I am having some problems, I think I may be being stalked on the Internet, help?

Question

I know his first and last name, I think he knows where I live because he knows mine. Last email he was very cold and vicious in his writing. He has a blog post on another website that I am also on and he'll make blogs about things that I think he is trying to intimidate me with. Like one he put some music on, with the titles of the songs themed by death and now he has some called "I'm still your fag" He likes to control people and is cold hearted/creepy. I think he is trying to play mind games on me to scare me because I won't write back to him
what can I do?
Can I order a restaint order? will the restraint order make it worse ? make him more angry?

I know now that he is immature,hates and is jealous of me
mature answers please
thanks

Answer 1

I would simply avoid those blogs and perhaps it's time to spend less time on the computer. If someone does come to your home that is indeed a stalker.. call the police.

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Answer 2

Well you can block his email, further more if he has not actually done any harm to you personally, I don't think the cops will do anything unless he is physically there causing a scene. If you think that he knows where you live, than I suggest you don't go anywhere alone especially at night. *Underneath it all*, if you are not threaten by him physically a straining order can not be issued, but check into it, I might be wrong. B careful D

Answer 3

Report the situation to the authorities. Tell them that you need a retraining order against him because you are afraid of what he might try to do. Get you personal info off the internet and never give it out again. If you are not an adult, tell your parents immediately.

He may never act on what he is doing, however, it is best to be very, very careful.

Answer 4

Hmm....this seems to be a very hard thing to awnser but i'll try ma best k? ^^ have u told your parents? if you feel that you trust them enough i would tell them about it. or maybe u have a close friend u can talk to. or a friends parents. either way dont keep this to yourself. talk to sombody and chances are u will get somebody to stand beside you =D

Answer 5

you should print off the emails and take them to the local police. if the threats are big enough he could be arrested

Answer 6

cut off ALL ACCESS with him NOW!!!! It doesnt matter weather
he knows or not. Print what he has written and take it to the police.

Answer 7

ignore him. after all, you are not sure if he is the person that you think he is. don't let him scare you, when you see his mail don't even open just delete it. DO AS I SAY & he will give up cz his intention is to scare you.

Answer 8

How far away is he from you physically. Same town, halfway accross the country or halfway across the world?

The level of threat is directly related to how much effort he'd have to expend to get at you.

The level of threat also is a factor of what does he have to lose vrs his level of obsession. If he's all talk which most people like that are, then if there is any personal risk it'll pipe him down imediately. So various actions can get him removed.

Indirect threats may well be just an expression of a black mood and actually have little to do with intents toward you. Not knowing specifics it's difficult to tell.

The owners of the blog might be a good place to start. If you can establish a clear connection that he is harrasing you then you can get his account removed. This will establish that you are not just a victim and remove the threatening material.

A court order is only as good as his willingness to obey it. Today %90 of such court orders are really unnecessary, they are people who are over reacting. That leaves the %10 which really need a court order left unprotected. The whole point of a court order is to intervene when there is a real threat of physical contact which results in property loss, injury or worse. If none of those seem likely then a court order wastes everybodies time and puts people's lives in jeopardy.

You need to establish consequence. A male that presents a realistic threat to your stalker can and should intervene. Depending on his level of courage/cowardice this may solve the situation completely. It also reinforces that you have broken ties completely with him.

Create a paper trail. If you use Firefox there is a plugin that converts screenshots of web pages to image files. This is the best possible proof, especially if you put a clock plugin to record date and time in the browser itself. Save a copy off of all email, web sites, blogs and other electronic data that you consider harrassing harmful or threatening. Jot down notes which establish the reasons why you feel that it is such.

You should have him blocked in email, IM and any other direct means of contact. His phone number should be blocked from yours.

As for how much he knows about you. That depends on what you have volenteered either directly or by leading him to people who know you in real life. He may be getting information about you from a friend by tricking them or a person you think is a friend is quietly stabbing you in the back by delibertatly feeding information too him. Remember he may have gotten to know friends of your friends while you were still on good terms so it may be from somebody you don't even talk too directly.

A way to battle such channels is to put out disinformation and see if anything comes back. Little things that mark who you said it too but will be sure to invoke a reaction from your stalker. If you get a bite then shut down that channel. Leave them completely out of what you are doing.

You also want to do a wipe and load on your computer if you are using windows. Especially if you use Outlook or IE. They are full of security problems and a real stalker will gravitate to hacking your computer to keep close tabs on you. The only way to be sure he hasn't planted something on your computer is to reload the operating system. BACK up everything you want to keep and especially copies of all contact with him which are less than nice. You also want to keep copies of any contact before things went sour. This will give you something to contest any doctored emails or other contact such as IM logs he might produce. His defense if any legal issues would be to exagerate what kind or good things you've said in an effort to discredit you. If you have copies of the same email/IM, etc that shows the real conversation it will help you defend against this. In court you are more likely to get the benefit of the doubt unless they can do a very good character assasination against you. Hopefully it never goes to court for any reason.

Remember do NOT use IE to view websites period!!!! It has so many security holes that it's an invitation into your computer. Just viewing his blogs could cause your computer to be infected with a trojan if the web site allows embedded HTML and he can craft a URL that takes advantage of such web sites. If he does then he has full access to anything on your computer.

Do NOT encourage him in any way by saying anything too him or having anything to do with him. Any friends that talk to him force them to choose. They can cease all communicaitons with you or him. No exceptions.

Speak out on your blog about feeling stalked. If he is stalking you he will read this and if his intent is not strong enough it will chastise him. It will also establish a paper trail for you.

Make sure that while this situation is unresolved that you always have a means of self defense or somebody with you that you feel confident can protect you should he show up in person. This might be a concealed carry permit, it might be a can of pepper spray or an effective weapon you feel confident you can use. Do not choose a knife unless you are phsyically stronger than him and quite willing to use it. Knives are poor protection for most women. Same with weapons like clubs, baseball bats and other such which rely on physical strength to employ. They are easily taken away from you and may enrage the assailent.

Do not let him rob of joy in life. That is the aim of most stalkers. They pose no real threat but get their kicks from making you afraid. So don't let him know it's working. This will either discourage him or he'll esculate to the point where you can have him arrested. This can easily pre-empt any real physical threat. By the time he's gotten out of jail he has other enemies to plot against and will have mostly forgotten about you.

Again if you have a champion that is a credible counter threat against him it will go a long way toward sending down different pursuits. It also introduces revenge as a deterent should anything happen to you. Most people who break laws do not expect or intend to get caught. So laws are not a big deterrent in modern society. Revenge is. Even if nobody can prove he did it, if something happens to you he will know there'll be somebody gunning for him.

Keep your perspective. Acting like Bill Joe bad a$s doesn't mean he really is or that it's specifically directed at you. Reacting to inspecific events might catch his interest and feed a downward spiral where he does start to specifically target you because it worked by accident. Have people review what concerns you to get outside perspective and also to help establish the paper trail.

Hope this helps.

Answer 9

Take the issue to police... they will track him down...

Meanwhile... be on your guard!!

All the best

Answer 10

keep copies of the email... and contact the cops {}