What should I do please?

Question

My ex-boyfriend broke up with me half a year ago. It has been so hard and so hurtful. I tried to move one, I have told him that the only way for me to feel better is to cut all contact with him. He did not understand and he was actually telling me that I am cruel to do this. Everytime I distance myself because it's so hard, I still love him, he begs me to answer and to talk to him. He says he has a hard time as well. We agreed to meet and I have booked my ticket to go and see him. He asked me today if I already booked it and I said yes. He said he is annoyed as he wants to go his friend's birthday party and now he cannot as I have already paid for the ticket. I feel so upset. I told him that he should go to the party and that I cancel the ticket. He is saying that he can't do that but he is upset he can't go to this party. I dont know what to do. He wanted to meet to talk about everything face to face but now he wants to go partying instead? What should I do?

Answer 1

actually, only you can answer your own question. nobody here at yahoo answers can tell you what to do. we can give some advise and suggestions, but in the end, it is YOU ALONE who could and should answer this so that you can fully be responsible for your own decision.

what should you do... WITH WHAT???

with your boyfriend?
talk to him and settle things once and for all. if you really want to cut all communications with him, be firm about it... and be strong! if you submit yourself to him everytime he pleads to talk to you, then, it looks like you are still under his command. even if he is just an ex-, a boyfriend or a friend, he should respect whatever your decision is. =)

with your tickets?
cancel it if you think the two of you will only have disagreement and non-sense conversation when you meet.

with yourself?
give "some" (actually, this should be "a lot of") respect to yourself by adhering to your own principles. do you think "time" alone can heal the wounds he caused you? then, stop communicating with him. do you think he is not worthy of your essence or do you think he always takes you for granted? then, make up your mind! he is not the only guy in this world. if you keep your focus to him, then you mail fail to notice the person who is more worthy of your love and attention. perhaps, your ex- was destined to just be your "ex-" so that you may learn (a lot) from your experience.

Answer 2

Ok, here goes: Sounds like the boyfriend is wanting to string you on and making you feel like you're obligated to him. And so far, it appears to be working.
Cancel the ticket, tell him you did so, and tell him to have a happy life, and as far as you,...go on, find some happiness somewhere else, and get on with your life. This boy will eventually have you placed right under his thumbnail where he wants you and you'll never be happy with him. After a while, he may become verbally abusive, then physically abusive to the point that you can be seriously hurt.
Forget him. Turn this into a learning experience, and find another. This boy doesn't need your time. And you don't need to be wasting it on him. Get an education, be self-supportive, THEN look for someone who might be a lasting companion. But take care of yourself FIRST !!!

Answer 3

That should tell you a lot. He is more interested in having a good time than spending time with you. He appears to be self centered and is only thinking of HIS good time, not the money you spent on a ticket, or the time and effort you put into making the trip. I would trade in the ticket to somewhere else and enjoy a pampered stay somewhere else for yourself. Cut the ties 100%. You may be miserable right now, but love shouldn't make you miserable, so it isn't true love.

Answer 4

Wow, he's an ass!
You can't just cut him off completely, you need closure. You are hurting yourself in more ways that you know.
He is wrong to tell you to visit especially when it was a hard decision on your part whether or not you should actually go and then tell you he is feeling some type of way because he can't go to a friend's birthday party. That's immature.
Maybe he aint all that.
FYI. . . . he can kill two birds with one stone and take you to the party (as friends).

Answer 5

well...if he'd rather go to some party then to work things out with you and he know how much you are hurt then i would say that he doesnt really care about you or how you feel. I mean how many parties are there in a lifetime....hundreds, and you took time to book a ticket to go see him and now hes making you feel that hes annoyed and that he wants to go a friends party?? that should tell you all that you need to know. He obvoiusly doesnt think meeting with you is as important as the party. i hope everything works out and good luck....

Answer 6

Cancel the ticket. If he wants a face to face so badly, let him pay for it and come to you.

He needs to be reminded that HE ended the relationship, and that he can't have his cake and eat it too.

You are worth more than being expected to exist for his convenience. You need to stop allowing him to treat you with such disrespect. You deserve better, and you'll never find it if you are busy running after him.

Answer 7

I think ur boyfrnd is a little crazy,,,u knw there r some pple in this world who want attention,and when they get it,,they run away from it.I think ur bf is a perfect example,He doesn't know what he wants.But u r the one who has to be smart here.Its one and half year now,,so move on.Just think he is not worth it.

Make a wise decision.
All the best.

Answer 8

looks like someones being a right little pain in the butt!
1 - he broke up with u
2 - he wants contact with u when u don't want contact with him
3 - hes making u feel guilty
if a party means more to him than you do, you are probably better off without him
you want to find someone that doesn't take u for guilt trips

Answer 9

Girl, you have got to cut the rope! He's dragging this out for you too much. How dare he say that about you booking your ticket, cheeky wotsit. You''ve got to be strong here and tell him once and for all that you're finished with him for good and don't want anymore to do with him. I bet he's having a right laugh at you with his mates. Tell him to sod off and move yourself on.

Answer 10

go to the party with him and find a new man--a year and a half is way too much time to waste on someone who doesn't want to be with you.