The pool's swim coach is about to retire after 30 years. He's famous for one thing, paying attention the ones with "potential", and ignoring everyone else.
Ever since I was 8, I went to swimming classes with him, but I never learned to swim because he would only pay attention to the taller boys while he left the rest of us to playing in the pool. I was in swim classes for 3 years, but I never learned to swim. I was too short for him to waste his time on me.
My mom took me to another pool, and on one season this coach taught me to swim, but he left to a better job.
I kept swimming on my own with a lot of discipline. By 17, I was reaching competitive times. It was then the coach who always ignored me asked to join the team. But I said NO.
For 7 years I've been competing independently even against the team from the pool I swim at. Sometimes I've won at a some meets more medald than the rest of the team from pool I swim at combined.
He's retiring, what should I do?
2007-08-07 18:32:11 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Sports ➔ Swimming & Diving
If he was "too good" to pay attention to you I think you did the right think by declining his invitation to the team. Personally I don't think you need to do anything now that he is retiring, he's just some guy that didn't even do his job. You don't need to have a grudge but you don't need to give him undue praise either.
2007-08-07 18:45:30 · answer #1 · answered by C7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi
One of the hardest thing to do , perphaps even harder than swimming training/sets /winning itself is to be able to forgive . If you could forgive and forget , that proves that you have true sportsmanship. You will have the courage to move on and have a more fulfilling life forward.
Besides , by joining the team , the coach might realise his carelessness of not paying attention to the whole class previously and he might start to change for the better , advicing other coaches to pay attention to everyone especially the young ones deemed ''less potential"
cheers
2007-08-07 20:08:04 · answer #2 · answered by Mimic Octopus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are old enough to let it go. Enough time has passed where it no longer affects your everyday life.
You don't have to like the person, still, if you don't want to, but let go your resentment and pat yourself on the back for making it on your own without him. It is still an achievement to rise above such a circumstance and be better than you had to be. For that I say, "Way to go!"
But it is over now. Let it go and move forward. He's now just another person in your past, and he can stay there, and that's okay.
2007-08-07 18:43:47 · answer #3 · answered by enn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do the right thing and make up. Its one thing carrying a grudge for that lenght of time, and its another admitting that you have Grown Up and moved beyond that stage.
2007-08-07 18:45:09 · answer #4 · answered by conundrum 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let it go and talk to him.
2007-08-08 02:33:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
say sorry and forget it
2007-08-08 13:54:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋