My daughters mother in law has made some nasty comments about my daughter and my granddaughter.?

Question

The comments were pertaining to my daughters weight after she had her baby, she also keeps making comments about my gorgeous granddaughter whose birth weight was 5kg.
I have already abused her over this but she keeps making these comments. Has anyone any ideas to get her off my daughters back other than buying a gun. By the way this woman polishes of 30 cans of full strength beer a day and the baby's baptism is coming up in a couple of months.

Fearlabave your a 20 something that has had no experience with daughters or nasty mothers in law. I abused her because she deserved it, and I do not have any sort of relationship with her (my choice) because that is impossible for her due to her drinking. What I am asking is for some ideas to deal with an nasty alcoholic who I have to unfortunately have something to do with.

Answer 1

Ahhhhh she is a drunk.. Unfortunately she wont listen to reason. She is a bitter woman...
About the only thing your daughter can do, IS TO STAY FAR away from that woman, Even if she has to be around her on occasions is for her to stay at a distance.
Your daughter needs to talk to her hubby and HE needs to confront his mother about her behavior. Hopefully he will.

Good luck and Congratulations on your Granddaughter.

~faith

Answer 2

First of all no one should be abused. Not quite sure what you mean by that. Isn't your daughter a grown adult and the situation should be handled between herself and her husband? You should not be interfering.

Second of all, I do have an idea how you feel. Our son's mother-in-law is rather rude to our family. It is somewhat difficult to be around her when need be with her better than everyone attitude.

Answer 3

2 comments she has made tells me that here is a mentality you will never reason with, the one about your daughters weight after a baby, come on, thats as part of having a baby as labour pains and nappy changing is, and to talk about her own grandaughter??? Plainly you will never win a battle with someone who thinks like this, and to throw alcohol into the mix???
if i were your daughter i would keep contact to the bare minimum until the baptism, and once it were over i would sever contact all together, this is one individual i would not want my baby around someone as abusive, to themselves, and them around them as this poisonous woman is, grandmother or not
a grandmother is someone who comforts & cherishes a little one, and this little girl has that in you, she will be missing out on nothing by not having this woman in her life, except maybe heartache, support as you clearly have been, dont stoop to this womans level, and enjoy your little grandaughter, good luck to all of you

Answer 4

Hi - as I stated before I am very sorry and I misread the question, you are absolutely right to be mad!

In terms of "this woman" I was referring to your mother in law if that helps, any??

Anyway, sorry for any grief. Also "your" is possessive, "you're" is the contraction of "you are".

This woman is sick and needs help.

As for you - don't "abuse" her about anything! That's not okay!

Sounds like you two have an unhealthy relationship.

I'm a jerk and totally didn't read the whole comment. I apologize.

Let's rephrase:

This woman is a total *****. She is an alcoholic and needs treatment and counseling. She is abusive to others and sounds like she's a bit antisocial.

Sorry about earlier, my mistake!

Answer 5

Talk to your son-in-law and see if he knows about these things, he should be able to straighten his mother out.

Good luck with everything.