Seniors, if you're still married...?

Question

how long have you been married and what's the best advice you'd give newlyweds?

Answer 1

PLAN for alone time. I've been married three times and each of them suffered (or benefited) from alone time. My wife planned for nights out with her friends, weekends with our kids and time away from the house where she could do what she wanted.

I also had time for myself, time with the kids away from her, and even took the kids out of the house for the day to give her a day of alone time at home.

It's one thing to be together for the restof your life, but you have to remember that you are TWO individuals, with TWO lives that intersect - without acceptance that y ou each have differences and interests apart from the couple there can be no indivuduality. And without individuality there is a sameness which can stifle the relationship.

Answer 2

i have been married for almost 2 yeas so i guess I'm still a newlywed. the best thing i think people need to do before the get married is to make Real plans for their future,the biggest problem we have had as being a newlywed is i want a baby and he isn't ready. so just make good and realistic plans and stick to them and never go to bed mad, make things right before you go to sleep not only so you can sleep good but so the next day is a good one. oh yeah hehe! one more thing compromising with one another is very helpful, and i know that everyone is different and so (sweet) husband have a had time compromising but it you and help one another to understand the it will help good luck. the last thing i will say is pray together it is probable the most key thing. we haven't always prayed together and looking back on the times that we didn't and now that we do there is a huge different in our relationship.

Answer 3

I am not a senior, but my grandmother told me when I got married that it was about compassion, not passion. Her and my grandfather will have been married for 51 years this November. I can't really take her advise right now...after all I am still enjoying being a newlywed...if you know what i mean;)

Answer 4

Married 3 yrs. Whatever problems you have before you marry will be 10 times worse after you marry. Don't ever settle for less. Never marry someone who does not respect you and or your children

Answer 5

41 years to my first and only wife. I would tell a couple to do something before they got married. First, buy two cheap notebooks and two pencils. Each would take one book and one pencil to his or hers separate residence. Then each of them would write for an hour their response to the following two questions:
1. Why do I want to go on living?
2. Why do I want to go on living with you?
They would then meet and exchange note books to read what the other wrote, followed by a short discussion of same.
This gets through all the nonsense of what her friends think of him, what his friends think of her, what each of them looks like for a night on the town, etc. It gets down to the nitty-gritty. If they can't do this little exercise, they shouldn't even buy the marriage license.

Answer 6

You asked a bunch of questions in a row so here goes. We have been married for 31 years I think and advise is GOOD LUCK. LOL

Answer 7

Ben married to the same old sweet gal for twenty six years and we were middle aged when we married. My advise is for both of you to never, never, never expect your spouse to be perfect and never argue no matter what!!

Answer 8

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Answer 9

21 years married, laugh often, treat each other as you would want to be treated. Never play games with the heart, never go to bed mad:~)