my bf and i got in a huge argument the other night about how we are so tired of fighting each other over the same thing, my feelings, bc i drill it to him how i want him to get it, when i tell him ym feelings are hurt he says sorry, it doesnt sound sincere so i nag him about it til i honestly believe it.anyway, we got into it and i was crying and telling him how much i love him and dont want him out of my life and he said he was leaving and needed time to think, he didnt storm out, he made sure i was ok b4 he left, i was crying so bad and he wouldnt just walk out. i thought it was over then, he said we could talk later he just needed time to think. he didnt come get all his stuff out of my house when i was at work yesterday. is that a good sign? this happened monday, i wanna talk to him but dont wanna bother him,should i call him tonight just to see how he is doing? i would love just to talk to him. how would i bring up us getting together to talk? when will i know he is ready?
2007-08-08 01:26:36 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would just give it time and space.. If it was meant to be then it will.. If not then it just a leason learned.. there are many fish in the sea.
2007-08-08 01:33:12 · answer #1 · answered by gonecrzy70 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you have some issues. Let him come to you first. You have already done some things that would make any man go crazy, so you need to let him get things right in his head. If you fight as much as you say you do then you can not blame him if he decides he is done with the relationship. When you have a problem with your b/f you should talk to him and not yell, scream or nag. When you talk he will listen and understand better and you will be able to get your point across much easier. By yelling and nagging all the time your man has learned to tune you out. And I can promise you everytime you say something to him he is already thinking 'here she goes again'. If this relationship does not work out you should try working on your communication skills.
2007-08-08 08:34:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound very very young. Sweety what you need to sincerely do is leave him his space. And if he comes back stop nagging. That is the sure fire way to make him tired of you. You sound very desperate and insecure. Believe me if he doesn't come back you will feel your life is shutting down, but you WILL be okay. Life goes on. You really need to get stronger and not call at all. Keep yourself busy so the temptation isn't right there. I just bet he calls and if he doesn't then he wants out, but sounds like he doesn't want to hurt your feelings. Give him a break
2007-08-08 08:35:46 · answer #3 · answered by Maria 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is going to sound harsh............ but dang, I hope he does leave. You sound very young...... so maybe you aren't emotionally able to handle a relationship at this time. Nagging on him is NOT the way to get him to talk to you about his feelings. And it may be that he doesn't care, but I'm betting that your nagging his killed him inside and what you think is him not caring is just sort of a "1000 Yard Stare" that men get when they are being nagged over and over again. About the same thing.
I would strongly recommend that you investigate why you are so insecure... why you need CONSTANT reassurance about your relationship........ and I would suggest that if he does come back to you, you LOSE the nagging as a form of communication.
TALKING to him is so much better...............maybe some time alone will give you some insight as to what's going on in your head.
Good luck to you........ and your bf........
2007-08-08 08:39:14 · answer #4 · answered by Aron1968_30 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be nagging him, if you've got to nag your man, then is it really worth it. You've got to wonder if you two, are really compatible. That isn't a relationship if the two of you aren't meeting each other needs.
We have no way of knowing if he'll come back. I'm sure he's thinking about what I just typed above. Give him time, you are doing the right thing about not calling, otherwise there again you'd be nagging.
2007-08-08 08:33:04 · answer #5 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he will let you know when he is ready. He obviously cares about you as he made sure you were oK before he left so I think what he said is what he means. He needs time to think. Give him that time. Show your maturity and don't call him every 5 minutes. Maybe send a text saying that you love him and are thinking of him but don't pester him with calls or texts. Give him the time he told you he needs.
Men are not good with feelings and emotions. Maybe talk to another female friend about your feelings instead of your boyfriend. It may be that he feels totally responsible for your happiness and that is a heavy burden for any one person.
2007-08-08 08:36:29 · answer #6 · answered by Clare B England 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is to just let it lie, when he is ready he will come back, if all of his stuff is still there, then he is planning on coming back eventually. Just wait until he is ready, men hate nagging, the worst thing you can do is to keep it up now that he is trying to sort things out. You will know when he is ready, he will tell you. If you hang on to tight he will bolt, give him space, and then when he knows whats in his heart he will tell you, just listen and try to understand what hes telling you.
2007-08-08 08:36:33 · answer #7 · answered by oopenerms 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you dont stop nagging him he will leave. maybe the issue is within youself. you either need to get over the situation and go on with it. men dont like constant confrontations. maybe you need to write down whats wrong with you and let him read it that way you wont argue with him. im pretty sure he " gets it" on how you feel. now understand how he feels and respect that. you keep argueing with him and you will be alone. call him to talk not fight. you should be loving him not driving him away.
2007-08-08 08:46:20 · answer #8 · answered by jstagirl1969 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be that he just needed to get away for a few days. Has anyone else heard from him? I would call just to make sure he was alright because you haven't heard from him. I wouldn't try to mention anything else unless he did. If he doesn't mention it, then say, "ok, I'm glad you're alright. I'll talk to you later." Make it brief. Maybe knowing that you care about him will get him to open up more.
Have a sunny day!
2007-08-08 08:36:38 · answer #9 · answered by sunny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man can only take so much nagging before we turn you out, after that we turn off emotionally. Sounds like with all your harping and nagging he has turned off. You have beat his love for you right out of the poor man.
2007-08-08 08:35:56 · answer #10 · answered by FF Geek 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What an awful NAG you are. I don't blame your boyfriend. The only reason you want to call is to NAG him. Shame on YOU.
2007-08-08 08:39:52 · answer #11 · answered by Michel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋