i want to divorse my husband?

Question

dob 16-06-1984, time 6.40 pm, birth place ludhiana (punjab)
husband 23-05-1981, time 12.05 am, birth place delhi.

i got married last year in april. but my husband never treat me as his wife. he don't care for me. just want a baby. what i do? plz sugess me.

Answer 1

You are seven months younger to my own daughter & I'm the last person who would advice you to go in for divorce so soon. You both require sometime to compromise between yourselves. You married only one year back & now you think about divorce, at the same time you think about a baby. It seems you are really confused. Firstly you married at a very early age. You should have waited for few years more & then gone for marriage, but any how now what has happened you have to manage it. The best thing which even toploser suggested here is proper counseling which you both require. You should consult some good marriage counselor for this who can help you both to bring more understanding between both of you. Unless you understand the importance of the married life you people won't be able to live peacefully. You want a baby, do you know giving birth to a baby is not as difficult as parenting the baby. You both still too young to understand the importance of marriage yourselves & after the birth of child your present problem if continue will further increase. First get together & get proper marriage counseling then think about the child. Even if you approach family court for divorce the same advice will be given to you by the Judge of the court.

Answer 2

You are passing through a transitory phase. If you can be patient for some time more it will become a very happy marriage. Your husband is a very nice person and you should not leave him. This bad phase of your life began from late March, 2007 and continues till 20th November,2007. All your doubts, fears and apprehensions will begin to clear out from 15th November onwards. You will begin to understand him and his personality from then onwards. Do not take any hasty step lest you repent later. The main problem is your thoughts and actions are very quick whereas his are not. He is not prone to hasty decisions. He ponders over the possibilities and takes advice from friends and elders before taking any decision which does not suit your temperament. It is not wrong to take a decision after due diligence and advice. He is doing the right thing in the interest of the family-----which includes you. Your impression about him that he just wants a baby is not correct. This you will understand only after 15th November,07. My sincere advice is do not jump to conclusions before verifying or confirming them. Do not assume anything about him. You have been married for a short while only, as yet. It is very easily said about taking a divorce but you are unable to imagine the consequences thereafter. Life is not so easy out there as you are probably making it out to be. In fact, what is the need when he is a very nice person. At least wait for a month from 15th Nov,07 i.e. until 15th December,07. I am quite sure you will be much happier than you are today.

Wish you the best. Don't get nervous all will be well.

Ck

Answer 3

Hi Pooja
Very sad to hear about this.A word of caution pls believe me marriage is another word for adjustment,we all come from such high expectations from each other that when it is not met we feel cheated but believe me, be a little more patient n give yourself few more years n try to understand each other personality in other words your likes n dislikes n behaviour towards each other.what is that you want him to do for you pls be verbal n talk to him politely n explain your needs.if you give this your best shot i mean if you try to make it work n even then it doesnot work probably you wont have so much of guilt as not making your marriage work later on, further it quite possible that your spouse also nurture some kind of grievances against you hence he doesnot care for you ,find them out.even the best of married couples we have, had their share of arguments n bad times so fights n differences are the integral part of any marriage as it makes you grow as a partner n know each other well.you dont hv to be meek n submissive before him but place your opinion before him in a firm n confident manner...all this if you have difference of opinion n no other thing wrong.but if he is abusive or violent towards you then pls show him the way n dont take this anymore rest assured every marriage takes its own time of 3-4 yrs to be stable as we all are coming from different background n upbringing and cannot be a mirror copy of each other.no matter how hard we try to change each other.
hope this helps
take care

Answer 4

Hi Pooja,

Nice speaking to you. Firstly, I think this question would be better placed in the 'family and relationships' section, you would have been given more helpful answers. Never mind, I'm going to try and do the best I can to help you!

Now, this isn't a case of 'horoscopes' so please don't listen to anybody ranting on about Saturn and Uranus. The fact is, you are unhappy and not being treated with the respect you deserve.

If he doesn't treat the mother with care, how would he treat the baby? Under no circumstance should you have a baby with this man. Have you talked to him? Communication (talking) is vital (needed) in every relationship.

If you are confident you are not happy with him, you should think about talking with a family member or a friend first and decide where your going to go and what your going to do.

I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 5

You didn't mention what are the reasons that your husband hate or don't care you. Please find out what is the reason of the ignorance from your husband. You have to be sincere with him and may be you can succeed on it. Otherwise you have to divorce. But marriage life is very important. It is not just to childish play.

Answer 6

Sorry to hear… but my dear, you have Rahu and Budha (Budha is the lord of your inauspicious eighth house) ill placed in your seventh house (house of marriage). Lord of seventh house (Venus-Shukra) is placed in 8th house and combust. Lord of Lagna (Mangal) has joined its worst enemy –Shani in the 12th house…. therefore suffering in married life is deserved for you whom ever you married.

Your hubby’s birth chart is quite good with much benefic Yoga traced. Hence my sincere request is—please adjust with him and try to find out enjoyments in the present married life. If you think that you get escaped by divorcing him, then you are wrong. Spending days with a virtues person might reduce or nullify our sins-is my observations.

At present your time is better (minus Ashtam Shani), therefore think positively, understand your previous birth sins (through the placement of planetary position in your Birth Chart) and act wisely. For further detail of analysis please consult any astrologer from your own place and take personal advice.

You might find my reply to be rather blunt, but I don’t have other option.

Answer 7

You really need to talk to your parents, your husband and to your in-laws before washing dirty linen in public !!! If you fail to get your answers from them, then you need to get in touch with your best friend or well wisher or even a marriage counsellor. Don't jump to conclusions in haste. Your age too seems to be playing against you.

Answer 8

If you think by doing so you would be happy, then I would be the first person to give you green signal. However, think before. I liked Nupakry's answer.

Answer 9

hi pooja.,
whatz wrong with you....please live ur life as you like....but the same time be little careful...what you are doing....think twice...or consult some one like me....b'coz when you are confussed you won't be able to decide ...right or wrong....do you know one simple fact.....you can't see your own face...you need a mirror....for that too...so mail me...for more detail....i live here in delhi only...all the best...relax...let the time take it's course of time...everything will be fine....

Answer 10

First divorce......., then go for second marriage......, start facing problems there too.....and come back to this site.......there would be some one to suggest you your next step!!!!