result in a divorce between ourselves. But i m not agreed in divorce. But he told me hereafter i ll not live with you because of some problems occured between us. Wat can do in this kind of situation?
2007-08-07 23:54:53 · 21 answers · asked by anu 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Find a way to fix the problems... Communication leads to understanding. Understanding leads to compromise. Compromise leads to resolution. Dunno without much to go on in details can't give you any better answer then that.
Either that or just sign the divorce papers and move on with your life.
2007-08-08 00:01:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, my marriage has been lasting for about half a year, and I often feel in the same boat, like there is no understanding betwen us and no way to work it around. Honestly, thoughts of divorce have haunted me on several occasions and I even voiced it to my husband a few times and regretted later, cause I was just mad but never wanted a divorce. It might be that your husband was in a bad temper and he didn't mean it either. When it comes to divorce one should evaluate what is better for oneself: living with a special someone and having occasional rows or splitting up. You should judge for yourself and so should your husband. Its been only 2 months, pretty short timeframe: you still have to accomodate yourselves to each other and patience is critical during this time. The priest told us that the first two years are the hardest when devil is tempting and seducing you and putting obstacles on your way to a happy life with your significant other.
Try to talk to your partner, to know what is bothering him. Maybe you are too hard on him that makes him unhappy? I can recommend you read a very good book "Men are from Mars, women are from Venus". I am sure you could find there lots of behavioral cases similar to your family life. And it is very helpful to look at your life from outside, mistakes are more visible and therefore more easily remedied.I wish you luck!
2007-08-08 07:22:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suggest counseling as a last resort. But if he's not willing at all, there's not much you can do. What problem did you create? Propose solutions to the problem and follow through. Two months is not even long enough to get all of the presents put away...it is certainly too early to decide if the marriage is over.
2007-08-14 20:40:11 · answer #3 · answered by Pineapple Princess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Didnt you guys know each other before mariage or is it because he is distracted??? Try to find out the reason for this kind of behaviour towards you. Ask a grown up to talk to him and make him rethink his decsion. Tell him you are willing to start anew with him, forgiving and forgetting all that happened for the last 2 months. All the best to you. God Bless.
2007-08-08 07:25:32 · answer #4 · answered by liza 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should turn to the lord to guide you. The first year of marriage is the hardest. You are learning so much about each other. What you do and don't like. What buttons to push and how far. A marriage is about patience, love and respect. You can't give up on a marriage so fast. You have to be paint with each other and be willing to talk to each other about your problems.
2007-08-15 12:07:27 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe its just me but I refuse to believe that the communication issues just started two months after y'all got married. Darlin it takes two adults to try to make a marriage work, that means going to marriage counseling if necessary, individual counseling and the willingness to work on the problems that you guys are having. If you guys know communication is the main issue work on that...It really sounds like you guys got into a marriage thinking things would "work itself out" and now that it hasn't its off to divorce court. You can't make him stay but at least put it out there that you want to work on your marriage...good luck
2007-08-08 07:02:09 · answer #6 · answered by Lil_MissVal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both people have to be willing to work at it. If not its a waste of time. I'm only 26 and one thing I learned the hard way is that you can not make a man stay.
2007-08-08 07:01:48 · answer #7 · answered by cjs23navy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is something that needs to be worked at.2 months is nothing when you are supposed to be getting used to living with someone and understanding their habits etc.
2007-08-08 06:59:21 · answer #8 · answered by CMH 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please get a divorce.
there is no other way.
You sound too young to go through rest of your life in this situation, unless you like living in a gutter
comeon girl...there are great guys out there.
good Luck
2007-08-16 06:55:17 · answer #9 · answered by secret society 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't agree for now and fight to be respected. When you feel the marriage is lost then go find someone else.
2007-08-15 15:35:32 · answer #10 · answered by whoopswhosfault 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋