Is there life after a court case?

Question

My hub & I separated after an assault-related charge. After a long-drawn court case, can things still be mended?

Answer 1

Anything can be mended/forgiven after the smoke clears. Even if he doesnt, tell him you forgive him but if you need the space and a recovery period, tell him so and also tell him pushing to come back before you are ready will not make things better but worse. See what he does. Good Luck. You may find being apart and friends is going to be better than living together again.
But only you will learn/know that.

Answer 2

Good morning....You weren't very specific so I'm going on assumption. In some cases after a long dragged out divorce or legal separation court case has been established and ended, one might be able to amend between the couple. Now, it might take some time for a 'healing process' since this was an assault-related issue. Let there be some space between the both of you for awhile so the mending or healing can take place, if not you might end up right back where you started. You don't want that. Time will heal all wounds. Your relationship may or may not be quite the same as it was but you have to understand that some scars were left behind also. The 'pain or the hurt' will slowly disappear but the scarring may take awhile before it's healed. In some individuals, scar tissue never heals because they dwell on the issue and subconsciously they don't want to forget. So keep this in mind if your hubby or ex-hubby seems distant.Hope this has helped. Take care and good luck on your situation.

Answer 3

I'm afraid where there is physical abuse, it is very difficult to put things right again. That is not to say it is impossible -- but first off, any attempts at reconciliation must include built-in safeguards against any future physical assaults by the parties. That can be very difficult and will no doubt take a tremendous effort and commitment by the party who is abusive. First the abuser must get help with the anger that causes him/her to act out physically. Sometimes this will involve rehab from substance abuse (alcohol and/or drugs). For some, just the removal of substances is enough to stop the physical acting out. For others, the anger can manifest itself even without drugs or alcohol. In any event, the re-building of a relationship after there has been physical abuse is very, very difficult. It tears down the trust and security of a couple and rebuilding takes a tremendous amount of love and patience. In any event, the short answer is yes, it is possible. The long answer is as I've stated -- you will need help individually and as a couple. Get a game plan together and cast it in stone -- and as soon as it appears that one or the other is not going to commit to the long-term plan for a future -- RUN, don't walk from the situation and move on.

Answer 4

In an assault someone gets bodily physical harm. One of two things results: "I like it do it again!" or I am staying away from him/her. It is true to make your enemy your friend but too many people know this saying and it is better to let court order stand. He goes his way/you go yours.

Answer 5

Considering the circumstances, probably not, unless you two seek some heavy duty counseling. However, I don't know who assaulted whom, but if it happened once, it wil happen again. You're better off cutting your ties and move on.

Answer 6

you want to take your husband back after he assaulted you and after you two went through court? it's not a good idea. he will throw it in your face and you could do the same. the best idea here is to move on. the trust is gone and once it's gone, it's best to move on.

Answer 7

NO! don't even try. He will always blame you (though he may denigh it)! And he will only end up hurting you again.

Answer 8

Yes. Be strong.

Answer 9

nope time to part ways

Answer 10

christian counseling first and prayer