I'm shy at asking permission from the players there in my school if I could join their trainings. Maybe a reason for this is because I'm not so good at soccer. One time, I was close to joining, I have my sports attire on, then when I went there, I'm having second thoughts. I'm nervous at asking some of the players there because they all are good. Then after all of that, I decided just to leave. This made my self-esteem worse. Being not at all good at this sport is not the problem because I know that I can improve. The problem really is how I can initiate and ask the players there to let me join. How could I overcome this shyness?
2007-08-07 20:41:37 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Other - Social Science
Tell them! It's that simple. If you really want to be on that training, you better be brave enough to ask, because if you don't, the only person you can blame is yourself for not doing anything. And you don't want to hate yourself over that, do you?
2007-08-07 21:56:57 · answer #1 · answered by Redeemer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The solution to shyness is reasonably simple, I should know. Wear your regular cloths and imagine between now and the interview that you are a very good player. What a person you admire would act , feel, move, think, etc. like, then you will be thinking like them and you will be them. After all you are not your thoughts, you have thoughts and personality is only what you think you are and you are not that. Use only descriptive words, they are more accurate and scientific. Judgmental words are opinions and what you thought, sometimes decades ago. They are not living in the moment. We think we ARE what we think, so don't use judgmental words so they won't come back to haunt you as the mind will bite you back with negative or judgmental words. And listen to you intuition more, like everyone else, and less to your thoughts, although intuition also comes in thoughts you have to distinguish the two. Intuition is more your real thoughts if you can get around your opinion, programming etc. and they don't seem right because they are new and foreign to you, the ones you usually dismiss. The thought to try out was intuition, being on the team you learn a lot including social skills. The negative stuff was your second thought's, as they call them. My intuition is usually my second and third thoughts, the first one gets by too quckly for me often. It's a powerful mind back there.
Do that and you will believe in miracles if you keep it up and learn about emotional intelligence, intuition and anything that jumps out to you as useful and interesting. I went from nerd to popular, getting compiments I had never heard before. It ups you IQ and social skill to above average, even half way to genius and etc. too long to list. Being humble will be a problem so watch your driving, be alert when alert is required. You will reach deeper emotions but have the skills to handle them so shrug off negative emotions mostly, it's just energy on a negative thought which may only be slightly true. Put your mind on something positive and the energy will come over there, energy is really neutral and goes where your thoughts go. The only other caveat is to maintain it daily as negativity creeps in daily in this society and due to bad habits of thinking that we all have. Don't you have to ask the coach? You can ask the players about how to get on the team and the weather, easy stuff to get them on your side and you get to know them. When your full emotionally you automatically look out of yourself, love people and are interested in them. You don't judge them and you figure people don't judge that much either. If they do, they don't know, mean no harm or have a little problem you can help them with and it mostly roles off your back.That's the mindshift going on now.
2007-08-08 04:45:35 · answer #2 · answered by hb12 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Much like riding a roller coaster for the first time, you simply have to do it. Don't be afraid of (or even bother analyzing) the possible outcomes of asking to join the team. If you try and fail, at least you tried, if you never try, you're just going to live with tons of regrets.
2007-08-08 04:25:37 · answer #3 · answered by Mark L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just take a big breath and join. . .most all of your fear lies in being rejected by the other players. They will not reject you because they all have one thing in common; They LOVE Soccer, just like you. If they didn't, they wouldn't be there. Know that you have that in common with them and, as I said before, take a big breath and just ask. I promise you, they will not say no. . .Good Luck xoxox
2007-08-08 03:49:43 · answer #4 · answered by greenbull21 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
guys usually arent as malicious as girls just walk up to them and ask them why should be afraid of a human being like you walk up to them and whatever their answer your life will go on you have a right tot be on this earth just like any other huiman being so jst goo up to them and feel nohting
2007-08-08 03:45:25 · answer #5 · answered by ladyluck 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋