im dating a girl who is divorced because she cheated on her husband, who she has no kids with. I recently found out that she has not removed the names of the guy she cheated on her husband with or her ex husband from her cell phone (only reason i know this is because she text him back one night after receiving a text from him afer we had sex...she was sneaky about it and i looked over her shoulder to see who it was) . I asked her to remove the names because it bothered me. She didn't, even after several times asking. She said she wont because she felt it was on principle that she shouldn't and that it felt like i was telling her what to do...am i wrong for asking her to remove the #'s or should i just let it slide and trust her? thanks for your responses everyone!
...but what if i spend every night with her and sleep there and she says she loves me and wants to start a life with me and wants me to forget about her past and move on...because our present and fut
2007-08-07 23:26:23 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
she is taking you for a fool. don't let any woman play on your intelligent. I am a woman, a woman caught in an indecent act is not good for you. Or else she will definitely cheat on you one day and you will not like it at all. To be fore warned is to be fore harmed
2007-08-07 23:38:48 · answer #1 · answered by onoscity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like a self centered narcissistic person IMHO.
She wants you and others at the same time.
No you asking her to eliminate the numbers is a reasonable request.
If she claims to only be with you then she has no need for them.
Catch her in a lie, say a friend saw her with the guy. She may try and explain herself out of the situation rather than deny it.
Otherwise give her an ultimatum. Be with only you or your walking.
Believe me she will be crying to have you back if you leave b/c you are still part of that circle of guys that take care of some need she has.
2007-08-08 06:33:46 · answer #2 · answered by Kari 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how long she has been divorced or how long you have been seeing her but I would say she doesn't know what love is. Her version could be entirely different from yours. You could be just someone to feel the void. I would say that if she really loved you, you wouldn't have to ask her to remove the numbers, she would want too. I would say the "You're trying to tell me what to do" thing is just a ploy to get you to back off. I think I wouldn't be spending every night there until she came around to seeing how this might affect me. Either she is more considerate to my feelings or it's time to pack it up and move on.
2007-08-08 06:39:03 · answer #3 · answered by Sidney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh, so it's a matter of trust... well, give her the benefit of the doubt and let her know that you trust her... she might just want to continue being friends with the guy, and she might've been sneaking around because you might think she's cheating again...or maybe you can ask her to introduce you two, so that you can be sure... you're in a tough position, but it's normal for you to ask her to remove the names because you do want to be reassured of her love... just evaluate your relationship and decide if it's worth taking the risk or not :)
2007-08-08 06:37:21 · answer #4 · answered by chardane 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I guess you will just have to spend the rest of your life worrying about whether she will cheat on you too!! She cheated---get it!! She had no respect for her marriage vows the first time. What makes you think that she will have respect for the ones that you want her to take with you??
2007-08-08 06:30:39 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's playing you for a fool. Principles...what principles? The stupid woman doesn't even have scruples or respect for what your going through.
2007-08-08 06:30:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How would you feel if she told you to do the same thing - you don't own her or that part of her life
2007-08-08 06:30:54 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very simple answer here,dump her or get hurt,thats your choice buddy
2007-08-08 06:35:54 · answer #8 · answered by Charlotte's Dad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋