I found this out because when they broke off, because he met me, she started dating his best friend. His best friend told me that my honey still saw her for several months after we were together. I am upset, what would you think?
2007-08-08 02:28:06 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I guess I would be irritated that I never knew, but if you have been together for 5 years, I would call this water under the bridge and forget about it.
2007-08-08 02:32:04 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's never a good thing to start a relationship off of lies and deceit. With it being so long ago it makes you wonder if you should even be mad or upset. If you are feeling upset, you have every right to be because the trust in some ways has been broken. Have you talked to your husband? I really don't know how your marriage is now. It may have been that he was too immature back then but has changed now. I think you need to discuss this with your husband and you guys can work through it together.
2007-08-08 02:37:16 · answer #2 · answered by Shelley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are married (for better or worse), you need to decide if you are going to put it in the past or let it hang over your heads for years to come. Hanging onto this can ruin your life together. Letting it go as the past will allow you both to move on and live a happy life. It's really your choice. I've seen people break up years of happy marriage for what this exact reason, even though they loved each other completely. It was usually just going out in the beginning when neither were exclusive. Do yourself a favor. Don't hold onto it or bring it up as ammo in future arguments. Let it go and decide to be happy with your man.
2007-08-08 02:39:08 · answer #3 · answered by Staveros 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, it was five years ago. You weren't married then, you were dating. Maybe he was still going through that phase of not quite knowing who he wanted to be with. You didn't own him, he was still a free man, and trying to work things out in his mind. OK, you got him, you are married, and you haven't said that he's a "bad husband" so I take it you are very happy.
Your husband's "best friend" isn't much of a friend. He should have kept his fat mouth shut. It was not his business to be gossiping this stuff to you, and it's pretty shameful. Forget it, pretend you never heard it, and get on with your life and your marriage. It's gone, it's in the past. You have a future to build.
2007-08-08 02:36:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In the beginning was the beginning and now you are where you are now.
I think you are so hurt because even though that was a long time ago, you just found about it, and now it's today.
I think you need to ask yourself would he cheat on you today and do you totally trust him.
you could also discuss this with him now that you know and express to him that your hurt by this information but it is very important for this not to ruin your marriage.
leave it go and look at today and your future.
you are together now and in his eyes you were the better choice.
good luck.
2007-08-08 02:36:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never condone or support cheating but it's best to leave that in the past; he CHOSE YOU, not her and that was a long time ago. Sometimes men have commitment issues and they mentally rebel against monogamy before they are able to "throw in the towel" so to speak. If he has not cheated on your during your marriage and this offense is over 5 years ago-move on.
2007-08-08 09:41:37 · answer #6 · answered by mommylady74 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the right to be upset since he lied to you, BUT that's 5 years ago, I'm sure you are happy with him and he is happy with you. You found out, you've talked about it, now get over it! Don't dwell in the past.
2007-08-08 02:57:27 · answer #7 · answered by July Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand you may feel alittle upset but, it's been five years and he married you..You can't change the past so why stress yourself..Focus on what's going on in your life today..If things are good between the both of you then that is what should matter..You should let him know though how you feel and mmove on from there...You shouldn't keep this to yourself and he should know how this hurt you and you understand it's in the past but, you wanted him to know...but, don't let this be an issue between you and him...If you really think about it, it's you who he chose at the end....You are too worth it to let this get down you down....Be well***
2007-08-08 02:48:02 · answer #8 · answered by Yvette D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let it go. it was so long ago that it's not worth discussing at this point. 5 years ago he probably didn't know you that well and didn't care about you that much. but now, he does and has for a long time, so why should this even be an issue. that would be like him being mad at you cuz you didn't love him the first time you met....what's the point in even talking about it?
2007-08-08 02:38:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be a little upset but that was 5 years ago. Obviously, he made the right decision to stay with you.
2007-08-08 02:33:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋