My wife's left me for about 6 month with another man. I am despert and lonely. I don't know what should I do? I love my wife so much.
2007-08-07 20:38:47 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What you are going through is the most painful experience you will ever go through. You feel so helpless, i know when my husband did it to me i just wanted to go and shake some sense into him and make him come home.What do you do when you can't talk to them the way you once did.One thing that was really hard was talking to him all nice and calm but on the in side i wanted to take him in my arms and never let him go. My husband did come back after 2 1/2 years but during that time we started dating again having fun with each other like we did before we were married. I had to wait it out in hopes he came to his sence.and he did.
2007-08-07 23:34:34 · answer #1 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's not gonna be easy. You are hurt from the loss, hurt from betrayal, and the change in routine doesn't help either. It's going to take time..you can either lose contact with her and move on by going out more or just staying in and going through the motions the hard way..or you could try to be in touch, stay a friend somehow..that will help heal things maybe later on if you give it a shot.. the truth is you will always love her no matter what- the only difference is now you neeed to have a daily life/ routine that doesn't include her, and you need to get used to it..only then will you be able to start thinking or feeling you can have a new relationship with someone else..
Take Care!
2007-08-07 20:50:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reality is that your hurting and right now you need to think about yourself not your wife. Because she is surely not thinking of you. I sorry that you are experiencing this hurtful situation. Have you've ever thought you might be too good for this woman you call your wife.
Reinvent your spiritual, mental and emotional self. When love is torn for any reason this is time to get in tune with yourself. Examine what really makes you happy, content, peaceful, creative, exciting and energetic. Remember certain people can bring out the best in you or worse in you...you make the decision that is going up lift you and positive in a loving way. God Bless.
Put Jesus in you life first and he'll give you your hearts desire. God Bless
2007-08-07 21:49:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First : u must know what's the cause that ur wife left u..
Is it lack of attention or love from u that y she left.?
no point thinking of her since she happily with another man.
2nd : Its not end of the world maybe u might find better than her. Go out and njoy urself and find new friends so can forget about her.
2007-08-07 21:12:06 · answer #4 · answered by anna69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ack! Divorce the woman! Now!
Start building up your self respect immediately. Step one is to toss this woman out of your life - she has disrespected you as a person and will do so again.
I'm so sorry, this must be very difficult for you! If you have other friends you should get them to start taking you out and introducing you to new people - new friends, not just potential lovers.
Don't forget the old saw: the best way to get over somebody is to get under somebody!
Sex is just a temporary fix. Start doing things for YOU so that you can start to like yourself again.
Good luck!
2007-08-07 20:50:57 · answer #5 · answered by fearlabave 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife left you for another man and you're still moping around? I say forget her and move on. It's obvious she doesn't love you nor want you anymore so why should you stand around moping and pining for her?
You say you still love her but do you really or is that just the lonliness talking? Think about that.
Pull up your bootstraps and get moving Honey, she ain't coming back! Get out, mingle with friends, find someone else to date and find someone else who will treat you better than she did.
Oh and file for divorce before she comes back and decides to take your butt to the cleaners!!!
2007-08-07 20:52:29 · answer #6 · answered by MamaB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has been six months, as upset as you may be about your break-up, you need to realize that life does go on and you need to move on. Your ex has, and its not healthy or helpful for you to cling on to something that is gone.
Try to concentrate on your work, friends and other family members.
Involve yourself : volunteer in your community, join a gym, join a country club or become a member of a church.
Pick up a hobby (tennis, golf, woodworking, painting) something to help you relax and focus on a new start.
It has been six months so maybe you'd like to consider dating again. If anything you may meet a great friend in the process.
Best of Luck to you!
2007-08-07 21:01:37 · answer #7 · answered by rose 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel. My husband found another woman around the same time. I know how you feel sad, numb, angry, lost and alone...all at the same time.
I truly wish I had some magic words to help stop your hurting. All I know is that prayer has helped me through. I've poured my heart out to God. I've laid my fears and hurt at His feet and He always listens.
I got counseling and I'm learning how to be a "me" instead of a "we". It isn't easy. I don't know how long your marriage was, but we had a 20 year relationship and its taking time to learn that I CAN live without him. I might not like it, but I can make it.
I'm trying to do more things...even when I don't feel like it. Things like exercise, going to a movie, getting together with friends and family.
I'm sorry you're going through this. I'll say prayers for you.
2007-08-07 20:49:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about that man but its clear what you need to do.
Move on find another woman
Your a free man now, don't look back at her she left you so you know that you can't trust her no more.
Find someone else and when you find someone that is hotter than her, make sure she see's so you can gloat about it because revenge is the sweetest joy next to getting.........Tushy. Tupac, edited by HITMAN
2007-08-07 20:53:04 · answer #9 · answered by HITMAN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't continue to invest your feelings with someone who won't return them. Your wife left, and even if she came back..who's to say that she wouldn't do it again.
Move on, there are better people out there who are willing to treat you with the respect you much deserve. She's the one at loss, not you.
It's natural to still have feelings for her, right now concentrate on you and work and then when ready move into the dating scene again.
2007-08-07 20:50:50 · answer #10 · answered by Marissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋