Is my wife cheating on me, and how can I find out for sure?

Question

My wife and I have had a bumpy relationship the past year. We started dating 1 year ago and got married 6 months ago. My wife is into this marriage where she "does her things, I do my things, and if we meet in the middle, then cool." I never wanted this type of marriage. Lately, my wife has been getting calls at night that she wont take or I notice she calls her baby's dad alot when im not around. I have heard her v/m and he, who is also married with kids, has been calling her saying he "misses her" and calling her "baby." My wife says she loves me but i dont think she is in love with me. Should I take it how it looks and how should I handle this? Do I call/confront him about it? Should I call his wife and let her know whats going on?? Help!!!

Answer 1

Do not call his wife, she will find out anyway without you. People do some nasty things for revenge.

It is not worth living with someone that does not feel the same way. It was like h-ll for me when I ended a relationship where she was not in love with me. But as time passes it gets better. Now I'm in a committed relationship, it is wonderful. You might want to have the marriage annulled. If not get a divorce and move on.

Next time live apart from your love for at least 1 year before you move in or get married.


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Answer 2

Your wife clearly has something going on with her ex, who by the way, happens to be the father of her child... You didn't know her well enough before you got married, so that within itself is a problem. She says she loves you but her actions speak otherwise. NO, you shouldn't call the guy or his wife, what good would that do? And plus, you had an open relationship from the very beginning, now you're the one that's changing. She's simply doing what she's always been doing right? And now that you're opening your eyes, you're starting to realize that this is whack! So to answer your question, no she's not cheating on you, she's doing what she's always been doing... Hence the term, she does her thing, you do yours and you meet in the middle... If you never wanted that type of relationship, why, oh why did you get married to her knowing that's what she was into doing??? Why!?

Answer 3

Sounds like your whole relationship has been bumpy if you have been having problems for 12 months. Maybe some part of you really enjoys her challenge.....maybe there is part of you that is tired of it. I don't know what to tell you other than you need to make some changes if it is going to work. Stop meeting in the middle for one, although meeting in the middle is usually a good thing. You should talk to her, because in a good marriage the couple makes the relationship between them a priority. If she is not willing to do this with you, then maybe it isn't going to work. She might need to feel closer to you to get the ball rolling in your marriage...share your feelings for her, the love stuff the things you would like and are missing. See where it goes. Good luck!!

Answer 4

I'd confront her about it and tell her exactly the kind of r'ship you want and expect. The 2 of you need to get couple's counseling because it seems there is a fundamental flaw that the 2 of you see marriage in a completely different way. That's not something you can just get over through talking - you need professional help for that. And yeah, I'm guessing she's at least flirting with the other guy and that it could lead to an affair if she's not careful.

Answer 5

When you say you and your wife are into this? You do your thing, and I will do mine, what are you really saying? If your wife is receiving calls from anyone at home or on a cell you can check the phone numbers and see who they are from just looking at the bill you get in the mail, or online if you are able to use your online service. If you see a number that you know then you will have the facts, if there are unknown numbers on there, I would write them down, or scan the bill onto your computer and save it so you can look it over in private! Then research them online @ switchboard.com! There are some other signs to look for if she is cheating on you! I will put a link in where you can read it on your own in private! Just click on the link.

If you never wanted this marriage to be this way why did you both agree, you do your thing, I do mine? Any time you are in a relationship you should have open chats, and the respect for one another to not have to worry about one of you going outside of your relationship to seek out anything! You both should have open communications, on everything you do! If you do not talk about things and what you both want out of your marriage you always will have problems!

There is away to open the door on any commutations. You come up with a word that you both can use like example, boarhound, when you say this word you both should agree to speak openly and honestly with one another and agree not to get angry or upset! For this to work you both have to agree and you can not hold grudges! You must have open communication in a relationship, you can not read her mind and she can not read yours, so the only way to express what you was to get across, is to say it! I think it is time for you to be a man and step up and discuss with her the facts that you are not comfortable with in your current situation!
Good Luck, Rags37

Answer 6

You need to put the pants on here. She is married and that means more than the rent being paid. You should tell her it will end now. If she insists on continuing the ex relationship. Have her happy *** have a move right over to their house. There is many things wrong with this picture and you are being taken for granted. A marriage is a two way street and you have been kicked to the curb. Take your road back or lay down and be run over.

Answer 7

I think the best thing to do is to call his wife. But either be an annoymous caller, or tell her who you are, and tell her the situation. I would probably tell her the situation, and to not tell her husband that you called, just be suspiscous, and skeptical. Don't want to burn the bush if you haven't checked if it's dry.

Though if I were you, I wouldn't live in a marriage that way. Marriage isn't about "do things your way, I do things my way, if we meet in the middle, cool". I couldn't deal with that. Why get married then? Sounds kinda immature to me. Well, if you have anymore questions, or you want to talk on yahoo messenger

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Answer 8

I have read alot of what everyone else has said here and I do thing they are right and she is cheatting!
But here is what I really what to say! I am married have been for d4 almost 5 years now and I love my hubby with all my life! I get calls in the middle of the night from a really good male friend of mine really there are 2 males that call me really late one is married and one is getting a devorce and I am just there for both of them and they know to call me any time they need to talk! I call everyone baby and I flirt like there is not tomorrow BUT I DON"T CHEAT on my man! Just sit her down and talk to her and let her know what is going on with you and what you want to know just ask her!

Answer 9

Hello,

I feel like she cheat on you. But dont easily jump. First u need to check and investigate. You could be a detective.

Then, after u get the proof, you can confront with her.

You have to remeber when u confront with her, most of time, people will not admit it and most of the time also, they will putting finger on you. So be ready. At the same time look at yourself, maybe you also have made mistake.

At least, if you decide to get divorce, you will feel fully satisfy because you have done anything that you should do.

All the best

Answer 10

WOW, I always though the idiots on Jerry Springer were fake until I read this question.

1) Married after only dating 6 months
2) Referring to ex husand or girfiend as baby's dad.(Maybe not even a ex husband or girlfriend, then thats extra points)
3) Calling a married woman "baby"
4) You do your things, I do mine, we'll meet in the middle? I THINK THAT WAS THE TITLE OF ONE EPISODE!!