I have a friend guy, that I really like. But because I can't read signals very good I thought that he didnt like me. I think that I really hurt him by alot of the things that I said. I sent him a email telling him everything that I thought he had done wrong to me. But then he sent me a reply, saying that he thought everything was going good, and that our friendship was very unique. But I think that I hurt him, because he said that he was shocked by alot of the stuff that I said. I in no way meant to hurt him, but I just realized after reading his reply, that I had misinterpeted some things. He is really a Wonderful person, I would love to one day possibly have a relationship with him. I am just wondering did I hurt him to bad for him to want to continue a friendship with me. In his email, he stated that he wanted us to keep in contact, and he didnt mean 2 hurt me if he did. He says that are views are different.I apologized, but what else should I do,should I let him take the next step.
2007-08-08 02:21:58 · 6 answers · asked by Kay 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am confused. Just b/c you can't read signals is no reason to send a list of complaints on everything he has done wrong to you. I know this wont get best answer but you are not ready for a marriage minded relationship (marriage category) b/c of the fact that you actually keep a list of everything the other person has done to hurt you.
You have got to grow up and let these things go. People who love each other accidentally hurt each other but you didn't see him replying back with a list of every mean thing you've ever said to him. You say that he wrote back with your views are different. I bet that means he is moving away from you after realizing you aren't the girl he would like to date.
I don't think you have to worry about him taking the next step. You should move on if you think he is so wonderful. Why would you even want to date someone you had a litany of complaints against?
No I doubt doing that hurt him so badly that he never wants to talk to you again. I'm sure in time you can get your friendship up to the level it is. But I think you opened his eyes as well. When someone you care about hurts you, you need to either be open about it and discuss it or brush it off. Saving it up for a big argument is not the option. Read Fighting Fair or take a quiz on Do You Fight Fair, cause your current method is not going to work for successful relationships.
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2007-08-08 02:36:48 · answer #1 · answered by phantom_of_valkyrie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 21:29:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi
I think that you two are really goo dfriends and will become something more if you want it to happen, go ahead and let him take the next step, it will develop into a relationship
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2007-08-08 02:26:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
show him whatever you wrote here. and tell him you like to have relationship with him.
if he is really that caring to you, he will not look down on your expressing your feeling, anyway what do u have to lose?
if he can't respect you for doing that, he doesnt deserve to be placed as a wonderful person in your heart.
2007-08-08 02:28:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
no guy dont rembmer that stuff to long and stop emailing he talk to him face to face or on the phone.
2007-08-08 02:27:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should discuss this face to face so that he knows exactly how YOU feel and not someone eles!!
2007-08-08 02:39:58 · answer #6 · answered by lilly l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋