Don't you just hate dominating women?

Question

I have a reason to do. Both my mother and sister were extremely dominating and my dad was a true gentleman, and I have bad memories. I was just scared of their loud, shrill voices and unpleasant activities?

When I was in primary school, I was molested by female teachers - they would punish me the slightest gaffe and I don't exactly remember, but I could have been sexually harassed back then.

In all my academic career, I never enjoyed the company of female lecturers, colleagues or faculty except for a few most of them are the real feminazi types and I hate those SHRILL voices.

My first girlfriend (at 18) was a dominating girl. She controlled me through emotional blackmail and it gave me a lot of stress in life. It was a nightmare and her "commands" and dominating personality crushed my spirit. It was good thing that I was the one to end the relationship or else it would have me killed.

I only get along with SUBMISSIVE women - tame and weak - those kinds that depend on men.

Is there anything wrong in it?

I just wonder what thrill do some men have in chasing DOMINAS - last I checked they were paying like $200/hour for their sessions with dominatrix women - why I got so much in my life for Free - the world is crazy

@kja83

If you are sure you really don't have a shrill voice and don't yell, I don't consider you dominating! I have no problems with independent, self-assured women as long as they don't try to dominate me.

@KD

You better f**k off, feminazi whore! I have nothing to do with your types. I do agree we all have DEGREES of masculinity and feminity. You haven't taught a new concept.

And yes, I have met SEVERAL submissive women and none of them have any self-esteem issues. They may be a bit clingy and annoying and attention-seeking, but far better than the Dominas.

Answer 1

Its ok to be tame and weak in a feminine sort of way and dependant on men- the problem most women can't find a man anymore that you can depend on. So when men start becoming more dependable then maybe you will find that women become a little more surrendered.
By the way i do not have a shrill voice and i am not tame and weak. I never raise my voice in an argument- but i get my point across just the same. I am not whiny and clingly either- but i know what i want and i know how to get it- and i long for a dependable and honest man.

Answer 2

First, you have to define exactly what a dominant woman means to you, is it characterized by certain characteristics such as independence, or just loudness of the voice? Is it characterized by being bossy, taking charge in the relationship? You have to state specific characteristics.

There are different kinds of women, but every woman have a positive and a negative side. Do you consider being romantc as being weak and tame? Do you consider being naggy a domineering characteristic? Do you consider having a high paying job a domineering characteristic?

A woman with a high paying job may be domineering at work but may become a romantic and caring mom and wife at home. A woman who doesn't work at all may look weak professionally but may tend to be bossy in a relationship.
I think you consider nagging a domineering characteristic.

Also, I would have to disagree about submissiveness being a characteristic that defines weakness and tameness. Different situations result in different actions, for example, if my bf or husband is far better in handling money I am more likely to accept his opinions, suggestions, decisions in topics concerning money.

I think you are talking about high maintenance women, who knows what they want and how they want it, they are far more likely to tell you what they want than listen to what you want. Of course, women with those characteristics have to be with men who are able to be in the same phase as they are. A relationship is going for doom without balance, both men and women have to be submissive, depending upon who is stronger at certain aspects.

Answer 3

I am a strong, independent, self-assured woman. And no, I don't have a shrill voice and I never yell. Would you consider me to be "dominating?"

My bf is also strong, independent and self-assured. We get along perfectly. We both like to "drive" and so we practice the art of compromise every day in our relationship.

I think that people pair up with those they are most comfortable with. So if you are comfortable with a woman who is "weak" and cannot survive without a man (I would consider her clingy and highly annoying), then so be it.

ADDITION: Yes Phoenix, I'm sure. It's a nice soft Alto, like Karen Carpenter's.

Answer 4

You have a lot of issues and need to speak to a counsellor. "Tame and weak and dependent on men?" That's cute.

Why not try spending your time simply with a real person - or is that too boring?

You are re-living your past and need to work through it or you will never be satisfied and supported in your relationships. You will always project your problems onto women - no matter how kind or considerate they are - and not get to the root of what is troubling you.

Dominating PEOPLE are bullies and "tame and weak" women are something you have created in your head and if those type of women DO exist, they are just as damaged and insecure with low self-esteem as yourself.

You know it makes sense.

Until you accept that we ALL have feminine and masculine aspects to our characters, beings and personalities - you will forever be searching.

Go talk to someone.

Answer 5

I'm sure you mean domineering.

I think you should join the military to give you some male confidence, just make sure you pick the right m.o.s. A lot of occupations in the military have a lot of woman these days.

Answer 6

Some women are made that way and can make life of their partner quite difficult.Be on the look out to find the girl of your choice.In the meanwhile,no harm in having a session with a shrink,just to clear the issue.Just one more thing,a tame,weak or submissive woman is also likely to be intellectual.socially and economically a wee bit weaker than you and should be fine.

Answer 7

whats the matter phoenix dont you fancy a nice amazon in black leather and a whip. give it a try you might change your mind.

Answer 8

i dont think Yahoo answers is what you need....take that $200 and go to a shrink

Answer 9

No! I love dominating them.

Answer 10

I would say I agree with you, but my wife might over hear me and I have to be really careful after last time I disagreed with her.