him. When I felt peace in my heart (from God), that was all I needed to release my heart to love him. You can't tell me that anybody, anybody has a better husband than mine. And the love I felt the day I married him is only a tiny fraction of the love I feel for him today, 23 years later.

Answer 7

Hey girl!

It's okay to be attracted to a boy! Your a teenage girl, so your bound to like some guys, it's all part of developing and growing up!

I'm taking SATs next year, and two extra languages. I am totally hot for a guy, and I still have loads to study for. But I know I will be okay, because I know how to control myself, and I know where my priorities lie.

If the guy you like is intelligent, then ask him over for a study session, or become his friend.

You need a bit of a break from studying sometimes so you can get the best out of it, but DO NOT slack! Never procrastinate, know where your priorities lie. Don't blow off an assignment or homework to be with him.

Hope that helped hun, x

Vicky-xo

Answer 8

It´s normal that a teenage girl to be interested in a boy... otherwise, it would be really strange. You can´t avoid these feelings and all you should do is handle it in a sensible way.
If you like a boy you can talk with him and even meet him and be friends with him... you could even go out with him.
But you should be aware, that our studies have to be the most important thing now and make sure not to mess around with a boy who doesn´t respect you.
First check, if he is a good and reliable and healthy person, a good student. If yes, I can´t see the problem.

Answer 9

You will know that it is something special if he makes you want to be a better person. If he is the right one, he will respect the attention you need to put toward your studies and even help you out with them. If he has the same education goals in mind as you do, then you can both work together to acheive your goals. However, if you don't think this will work for you, let him know that you want to get to know him better. Remain close friends until the summer or until you are both ready to focus on a relationship. I hope this helps!

Answer 10

Dear..Please understand tha fact that your Hr. Secondary percentage is the basis on which your entire career will depend. People come & go.. So as the attractions in the Life, & these things will remain here at your disposal for your entire life.. But time does not stop.. It continiously passes..& sucessful persons make best use of their time, which Almighty has allotted them.. Your parents look forward to you.. & you should be responsible for them because you are in this world because of Them..To overcome these feelings.. You may try YOGA.. Start Mediating in the morning ..Less Movies /Less TV (At least for this Year)

Answer 11

its just an attraction. may be its Love but u ve to wait more .
Make friendships wid other guyz too....n dudes around ya ll . U ll get answer on ur own . If still u will ve a great n speacial attraction 2wards that guy then u ll be in Love surely . If its ur 1st time being in attraction with a guy then its not a LOVE, i believe !!!!
Infactuation,attraction cannot be Love ....Love is sumthing Special...its totally diff.....Love is Life.Love is War...Love is in the Air...Love is God, Love is everything...if u feel everything and he is everything for you then u might be fall in Love. So first make it sure about him . Go for his overall features .

gud luck ;-)