I've never been able to make friends but every one I talked to in high school said that it would be easier in University. I tried, I was outgoing and friendly and listened to people (while being very careful not to push too hard), but it still didn't happen. Now all summer so many people are going on road trips with their friends and trips to the lake and I just play video games when I'm not working.
2007-08-07 18:26:38 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I was confident, it's just over the summer that I've realized that I failed again.
2007-08-07 18:38:09 · update #1
keep trying. it's hard to make NEW friends as we become older. everyone has their set of friends already and are not obligated to make new ones. but i suggest to turn off the console and do something active. go to the gym, swim, library. something. and sooner or later you will meet that person. seriously!
2007-08-07 18:32:20 · answer #1 · answered by skeezbucket 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have some self confidence and understand your own qualities - I'm sure people would love to be your friend - but maybe you put up a barrier and they're not sure about you. Be open and friendly. Join clubs. Get fellow students email addresses or phone numbers and contact them outside Uni times, to discuss assignments or weekend plans. You need to force yourself to open up and become the person you want to be. Don't forget to smile.
2007-08-07 18:32:03 · answer #2 · answered by Sunny 1st 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it more that nobody wants to be your friend, or is it more that you don't want to be friends with the people you meet?
That really sucks. What I did when I got to university was purposefully go over to groups of other people who I thought were interesting. It was intimidating at first, but people were way more accepting than I thought they might be.
People are so exited and eager to meet new people at university. I can't imagine that nobody at all would want to be friends with you. Maybe you need to be more outgoing or something?
2007-08-07 18:29:20 · answer #3 · answered by Underground Man 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Plan something and invite some of your classmates. Like for instance, a concert. Tell them that you would like to go, but don't want to go by yourself and as if they would like to go too. Join some of the clubs on campus too!!
2007-08-07 18:30:18 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey.. you know wat your problem is?? i think this feeling that you are socially inept is sort of deeply planted in ur head..
well.. im a lil introverted too and even i listen better than i talk but there is a better weapon than either of them.. "smile"..
one genuine smile tat reaches your eyes will win you loads of friends.. jus smile whenever you come across a familiar face(well no too much cuz tat might freak them out).. and i'd advise you to sign up to be a member of whichever organization you are interested in.. tat will help you get to know a lot more people..
and yeah hold ur head high and enjoy life..
once ur happy with yourself.. it will reflect on ur behaviour and ppl will automatically flock to you..
good luck honey..
cheers :)
2007-08-07 18:34:53 · answer #5 · answered by sindu 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Try a club or organized activity next semester.
2007-08-07 18:29:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are too shy. Ask for their numbers, give them yours. And talk, nobody likes a listener these days.
2007-08-07 18:28:55 · answer #7 · answered by Renegade 411 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe ur confused about the word outgoing with annoying
2007-08-07 18:30:49 · answer #8 · answered by paul 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should try to hang out with them and other groups too..
2007-08-07 18:30:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋