Is My Wife A Selfish B*tch?

Question

We went out last night to our favorite bar and after we had a our steaks she said she wanted to go to another one nearyby.

So we went and she said she was bored their, we went back to the first one and I thought we were having a good time.

Then she tells me if I wasn't with her she wouldn't be bored because she would be going around talking to all the men. I told her to go for it if that's what she wanted, but she said she couldn't because I was their and she would feel bad.

I asked her if she wanted to go out without me and she said no.

I try and do everything she wants, which is all we do.

What's up with her?

Answer 1

Don't give her the opportunity to act that way for a while. She needs to form a new since of dedication to you. You sound like a kind and lovely man, however sounds like she needs a head full of worry over you to get her head back into you and on track. Do some things that give her cause to look at what she has, misses you doing and when she mentions it, tell her that the comment she made the last time you were out was way, WAY out of line.

Answer 2

She actually said that? Sounds like she has no idea what marriage is. It sure as heck isn't flirting with guys in a bar.

Perhaps you do need to socialize more to have a "good time" maybe go out with a group of friends.
But her flirting is a bad indicator of things to come. A few drinks, a charming man, a good conversation and she's in the sack with another guy.

Answer 3

If she's always that way..... she'd probably complain no matter what. If she was just moody that night... forget about it.
One thought I had when I read it is that perhaps you go along with her too much... maybe she'd like you to come up with some new ideas and be more assertive about what you want to do. . I get bored when a man goes along with everything I say all the time.

Answer 4

This is your wife? i thought you got married because you found the man you wanted to be with and you discontinue "playing the field" I would suggest that you take a long hard look at your marriage and figure out if its worth going any further. But then again it all depends on you ..if you want your wife cheating and flirting with all sorts of guys than "more power to you" I know i wouldnt like that.

Answer 5

Yes, your wife is a selfish B@#ch.She obviously doesn't care about your feelings you guys need to have a serious talk about where your marriage is going.Dont let the sun go down another night without getting it straight.Either she wants to be married to you or she doesn't.FIND OUT WHATS WRONG!

Answer 6

Wow, she doesn't sound like a very nice person, let alone a very nice wife. It sounds like she doesn't respect you at all. I think you should have a frank talk with her, and let her know that you want some respect - but you also need to agree to give her the same respect. Have you thought about marriage counseling?

Best of luck to you.

Answer 7

Have you asked her why she feels the need to go around and talk to ALL the men in the bar? Your are her husband and she was with you last night she sounds like she wants her freedom. You sure she wants to be married? If she does then she needs to start acting like it.

Answer 8

Yes, she's selfish. Quit doing whatever she wants. Think about yourself. Tell me this. How would she feel if you were out without her talking to a lot of women? She might just want to make you jealous, but that can backfire on her. Sit her down and talk to her. She needs to remember the golden rule.

Answer 9

I think you've already identified part of the problem... "I try and do everything she wants, which is all we do."

Without more details about your relationship history, I can't really say much except that.

But, in my personal opinion, bar-hopping and alcohol are not the answers to unhappy relationships. Try doing other things, and to make friends with some happy couples that you can socialize with.

Answer 10

Sounds like she doesn't respect or honor you at all. Your marriage should be built on a foundation of friendship and with that comes respect and honor for each other. Seems like her philosophy is "it's my way or the highway". You guys need to sit down and seriously discuss the boundaries of your marriage. Have you thought about counseling? That may be helpful.