I loved him a lot, but then some problems parted our way. It is six months since I last talked to him; still I don't have the courage/urge/feelings to look for someone else to replace him. I feel like he lives within me although we dont talk. But I guess I need to move on. How? Any comments? I would love to hear your thoughts.
2007-08-07 18:14:49 · 12 answers · asked by applegoogle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I had that exact same thing that happened. But it's been 4 years since we talked.. I am now 20. I dated him when I was 16. It's really hard. About 2 years ago, I met a random friend with benefit and he ended up exceeding everything that the last guy was. I am now getting married to him and the guy from the past...stayed in the past.
Be patient.
I honestly think the best thing to do is talk with him and ask for some closure.
2007-08-07 18:20:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I understand it feels like a lifetime since u talked or have been with him... but
it hasn't been that long..... and it has been studied and it takes 1 year to 1 1/2 years to really move on...
You just have to focus on something else.. and not another man...
go out with the girls.. see ur family.. or get into a group of sports.. like bowling or something..
hang in there... i no the nights can be lonely.. u will even cry from time to time..
2007-08-08 01:26:49 · answer #2 · answered by ♥ Blondie ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. It's difficult to let go of someone when they have found a way into your heart and you truly loved them.
The first thing you need to do is to forgive yourself. Forgive yourself for whatever mistakes you think you made or whatever you feel you did poorly in the relationship. Forgive yourself. It wasn't your fault. You are a wonderful person.
Not only do you have to forgive yourself, you have to realize that you are alone and he's not going to come back. The truth is, you deserve someone who's going to stay forever. You deserve someone who is going to treat you the way you deserve to be treated. You deserve not to hurt anymore.
Maybe it's time to get back to who you really are; take some time to re-discover yourself, get new hobbies, make new friends.
If you can't replace him, then stop trying to. Just fill up your heart with other activities and people and I know that only good things will happen for you. In time, he will begin to fade and you will find your heart and soul ready to find love again.
Hang in there and remember that he will always be a part of your heart. But sometimes the best thing we can do is to let someone go so that we can find love again.
2007-08-08 01:26:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is difficult, and I'm sorry that your going through a tough time right at the moment, and I know you'll get alot of advice on time does heal. It truly does heal, but you also need to find some different activities that you've thought about trying out, to activate your mind in other areas instead of letting it vear off to him. I wish you well, in finding new things to try out, Take care, and good luck.
2007-08-08 01:26:47 · answer #4 · answered by Cindybear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
6 months isn't very long. It sounds like you need to do some soul searching. Find yourself again...what makes you happy? What do you enjoy? concentrate on being happy all on your own, whether it's through groups, volunteering, sports, church, just be happy. I really believe that everything happens for a reason, it's not just a cliche. You will end up a stronger and better person.
2007-08-08 01:21:41 · answer #5 · answered by lifeisgood 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when i broke my heart years ago, i was really hurt and is in pain. i tried to ignore but it always blocks my way, it changes my focus, and i was a mess!
then i realized, that when you try to forget someone, you fail because you conciously ignore these feelings of hurt, pain, abandonment, brokenheartedness, etc.
try to embrace your sadness, and your pain. let yourself feel the pain he had caused you. but of course, try to act ok in front of him and other people. but when you're alone, embrace these moments of sadness..then you'll see that slowly, you get numb and used to the feeling..and slowly, your mind clears, then you learn the art of letting go and moving on..
heal your pain with time, and engage yourself on another activity, like sports, or spend time with your family and friends.
don't ever look for someone to fill your emptiness, because for one, that's is unfair to that person, and unfair to yourself as well.
but never ever lose the faith in love. in time, you'll find the oen true person meant for you.
be thankful that you were given the opportunity to feel what "pain" and "sadness" is, coz from that, you'll appreciate what "happiness" really is
2007-08-08 01:40:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes time.
The fact that you're asking here shows that you're getting ready to move on.
Don't press it. It will happen.
In the meantime hang out with friends.
Don't do the 'hermit` thing.
Best of luck to ya.
2007-08-08 01:22:06 · answer #7 · answered by Irv S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweet Pea give yourself time to heal. When you do someone will come along and sweep you off your feet. Time heals all wounds. Good luck and keep your head up!
2007-08-08 01:22:02 · answer #8 · answered by b n real 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey you have moved on already. 6 months apart and no talking that's an indication of people who have moved on.
2007-08-08 01:29:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is nice to be in loved than never loved at all. You learned and you grow. Life is what you make it.
2007-08-08 01:27:42 · answer #10 · answered by Seph2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋