for what reasons are you against divorce?
2007-08-07 21:42:59 · 12 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The negative effect it will have on children, if they have kids. I guess the best prevention is to settle later in life than rush into it. Marriages are meant to last, and not to be destroyed. It is the most beautiful institution ever established and it must be preserved -- with two lives in everlasting union. Nothing like it!
2007-08-07 21:48:47 · answer #1 · answered by Merle D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are 3 stages....
Dating: This is the stage to date around and find the type of person you like.
Committed Relationship: At this time you date someone for a while to make sure you are both compatible and want the same things in life.
Now, both stages one and two you can chose to stay with the person or break up. It's what you do in order to find your true love.
Once you have found that person (and this should not be something that happens over night) you go on to stage three...
Marriage: This is the stage that you get married and start you life with the person you love. You should not have any reason to get Divorced.
Most people date someone for a while, and then they think "OMG I love this person lets get married" Well a few years into the marriage they decided that they are not meant to be togeather. So they Divorce. Now if they would of went in the stages they would of only been in a committed relationship. I don't understand why people are so quick to get married. The Divorce rate is so height because people will marry anyone who they think they love. It's really sad!!!
2007-08-07 22:15:57 · answer #2 · answered by dohm84 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All marriages are unhappy at some point. That is just real life. Yep, my parents were divorced after 18 years of marriage. I have been married for 20 years and we are still going strong. Divorce has precedence in Christianity, but so does forgiveness. Much divorce that happens today has nothing to with physical abuse of a spouse or child. Most divorces today are just people being immature and selfish. This is the kind of divorce most religious people object to. As long as its fun people stay together, but at the first sign of a rough road people start looking for another party to go to. Marriage takes both sacrifice and commitment.
2016-04-01 05:13:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not necessarily against divorce, but I do think it should be the last resort. Too many couples divorce because it's so easy and common now.
There are certain things like: adultery, abuse, or other things of that nature, that give people great reasons to end things. I just like to try to remind people that marriage is hard - but it is a life long commitment that two people make. Most of the time people don't take marriage that serious, and they really should.
2007-08-07 21:50:48 · answer #4 · answered by Kimi Cabanna 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being married is a lifelong commitment. Unconditional love is the key.
Children are hurt by divorce. Although it should be said that there are times that the children could be hurt less by divorce than the parents staying in an abusive relationship.
In my opinion, divorce is selfish. It comes from a person who feels that there is a better life outside the marriage. Most of the time we need to work on ourselves. Your partner should be your best friend, and lover.
2007-08-07 23:43:56 · answer #5 · answered by elvisflowsfromall 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce should take place when one or both husband and wife are abusive mentally, spiritually, mentally and physically on any level.
Regardless if one or all are demonstrated in the first sentence. Relationships have it's ups and downs however unconditional love, commitment, trust, respect and sheer fun are ingredients to strive forward uplifting one another and inspiring each other professionally and personally growth as well as growing together as a family which is the most important of all of them.
No one is perfect only perfect moments to cherish this is what life is all about...
2007-08-07 21:58:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
After divorcing and seeing first-hand the impact it had on my kids, I can't ever advocate for anyone to divorce unless their safety is on the line. If one spouse is abusive, chemically dependent, or risking jail time, that's a different story than "I'm not attracted to him/her anymore" or "I met someone else, what do I do?"
I believe that both parties in the relationship are equally responsible for keeping the relationship together and, in cases of cheating, the cheater is MORE responsible for working toward a stable relationship.
When you divorce, that's like telling your kids that they weren't important enough to you for you to live with them full time. It's rejection from the most sacred relationship they have in their young lives. It's telling them they weren't worth the time, energy or effort of making their childhoods stable and happy. It's saying to them that your happiness is more important than their right to feel secure and loved. It casts a shadow on every relationship they'll ever have with the opposite sex.
Children of divorced parents are more likely to end up chemically dependent, pregnant as teens and more likely to be juvenile offenders and arrested.
Worst of all, the parents are the ones with all of the control in the situation, the children have none. It's victimization on the most personal and profound level.
Had I to do it all over again, I don't know if my previous marriage would've actually lasted until the girls were grown and gone. He cheated and he ended up married to the woman he cheated on me with. But I certainly would've fought a lot harder to keep him in the house had I known then what I know now.
Relationships to adults seem very expendable these days, but the ramifications on the family as a whole are HUGE!
2007-08-07 22:06:58 · answer #7 · answered by ann81969 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Children.
2007-08-07 22:08:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriages are made in heaven so every one should understand before marriage . divorce is not a single persons deals it will affect the futures family also . divorce is not a indin culture.so every one should enjoy the given life with is partnner
2007-08-08 06:05:52 · answer #9 · answered by raja 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
question for the first answerer:
what if you're mentally and physically abused? what if he has double personality? or a freak? what if he cant change? will you face it for the rest of your life?
apparently people have choice, options and rights.
no one likes divorce but things could go wrong, unexpected and you deserve to be happy.
2007-08-07 21:59:07 · answer #10 · answered by Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋