Should i birth this baby?

Question

Ok i am 14 and me and my boyfriend have only had sex 2 times and now i am pregant!I know i am 2 young but is that the reson i should give up the baby?

Answer 1

You should have the baby and give it up for adoption and then you should not have any more sex until you are married!!!

Answer 2

My oldest sister got pregnant at 16 and gave her baby up, she regrets it to this day. She now has three other children by her now husband, but she always wishes that she could have kept her baby so they could be a whole family. Just remember that what you do now will follow you through your future. Being young isn't a reason to give up a baby, a friend of mine had her first baby at 14 and she has done great in life. It depends on your situation, if you think it would be the best thing for your baby, then go for it. If you think you can buck up to the challenge of being a mommy, then do it and don't let anyone tell you not too. If you have help from family and friends then you will do just fine.

Answer 3

Well hon you should have thought about being too young to be pregnant when you had sex. You were grown up enough to have sex or so you thought. Now you need to deal with consequences of your actions. Best make an appointment with a consular of some sort. Adoption could be a positive; the baby would be going to someone actual ready to parent, someone not still a child themselves. You could go with a semi or open adoption where you’d be able to see your birth child a few times a year (or more), or at least photos. Each one differs.

Answer 4

I feel bad for your situation. Personally, I think you are too young to even be having sex. I do think you need to talk to your parents or someone older that is similar to a parental figure to you before you make a permanent decision that will affect you and your child. Age is not an excuse to give up your baby. If you thought you were old enough and mature enough to have sex, than why not care for this child that you made. However, the decision is completely yours. And before you have sex again please make sure you are able to handle whatever responsibility comes along with it. Pregnancy is only one concern. There are also STD's as well as AIDS out there to worry about. If it sounds like I'm trying to scare you, than good. Unprotected sex is nothing to joke about. AIDS does not discriminate not even to a 14 year old school girl.

Answer 5

Bless your heart...

This really hits home with me since my husband of 10 years was adopted... His mother was 14 when she gave birth to him.

She kept him the first 6 weeks of his life but then gave him for adoption due to lack of support and help from her family. She loved him so much to give him up.

He's had a wonderful life and knows he has a full blooded brother and 2 half sisters...

Now, I have 2 sons and a daughter... Though it's your choice to do what you will... Me as a mother would be heart broken to let my grandchild go.

Have you spoke to your parents? Do you have their support? Do you want to keep the baby? Have you looked into adoption? Open adoption? I know that my husband and I have talked about an open adoption. We would LOVE another child but I can't have anymore...

There are many people out there that want open adoptions! This could be a blessing to you knowing that you would give your child to a loving couple and still be a part of the childs life! Open adoptions are different in certain cases... I know of adoptions where the birth mother is a big part in the childs life and then there are others where the birth mother is only given pictures of the child but is kept up to date...

You are young and you need to figure out your future and the future of the unborn child. This is why I say speak to your parents...

I know that I would raise my grandchild until mommy/daddy were out of college... That's just me though...

You are in my prayers with this decision you must make but you are the only one that can make it.

Answer 6

giving up a baby is a rough decision and you should really think about what would be best for you and your baby. Yes you are young but your age is not a reason to give up a baby, it is a lifechanging decision. If you do choose to go with adoption then that would be your choice and you could always go for open adoption to know the child but if you have a family willing to help you then if you want to keep the baby then keep the baby. It is your baby your decision right now.

Answer 7

yes....for adoption. Unless your parents are gonna help you and I doubt they'll be real thrilled about that. so, forget about you're too young for sex...it is what it is - you are pregnant. now what? well, you need to think about it.

Having a child isn't fun and games. It's not like babysitting the neighbors kid - you can't send it home. You are responsible for everything - all hours of the day!! It's the most important job you will ever have in your life! This is another human being, a life you have created. Now you need to figure out what is best for the baby. not you. Can you devote your life to the child? Can you afford it? Can you love the baby as a child of your own and not like it's your friend? cuz that's a huge mistake. What kind of life will the baby have? I'm not saying you're not capable of loving the child at all, I'm saying you need to think of the big picture. not just right now.

I wish you the best of luck in whatever you decide.

P.S. and don't think for a minute your b/f is gonna be there forever, I don't care how many times he says it, or promises it. This relationship is temporary, I can promise you that much and I don't mean to sound mean about it - I'm not trying to at all. Just want you to know what you're headed for.

Answer 8

Your 14!You should confide in your boyfriend about this. You both handled the situation in the bed and the aftermath of it should be handled by you both. The values of life that were instilled in you heart by your parent s will prove less costly of the decision you make. Give birth. You are feeling guilty which you should emotionally and physically. You are about to create life and you wanna end it just because of sex. Sex has consequences face them like you faced your boyfriend in the bed I suggest. I will back you up not as a stranger but as your friend.

Answer 9

Definitely have the baby. If you are unable to care for the baby yourself, or with your family's help and support, then you should place the baby up for adoption. You could even go the open adoption route, where you could still be a part of the child's life if you'd like. There are so many wonderful people out there who would love to give your child a loving and stable home. If you were to have an abortion, you'd likely regret it.

Answer 10

Being too young is a good reason not to have sex. Since, you didn't ask for advice about that, the best thing to do is to have the baby and give him/her up for adoption. He/she will get a much better chance to have a normal life with responsible people to take care of him/her. Don't make things worse by having an abortion. You will regret it for the rest of your life. There is a person growing inside of you.

Answer 11

if you do not want to give up the baby then you have to do a lot of growing up in a very short amount of time...you are too young to get a job right now but there are other things that you can do to get prepared, such as, start taking your prenatal vitamins, and schedule a doctors appointment...you and your boyfriend should have known before you had sex that it only takes one time to get pregnant and you should have been more responsible and used protection...i wish you the best