I had an incident with my husband on Sunday and he had hit me pretty hard on my back and arm, i had called the cops and they saw the bruises and took my hubby into jail. He got on Monday w/o having to pay a bond but we do have a no contact order. I talked with the judge to have that lifted so we can talk about our future and arrange daycare. but now i want to know how do i stop the charges from going through a grand jury etc. is that even possible? i don't know what is going on right now b/c no attorney has called me to talk about the incident and i don't know what happened with my husband. I talked with my dad and he said to give my husband one more chance, it was the first time and we've been married for five years. I want to give him one more chance but i don't know what to do about the charges. any suggestions?? we do have two children together and he is very close to our daughter, 2 and son, 5months. please help, i know it sounds stupid for a women to run back.
2007-08-08 04:42:50 · 5 answers · asked by z_girl159 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
You don't. Once you invovled the police it was out of your hands. The prosecution and continue their case and they do not need your active cooperation but can use you as a hostile witness.
Yes, it does sound stupid that you want to run back to a man that abused you, but professionally it is called "abused woman's syndrome" and not uncommon, which is why the laws are now as such that they do not require your active particitpation in his case to reach a conviction.
If you want to get your husband out of jail, borrow and beg money to hire an attorney to see if the charges can be plead down and that your husband enter an anger management program. In the meantime, contact Social Services and find out what programs you might be eligible for, like job training to support yourself in the event hubby continues the pattern.
2007-08-08 05:15:50 · answer #1 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Actually I would not say it's stupid to run back, sometimes when there is a family to think about especially if there are children involved who needs you. First I must say talk to your lawyer, if you do not have one I would strongly suggest you get one asap and have him talk to the District Attorney, the Distict Attorney will present the case to the Judge and have them waive the charges, in a cases where young children are involved they sometimes take that into consideration seeing that children do need their parents, but you first have to talk this over with your lawyer. Good Luck!
2007-08-08 12:54:00 · answer #2 · answered by paulette l 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Can't you just drop the charges? I think the basic thing is that he even dared to hit you.
2007-08-12 06:23:34 · answer #3 · answered by Kate L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a good attorney and learn to control both yourselves, Try anger management also it takes two to tango.
2007-08-08 11:51:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
just drop the charges
2007-08-08 11:50:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋