2007-08-07 23:27:38 · 12 answers · asked by capricorn2122 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It was after 25years of marriage....and they still work together. He told me, not worry, it's happened only one time and he still loves me...I am so sad.....
2007-08-07 23:42:26 · update #1
was this an affair? If it happened years ago then u shouldn't care. It was b4 u...Just make sure u don't turn a blind eye towards any horny chick...
2007-08-07 23:32:26 · answer #1 · answered by a g 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should not have to deal with this everyday that your husband walks out the door and goes to work. They have a past together and it was an intimate one regardless that it was only once. If your husband has been close enough in life to have had sex with this woman and she with him I would not feel comfortable with them working together for any reason. You should not feel that in any way you have to behave around this woman like it dosen't bother you when it does. A man can look at sex for just sex but women are often more emotional about it. It's great if you can trust him but what about her if she becomes intrested in pursuing him for her own reasons again? How can they both work together and not think about their past connection? I am sorry but this would not be a comfort zone for me call it jealousy or insecurity but I am not stupid about temptation.If you do not want this situation around you for any reason that is your right and I would not tollerate it for the two of them to have jobs together. You have every reason to be concerned when it comes to your life, feelings and emotions and discomfort about it. I would ask my husband to find another job and that would be the bottom line. I could not deal with this everyday him looking at her and being reminded that he once had her. I just think it's a bad situation and would not put up with it. Take care and good luck.
2007-08-08 11:28:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sucks.
I would seriously consider filing for the big D and taking everything possible from him.
Your description paints a rather callous portrait of the philandering basta..d, so I don't see a lot of hope of salvaging the relationship.
Jump early and survive.
Old Guy
2007-08-08 07:25:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has to change jobs. That's it. Whether it happened one time or more doesn't matter. When he did it, he wasn't showing the love he had for you. Put your foot down. Either he change jobs or you get a divorce. That's not fair for him to still put you in that situation. You should also go to counseling for yourself. Good luck.
2007-08-08 09:21:01 · answer #4 · answered by Vasilly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lucky guy...just kidding ..very difficult question..,Honey I know u wont like them..first of all just make sure that your husband has " No interest on them now " then please avoid them to get into any sort of get together or party..,and let them know that you are aware of those..,at the same time don't suspect your husband all the time..it may ruin your family life..,and try to forget everything from your mind ..if there is nothing special now between your husband and his colleagues.
2007-08-08 06:38:36 · answer #5 · answered by 2bros 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The best way would be to ask yourself, "How would I want my boyfriend to behave with a guy that I've had sex with before?"
2007-08-08 06:33:54 · answer #6 · answered by dark_knight_1735 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same way you would behave around anyone else. With poise and grace. Your behavior is a reflection of your character.
2007-08-08 06:33:09 · answer #7 · answered by Sondra 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
A lot depends whether the sex was before or after you two knew each other.
2007-08-08 06:31:16 · answer #8 · answered by DrIG 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
IT would be hard. But me, after I made it clear to her that she was not to be around my husband again, other than work related. I would hold my head up and ingore her. If she tried to speak to me I would just walk away.
2007-08-08 07:11:58 · answer #9 · answered by his wife 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Would he like it if you were working with one of your old flames?
Remind of that.
2007-08-08 07:28:49 · answer #10 · answered by moeschk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋