I know they say to do what makes you happy. But when you are 41, married, with two kids and a mortgage, it’s kinda hard to just go out and find what makes you happy AND put food on the table. Like I said, I’m 41 and still don’t know what I want to do when I grow up! (You know what I mean). I just feel like I can’t find my happy. I love my wife and my family with all my heart but I am not at all happy with my profession (industrial). Can anyone help?
2007-08-07 21:29:17 · 7 answers · asked by ? 2 in Social Science ➔ Other - Social Science
Sure! You are perhaps in a midlife crisis. Things aren't working out the way you expected them. At least, that is what happened to me.
The following may be useful:
1) We are always in the right place, at the right time.
2) We are always fulfilling our purpose. Maybe we do not like it, or find it boring. Yep. We are in a system that does not allow for too much swing. It is hard.
3) Try to find some extracurricular activity. Sports, reading.
4) Try to fast. It is amazing how it clears up things.
Vent your frustration talking to yourself, by saying things such as "This is not my problem. YOU (your higher self) take care of it."
There is a book that has helped me a lot. It is called "A Course in Miracles". I suggest, after reading the Prologue, do the lessons in Part II, first.
Big hug.
2007-08-07 23:58:47 · answer #1 · answered by mariskalen kampf Strudl v.Wurst! 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just think about g-d forbid if you did not have healthy children, a loving wife, and a job.
Maybe you should try getting away together for a while with your wife, and spice up your life. It sounds like you are in a rut, and the rut will eventually turn into quicksand. You also might be going through male menopause. Or to use another term mid life crisis. It happens in men when they look back and say subconsciously to themselves "what did I accomplish in life, and where am I going"? The 40's is when it usually strikes.
If you do have children, then you have so much to look forward to. Marrying them off, planning their wedding, eventually having grandchildren. These are all special, and happy occasions you have to look forward too.
Hope I helped you, bless you, and good luck.
2007-08-07 21:54:18 · answer #2 · answered by michelebaruch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Dude! Time to get a motorcycle....
Seriously, try and find the small things inside your work that you DO like. It's usually something that you haven't noticed consciously before now. Whenever you are involved with that constructive thing or activity, you will feel that time passes in an instant (being in "flow"), and that you feel that you've done something worthwhile.
This is the place you should look for more 'happy' and develop your career towards that direction.
I highly recommend taking Steven Covey's Seven Habits of Highly Effective People as a personal course, which will help you find out what will light your fire - and start taking action.
Kindest regards
L81ker.
2007-08-07 22:36:22 · answer #3 · answered by Trucksearcher 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You appear to be reasonably well settled and quite happy as well.I think you are now feeling the need for a mid course correction and reset your bearings.Take some time off and involve your wife and close friends to discuss the issue as if it pertains to a third person[no emotional involvement of anybody].Be on it and may even earmark few minutes everyday to brood over it.Gradually a picture shall emerge but keep on it till you come to a stage which satisfies you.Mind you, this is also a stage from where some people have embarked on to the entirely new ventures and made a name for themselves and the society they lived in.Good luck.
2007-08-08 01:35:20 · answer #4 · answered by brkshandilya 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Look around for a new job. Find a career that will allow you to pay the bills, but at the very least one that you find some what rewarding.
There are few rewards greating than feeling fulfilled.
2007-08-08 08:23:54 · answer #5 · answered by God Only Knows 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because happy is feelings and you can learn how to be happy. It's not your job, even if you like it. You have feelings, you have thoughts, you have a job they aren't you and don't make you happy. How you manage them does. It's hard to explain. Try a book called "Emotional Intelligence" it should be pretty good.
2007-08-07 23:23:37 · answer #6 · answered by hb12 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take a mini vacation and relax. Think about what you wanted to do when you were a kid. If that doesn`t help, try new things.
2007-08-07 21:38:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋