my friend is obsessed...?

Question

my friend, tyler, is obsessed with skateboarding. i like extreme sports too, but he truly is obsessed. he has already broken his arm falling off of a ramp. ok, this next part is dorky. another friend, me and tyler like stuff to do with ninjas, we make our own weapons, do research (and not to mention, we keep ourselves fit and healthy with ninja like exercises...) we are all fourteen. and tyler took up skateboarding, and he does crazy stuff... he is growing apart from us, and i need some ideas to help prevent that... we love videogames and tyler sold his gamecube and all his games. he now only plays rented skating games. he has pretty much traded in our group of friends for the skaters. i think it is all right for him to skate, but i don't think it is healthy for him to focus all energy towards it. one day i think he will all of a sudden get bored, and he will wish he didn't ditch us for skating, or he will get hurt (my brother did permanant damage to his shoulder skating... do i have

to let him make his own mistakes?

see, i told you we are dorky... but we make the traditional weapons, and do the training like they did... we don't dress in black and run around like five year olds... although it is fun to do... (jk) it is kind of like a little group we have while we learn martial arts...

and i said i do skate. i have gashes in my legs, and hips from it... i just don't focus my life around it...

and thugmisses, all caps is considered yelling online. please refrain from doing that in the future.

Answer 1

o dude like a skate a lot and stuff and i think that u guys shuld skate wit him but also play ur ninja stuff and video games wit him 2 that way u remain frends but u hav fun doin both things mayb u shuld also be frends wit his frends and vice versa

Answer 2

It hurts to let friends make they're own mistakes, doesn't it? What if you all go to a movie, or to the arcade and buy a pizza (to rekindle the videogame memories) together with him? maybe he'll remember all the great times. If he still distances himself, you might just have to come to terms with the fact that you all are indeed growing apart. It is part of maturing; learning to deal with growing apart from friends. You're probably right that he will realize he made a mistake, so if he does come back to you guys, keep him as a friend... you won't be as close as before, though.

And doing ninja stuff isn't dorky. One day my friend and I went outside, jumped on my trampoline and screamed "I do belive in fairies, I do, I do!". And this year when changed "Mary Had a Little Lamb" to "Mary Was a Little Whore". Heehee. it's the fun part of being our age... and know that you will suceed later in life because you have the confidence to do things like that. :-)

Answer 3

You're 14 years old and that is an age where people change a lot. You will find that friends start to go in different directions sometimes. When you're in your teens, you're all trying to find your true identity... He seems to be trying to find himself and is changing. There's nothing you can do to change that :)

It sounds like he loves to skate, which can be dangerous, but hey, a lot of people are into it! It sucks that you guys aren't as into it as he is.

My advice is to accept the change and try to keep in touch. You probably will drift apart some, but if you hang out a little, you can still be friends! Be prepared for more of this! It's only the beginning :) I had different best friends every couple of years. It's only natural to the growing process.

Answer 4

Give him a harsh reality check. Something to really look at this from your point of view. Talking won't really help. Make some sort of arrangement to which he can't get to thanks to skating. And then make him feel bad about it. The guilt trip should make him wake up a little bit. Sure, it's not the nicest way to go about it, but it'll be effective. You want your friend back, don't you? Anyway, my point is- make him feel guilty about something skateboarding-wise. He'll have his head straight after that. Or you can just kill his skateboard. All of them.

Answer 5

have u tried talking to him? if that didn't work, i think this is one those things that he needs to find out for himself. but whatever u do, don't ditch him. he may be obsessed with skates and extreme sports but he's still ur friend, right? show him how mch u guys care about him and i'm sure in time he'll realise that. though it might take a while.

Answer 6

everyone has diff ways of seeing things and things they like more so heck yall are young and do what makes u happy just because u dont like it as much as dont say he has to step to ur level but if u feel that is all he does and not time with u and other friends then tell him bout how u feel and stuff that u dont want to loose ur friendship with him

Answer 7

It is not your place to tell him anything. It is his parents place. He may be a famous skateboarder one day, who knows. Anyway, just invite him over for games. If he refuses, there is nothing you can do.

Answer 8

talk to him about how you feel and if he doesn't listen then leave him alone. sometimes people have to make their own mistakes in order to learn a lesson. and if he apologizes to u after that then accept it

Answer 9

ok first, hes not makin any mistakes. hes just growin up. no offense but im not surprised hes driftin away frum u guys cuz playin ninja at 14? that is soooooooooooo LAME......

ur friend seems 2 see my point........

Answer 10

HE HIS JUST NOT A QUITTER AND IF HE FALLS DOWN HE GETS UP AND TRIES AGAIN U SHOULD TRY IT