my STB Ex-Husb. & I have been separated for 3 months. he moved to another state to be with his gf whom is now pregnant. he comes here to visit his daughter every other weekend. a month ago, he called me talking about how much i still turn him on. we ended up sleeping together. AFTERWARDS, he literally cried to me telling me how much he regrets ruining his life, how much he regrets ever hurting me, how much he still loves me & misses me & thinks about me constantly. since then he's confided in me about everything ... including all the fights he & his gf get into, how controlling she is of him (& how controlling he is of her). he treats her 150% different (control-wise) than he EVER did me. he talks about how he is confused as to which of us he wants to be with. i think he believes he's stuck with her b/c she's pregnant. but it may not be his, he knows that & will get a paternity test. do you think he's trying to hint to me that he wants to come back?
2007-08-08 03:20:22 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
every weekend when he's down, he wants me there for the entire visitation, he lies to his gf the whole time telling her i'm not there. and sometimes he'll just pain ignore her calls because he "doesn't want to hear her". i hear all their conversations and 90% of them they fight like crazy. they are both constantly threatening to leave each other. oh, and him and i are taking a beach vacation together next month ... he chose it to be a weekend that was NOT a regular cild-visit weekend (by the way we do have a daughter together). maybe he wants to get caught? maybe not? i'm so confused.
2007-08-08 03:23:16 · update #1
wake up he's using both of you
2007-08-08 03:26:36 · answer #1 · answered by old man 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that there is always a point in which they want to came back !!!! But now what are your feeling towards him ? do you still love this man? And are you willing to go through the same things over and over? I think that if this man really wanted to be with you honestly wanted to be with you then all he needs to do is prove it !!!! I'm sure you've heard the saying Actions Speak Louder than Words!!!!!!!!
A baby will never make someone stay by your side no matter what even they belong to the person will they stay!!
So if the baby turns out to be his and he still chooses to stay with you he will still have to provide for that baby !!!! And if he is cheating on her to be with you...... then how do you know he wont do the same to you !!!!
You need to really think about all this don't get yourself hurt again!!!!
Best of luck !!
2007-08-08 10:42:31 · answer #2 · answered by mimi1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lady, please stop and listen to yourself for a couple of minutes. While reading what your question/comment about your ex-husband, I was shaken my head and how easy that you fell for it. He just realized that the grass wasn't greener than he thought.
1) he left you and his child to be with another woman in another state.
2) Now his girlfriend is having a baby, why open up to you about it. This is he choice, remember!
3) Oh, how he missing you and that he still love you. Great! He have gotten himself into more trouble than he bargain for. the heck with mid life crisis, that is a bunch of stinky socks!
4) Now he want to get you into his mess to help him to leave her like he left you? Hello!!!
5) He is so sorry, saying that the child is not his? Was she pregnant before him move there to be with her?
Yes, that is what I see from reading this.
The choice is yours if you want him back. But, take this into an account. How are you going to deal your ex-husband angry (possible exs) girlfriend and his child? And what is the chances are that he will do this again? Good luck !
2007-08-08 10:59:16 · answer #3 · answered by Thomas 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK lets simplify, your lying cheating husband, who is now a lying, cheating boyfriend with a pregnant girlfriend who may or may not know who her baby daddy is wants sex with you and is lying and cheating to go on vacation with you.
OK, take him back and when he goes to his gf on alternate weekends what are you going to do? Picture him in bed with her, that's what hes done with you when he came to 'see the kid'.
Hes not hinting, hes telling you pretty flat out he wants to come home, but you should know the man who cheats will always find an excuse to cheat again. Maybe that doesn't bother you. It would me.
He was in love with the illusion of a mistress with no obligations, now his mistress has turned into an obligation. Now he wants to go back. You really want to let him?
Your decision, you want to go through this again, fine, but keep him on a short leash, and tell yourself than if you ever find out hes roamed again hes out. Or tell him you aren't into sloppy seconds and he better wait out his paternity test and find some other place to lay his head at night.
2007-08-08 10:33:16 · answer #4 · answered by justa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think if he really really wanted to be with you he wouldn't be with her at the same time. He would have left her by now. Especially if he wasn't sure that he is the father of their future baby. She doesn't know that you're spending time with him while he visits your daughter because he doesn't tell her. It means that he doesn't want to break up with her at the moment. He is staying with her because he isn't sure he will convince you to come back to him.
I wouldn't stay with such a man. He is using both of you. I wouldn't sleep with him either. He tells you they don't get along well but he is with her now. That's his reality.
To answer your question... yes, he is trying to hint that he wants to come back.
2007-08-08 11:02:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no way I would let this guy back into my life. He wants his cake and eat it too. He cheats on you with her, gets her pg and then now he is cheating on her with you??? What a lying, cheating,dirty dog he is. I would so leave him with that other gal, whom he deserves to be miserable with and just flaunt in his face what he gave up, every time he comes to visit his daughter. But I would never let him touch it again.
Don't let him play this game on you, using your heart strings against you. Accept who he really is and leave him behind. Be strong and don't give in to him ever again.
2007-08-08 10:35:26 · answer #6 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah probably but there is a big problem here. There is a difference b/t breaking up with you and discovering other women are worse than you (duh you could have told him that one) AND having solved the problems that made you want to get divorced in the first place.
If you want to work it out, drag him to counseling to see how sincere he really is. Merely my other girlfriend sucks is NOT a reason for wanting you back. Make sure you want him back before you agree out of pity.
2007-08-08 10:28:09 · answer #7 · answered by phantom_of_valkyrie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No only if he says he wants to come back..... and asks u to come back how silly in all he could be goin thru a mid crisis and decided to be somewhat of a player...
2007-08-08 10:26:16 · answer #8 · answered by Elizabeth M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he screwed.up why r u letting him hurt you again..like this..get a divorce and move on...dont take on his burdens because he's reaping what he sowed....get that man out of your bed..remember why u left
2007-08-08 10:30:01 · answer #9 · answered by *** 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
they all want to come back at some point. so yea probably but you have to decide if you think he is sincere.
2007-08-08 10:23:25 · answer #10 · answered by sarcastic 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋