OOPS! You guys are smart! I staged the question wrong so we will try again!
I still love someone that voted to ban gay marriage. They still love me, they want me to be happy, but they don't agree I should get married.
Has this ever happened to you? Have you deleted people you love for disagreeing with your lifestyle?
There, that's better! LOL
2007-08-08 01:53:57 · 14 answers · asked by gochefs (Geo) 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
As I tried to say, No I wouldn't and no I haven't. As a wise man once said "I may not agree with what you say but I will defend to the death your right to say it."
I do not "delete" people I love for disagreeing with me. That's childish -- although I do have an elderly Aunt who will not budge once she's made up her mind. I tend to avoid her company simply because it causes me and my parents pain because she's so nasty.
I beleive a person needs to be culpable for the words they speak. Thy can't spew hatred and simply walk away thinking they've done nothing wrong. That's where their freedom of speech ends and mine begins. It's almost as if they've raised their hands to slap but have done it with verbalizations instead. I think you get the picture, my Dear.
I've only once had someone distance themselves from our lives -- because of our lives. The best friend of my Partner's dropped right out of our lives because she told us we were going to hell just after she found out we were a couple. Before that we'd had a great time at a picnic and Truckinotter felt the time was right to tell her. Truck still doesn't speak of her anymore.
If words are meant to hurt one should take responsibility for them. If you love someone who voted to ban gay marriage then you Love them with all your heart. maybe you can change their opinion. I can always Hope. (Hope and Love are the best things in life! -- well, outside of Truck)
Good question, Dearest.
2007-08-08 02:14:52 · answer #1 · answered by Mama Otter 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, it would take a lot more than that to get me that angry.
Especially a family member or very close friend.
Also, being gay isn't a "lifestyle" it's simply a part of a LIFE.
It's not anyone's whole life, or what their lives revolve around. It's just a small part of what makes a person who they are.
I also have a problem with people who continue to fluant their having been duped by the "religious-right" (which is neither) into believing "Holy Matrimony" and "Legal Marriage" are the same.
They're not and let's please try to remember that.
"Holy Matrimony" is a RELIGOUS institution.
"Legal Marriage" is a Legal, Secular, Contract!
2007-08-08 02:12:36 · answer #2 · answered by DEATH 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think the larger problem is the fact most people don't agree with it being called "marriage". I do think that there should be a way that same sex couples can get the same benefits that married couples do without calling it a "marriage". Most of society believes that a marriage is between a man and a woman so if there was a way to call the something else but that the benefits such as tax credits, health care, retirement were the same, I now for myself I wouldn't have a problem with it. My husband and I do have gay friends however they call themselves "domestic partners". And my husband and I do acknowledge them as a couple. We cannot pick which direction our hearts go.
2007-08-08 02:09:05 · answer #3 · answered by Awdrat 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If it's just disagreeing on gay marriage, but I would be pretty disheartened about it.
If it's about the broader issue (your lifestyle), it gets stickier. Immediate family is hard to walk away from, and you unless it's absolutely necessary, I wouldn't. Friends or distant relatives - depends on the level of disagreement.
Sucks no matter what it is, though.
2007-08-08 03:38:38 · answer #4 · answered by Clint 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody has a right to their opinion even though you might not agree with it. You two can still be friends but just agree to disagree and not to ever talk about that subject. That is how I had to handle a sinsitive matter in between two dear friends of mine that used to be friends with one another but now don't like one another.
2007-08-08 03:11:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea I think everybody has dealt with that once before in their life. You just have to explain to them that you are going to do what makes you happy and if they want to support you in that then thats fine but if not you tell them you hope that you can still be friends. I don't think I would cut them off all together though.
2007-08-08 02:55:11 · answer #6 · answered by Mama Bear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, if I love someone I love them unconditionally even when I cannot agree with them. It would hurt me a great deal but I would get over it in time.
Honestly I think being a father has taught me a great deal about loving someone you want to smack the crap out of even now and then :-)
2007-08-08 02:17:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, I wouldn't alienate them, they are entitled to their own opinions. I believe it is their right, but its how you accept their point of view, for me I would just let it go and not worry about it, especially if they are still happy for you and love you, after all it is your lifestyle, so just let them have their say and do what your heart tells you.
Good Luck.
2007-08-08 02:11:16 · answer #8 · answered by mrlonely_solonely_immrlonely 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It wouldn't be a complete love/trust relationship. Why do they love you but not accept people like you? I've cut most of my family out of my life for not accepting me, however I would never suggest cutting people out of your life because they don't completely agree with you. It makes for a lonely life. :-) Happy Arguing!
2007-08-08 06:50:35 · answer #9 · answered by I only love you when I drink 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course not. Alienating people based on their differences is better left to the Christians.
2007-08-08 02:16:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋