Me-early 40's, Her-late 20's. This woman has been working in the same office as me for the past 6 months. We work for a large corp and have crossed each other's path before over the years. The usual 'hi, how your doing", stuff. Since she moved into the same office I work in (which there are other people who work there too that she's known longer), I'm kind of lost why I'm feeling the way I do and would like a female's opinion. (hopefully the same age group). I don't know whether to take her great personality towards me with a grain of salt or take it like something's there. She is nice to everyone she comes in contact with, but for some reason she seems to go out of her way to joke around with me, ask me to go to lunch with her, stuff like that. She's been divorced within the last 2 years, but is a single parent like myself, so we have things in common.
Females - I want to say I'm starting to like her a lot, but the age difference stops me, should the age difference stop me?
2007-08-08 01:26:51 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Go slow and let it build on its own.. If a relationship is going to go in that direction.. why not you are both adults and if it is right .. it is right. Things will happen naturally so enjoy your time together and see what happens.. Just a little bug in your ear... Work relationships are very public and can lead to some problems at work.. so just be cautious.. and take your time.Good luck.
2007-08-08 01:33:41 · answer #1 · answered by hollie s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age don't matter. That's just a number. What matters is the way you feel about each other. If you like her, and you think she likes you, then let her know. You never know, things may work out the way you'd like. I am dating a guy that is 10 years older than me. he's 33 and I am 23. We have been dating 9 months and we work together. Age should not be an issue. Go out with her, see if you are compatible. If not, take it with a grain of salt, if so great. What have you got to lose? You will be no worse off than you are now. And what's the worst thing that she could say.......no? Never gonna know till you try.
Good luck.
2007-08-08 01:39:44 · answer #2 · answered by skinny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An age difference is no difference. You are the person you are and she is the person she is. If you like each other then go for it - age is only a number and doesn't matter. If it matters to others, it is their problem and not yours.
Just be cautious that as she's friendly and chatty with everyone that you don't read more into her friendly behaviour than is actually there.
But if she's asking you to go to lunch, why not end the lunch date one day with asking her to go for dinner, or cinema or something else in the evening. Then see what she says and where it leads - good luck!
2007-08-08 01:31:23 · answer #3 · answered by Clare B England 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the age difference is bothering you now, it will only get worse over time. You might start to feel insecure and even though she might not be doing anything wrong you might start thinking that she is looking at younger men.
Its possible that since you are both single parents that she sees you as a friend she can confide in. So maybe its best to just let things alone or let her make the first move
2007-08-08 01:34:57 · answer #4 · answered by johanna c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be your 'experience' or age, if you prefer, that she is drawn to. She may be just a nice person, like you say, or she may be testing you to see if she can push the right buttons. A test for herself, to 'see' if she 'can' tempt an older man...
A couple of years ago, a 20--year-old in my office flirted outrageously with me and, because of the age difference (I was 43), I resisted for months. Even after she flat out told me she wanted to sleep with me. I asked her why. She said she didn't know. I kept our six-month affair totally quiet, because of the age. It wasn't like she was jail-bait but she was younger than my daughter...
Being with her was the most exciting time I could have ever imagined. Just to talk to her was refreshing. New points of view, different ideas about things. It was never, ever boring. I wasn't crushed when it ended but I still think about her wistfully.
And if I had the chance to do it again, I would. When it first started, I thought I must be on Candid Camera. After all, how could this invigorating, vibrant, sexy young woman find me attractive or interesting? But she did, oh how she did!
2007-08-08 01:47:36 · answer #5 · answered by Boo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not....I am in my low to mid 20's and can't speak for her but the man i love is around your age and the last thing i worried about was his age i fell in love with his personality and that is what has kept me around! In my situation we both have kids also and they absoutely love each of us and each other! Dont rush anything just incase you dont want to ruin a friendship! Continue going to lunch with her spending time with her maybe schedule a play date kinda thing with the kids and be friends if it is ment to be time will come around...Turns out my guy and i liked each other for over a year before either of us started to show the issue! Just be patient and deffinately dont let age get in the way it is just a number! Best of Luck!
2007-08-08 01:46:19 · answer #6 · answered by curious4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The older you get the stupider the "age rules" are. late 20's and early thirties isn't bad... IF You're happy and you're both overage, it's fine.
The one thing that would stop me is the fact that the larger the age difference, the less "growing old together" you'll be doing. Of course, you could walk out your door tomorrrow and slip cracking your head open and that's the end. So, really, if you're happy and everything's legal, there's nothing wrong with it.
2007-08-08 01:31:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is just a number. If she has asked you to lunch, you should go. See if you have a good time. Enjoy yourself. You aren't getting younger, so why limit yourself? Life is short. GO FOR IT. She's not a child. She's definitely old enough to know what she wants.
Maybe she is seeking maturity. Maybe the guys before you were just BOYS and she is looking to upgrade to a MAN! :)
2007-08-08 02:00:29 · answer #8 · answered by chingching 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes , the age difference should stop u .. u r 40's now so u know exactly what u want in life since u had large experience but she still in her 20's ! she is an adult Yes but she still hadn't gone throught a lot of things life , she still doesn't exactly know what she want and every now then she 'll change her mind about things ,, so now she may likes u and have fun around u but who knows later what she may feel ?!
my advice to u is not to invest ur emotions on something u r not sure about .
2007-08-08 01:40:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should tell her, and let her decide what her answer is. Assure her that it's okay for her to say no, that there will be no change in you two being friends, and that you were just wondering if there was possibly something more than that between you. The age difference is blinded in love, maybe she'll say yes, but, don't forget, that there's also the slight chance that she will say no.....
2007-08-08 01:33:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋