Is 18 to young to get engaged if you've been with the guy for 3 years?

Answer 1

In my opinion, yes. If you're 18, you probably just graduated high school (or are getting close). In my experience, people change and grow a lot after high school as they get out into the real world or college. With so much growth and transition, it is definitely NOT the time to get married. It's important for you to grow and find out who you are and if this guy is right for you. If you guys have a real relationship, it will survive the transitions and growth at which point you can then get married! True love can wait!

Answer 2

From my personal experience yes. I dated a guy for 7 years. We started dating when I was 16. We were engaged after about 3 years, like you. Well, 4 years later we were both totally different people. I guarantee you that things will change. There is a huge differance when your 18 and when your in your early to mid 20's. It just happens. I ended up in an abusive relationship. I'm not saying you will, but both of you will definately change. You'll both mature alot within the next few years. I have a whole different outlook and attitude now that I'm 26 than I did at 18. Everybody changes but thats a huge change. I mean you go from a hogh school student to having to be a responsible adult. He couldn't get out of that stage of being in high school, and hoonestly, it takes guys alot longer. If you love him you can stay engaged, but my advice hold it off for as long as you can.

Answer 3

It's not too young, however my concern is that you've been with this guy for 3 years already. How in the world have you been with enough guys to compare him to? You haven't. And while I know of several people who married their high school sweethearts and have had long, happy marriages, the bulk of those people wind up getting divorced. If you MUST get engaged, then at least wait several years before getting married. People do ALOT of growing up between 18 and 25, and they do alot of changing during that time as well. Also, you need to get a good education (college) and be able to support yourself before starting your own family by getting married.

Answer 4

Yep, 18 is too young to get engaged, no matter how long you've been with the guy.

If what you think you feel is real, it will wait till your 25. If you've been with this person since you were 15, you need to let yourself experience life before you get tied down.......and use protection!!!! Don't let an unplanned pregnancy plan the rest of your life!

Answer 5

Alot of people are going to say that you are to young but I honestly think you dont have to be any age to fall in love and I dont think it matters when you get married as long as you know hes the one if seen many relationship work and many dont work but another thing that might help our some views of underage marriage which is one tree hill i think its season 2 and there are a couple that get married but thats all acting its not real but you could also look at engaged and underage which would let you see some other point of views...hope this helps

Answer 6

I think so. There are too many changes (emotionally, morally -- i.e. what you value) that take place when you are in your twenties. I would give it five years and see if the relationship stands the test of time (obviously it is on its way). Wait, enjoy your life right now, have fun, and only settle into marriage after you are more mature and know exactly what you want in life. Trust me, the things you want and value will completely change by the time you are 23-25.

Answer 7

Only you can answer this question.
Your pregnant and about to have a baby.
He's the father, right?

If you are questioning the impending marriage, then I suggest you both get some counseling before the big day is even set.
Premarital counseling would help you both at this stage.
I'd also suggest you both taking a parenting class or two.

How far along are you now?
What did you decide on a name?
Good Luck!

Answer 8

18 is to young even if u have been with a guy for the 18 yrs

Answer 9

I have to go against being engaged.First of all,you are 18 and second,three years!?I suggest that you wait for at least two years before considering this again.18 is an age where you can get hurt really easily.

Answer 10

yes! I got married at 20 and there was so much more growing up that we both had to do it didn't survive. Now I am 29 with 2 kids and trying to get through college. Just wait you have already made it three years go to college and set out for a career if it makes it through that then you are set.