My husband is spending our money?

Question

My husband and me just got married last mnth but he spending our money and I not sure where it is going because there is nothing to show for it But the huge problem is that our rent is late because he did this last week to and the week before and we had 250 set aside and today I found out that all he has left is a 100.00. He says he spending it on things we need if that is the case why did I have to pull money out of the christmas funds for diapers and milk. What is going on. HELP ME!!! He won't hand his checks over so I can manage the money we have 2 kids and we can not be on the street because of this.

Answer 1

I sympathize with you on this one. I went through the same thing with my husband when we first married. do you have a job? If so, then you need to put your money in a seperate checking accout, no matter how mad he gets. If he is unwilling to give you enough money to help pay for rent, utilities, groceries, things of importance, then you might need to consider anothe part time job somewhere. I know you have 2 kids, maybe a relative or friend can keep them for you so you won't have to pay for a sitter. Maybe you can pay them back in another way. If you're husband still insists on not handing you over his money, then you need to tell him that you can't live that way any more and that you are going to find another place where you and the kids can live. Maybe you can get some help from social services (WIC, food stamps, etc ) until you can get on your feet again.
Good luck and God Bless.

Have a sunny day.

Answer 2

hi krista, sorry to hear about your money probs. first of all i am sure you aware having financial problems can ruin any relationship...and not bud into your life, but you just got married and should not have to go thorugh this or worry. I am with you all the way. Okay....are you not on the bank acct? because if you are you can find out what he is spening the money on. does he bring things home he spent the money on? If so find the receipts and return them. That should teach him...does he work? I am not is easy for me or anyone to point fingers, but you have to take control....talk to him about it, tell him you are just worried about your kids and like you state here, you don't want to end up on the streets. Find out why he will not hand over the finances to you...seems like there is more than meets the eye. I had this problem only once, and I wasn't married,.....but he blew everything we had and eventually we got evicted....we ended up breaking up and I ended moving back home with my parents and my 2 children. I have never made that mistake again. A marriage is a joining of two lives and everything that comes with it.

Good luck.

Answer 3

My X husband was the exact same way. He pretty much would spend my entire check every week...over $300.00. Part was on booze and lunches...but he had a terrible habit of what I called "browsing" the convenient store. He couldn't go in and pick up just one thing...he had to make it worth the while and this was EVERYDAY!!!! He put me so far into debt, that even after 2 years being apart...I'm still paying for it! We almost lost our house, our cars. Finally I was just over it, when he wanted to refinance the house, I said fine just take my name off of it and quit putting my check into the checking account and started paying for my car and own insurance. NEVER again will I combine my income with another person. 50/50, if we both can't afford it then we won't have it. My credit score went from 750 to less than 500 in less than 2 years before I finally left him. Horrible experience.

Answer 4

Wow , make a budget here and write down everything that has to be paid for have him look at it so he understands where the money needs to go, is the money going in a check book, good way to keep track of the cash, this problem is bad, and will cause all sorts of problems in the marriage as you already know. Make a list of the bills,.. have him help you with it weather he likes it or not, write the bills names when it's due amount due and stick with the list.

Answer 5

This is one of the many reasons why my ex is my ex. He would take money and not tell me what it was spent on. I finally figured out that he was going to a strip club and using the money. At one point he even told me that he was secretly sending it back home to pay child support. What a lie! And then it got even worse. I was the only one working to support our two kids and he was still taking money out of the checking account. I am remarried and my husband's check is direct deposited into our account and I handle the money.

Answer 6

Something has happened all of a sudden, and you have to be suspicious until you know the truth. Is he helping someone with money, have a gambling problem, seeing someone? Tell him that it can't happen again or that you and the children will be gone. He has to know that you mean business.

Answer 7

You can't live like this. He has to commit to paying the rent. You must have a roof over your head. Talk to him but if he keeps doing this you may need to leave to make your point. Be prepared to do that.

Answer 8

Do the same thing but put the money aside if he ask answer him like him will do....maybe he has a gambling, drug or prostitute problem?

Answer 9

Just as you should not have had 2 children by a man you weren't married to, you should not have married a man who behaves like a child. Better plan on a rocky marriage, girlfriend!

Answer 10

It sounds like you got married without any sort of financial rules set in stone. '

Sit him down immediately and tell him this will not continue. If he doesn't listen, call a financial counselor in your area and see what they have to say about talking to him.