My future sister in law and I have been hanging out quite frequently. We've known each other for about 2 years now, but we've always had a hot/cold relationship. For a few weeks, we are chatting and friendly, for the next few weeks we don't really talk or see each other often.
We seem to be getting closer and more like friends. But, how close is too close? How friend-like is too friend-like?
This is my Fi's brother's wife.
Opinions?
If you have sister in laws, what is your relationship with them. I'm especially interested in the wives of spouses (like your husband's brother's wife as opposed to your husband's sister)
2007-08-07 18:13:47 · 10 answers · asked by Answer Girl 2007 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well my husband has 2 sisters. Both I don't get along with. Both for separate reasons. I didn't plan to not get along w/ them but I also didn't go into a relationship w/ my husband so I could be friends w/ them. We keep a civil tongue at family events. But for the most part I have no contact w/ them. I have my private social life, they got theirs.
2007-08-07 18:48:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband only has one brother. We were married for 10 years before his brother got married, and it was kind of hard for me to accept this new girl coming into the family. I really don't know why, but I definitely had jealousy toward her. There was nothing for me to be jealous of, so I don't understand why I felt that way. That could explain the hot/cold relationship that you have had. The more you get to know each other on a friendship basis, the less she will feel threatened by you...it sounds like that has already begun to happen. Once my sister in law and I started talking on the phone, we realized that we like each other. It surprised us both. Now we talk about twice a month, and see each other occasionally. We are both very busy. I think it's okay if you are friends. Don't be surprised if she is a little bitchy around the wedding time though. All that attention on you might make her moody. Just include her a lot. I think it's great that your friends.
2007-08-08 01:41:00 · answer #2 · answered by lifeisgood 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't know that there was such a thing as too friendly with family.
It's family support that holds relationships together. It's family support that gives one a sense of belonging and community. It's family support that helps you get through your worst times.
All I can say is thank God for my husband's sisters and his brother's wife. They've given me the sense of cohesiveness that my own sisters and family were never able to give me. In return, I'd do anything for them. Of course, we never talk about our sex lives or private things that our husbands wouldn't want us to share, but we're there for each other in all other aspects.
And, if his family thinks you're too distant or doesn't like you for some reason, that will affect your future husband and your relationship with him to an extent.
Go be part of the family!
2007-08-08 01:20:04 · answer #3 · answered by ann81969 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're making a bad mistake. You guys were hot and cold for a reason. You're just feeling all warm and bubbly inside with each other for now but that will subside due to the complications that will always arise with the fact you are married to her brother.
Be a good freind when you see her on holidays and things like that but never bring family that cvlose to your marriage. It's a killer.
Once again...ANN, there is a difference in Being a part of the family and inviting family into your marriage.
2007-08-08 01:19:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Far too many cynical people on here that think the worst.
One of my closest friends in the world is someone I run hot and cold with - it isn't due to an argument or anythng, it is because we both have busy lives and sometimes they get in the way of hanging out or seeing/talking - but we pick up right where we left off...and that is, to me what defines a great friendship.
She is my husband's sister...and I treasure her friendship - now going on 10 years, as much as I treasure my entire family.
There is never "too close" - what you are comfortable with - is right.
2007-08-08 01:47:15 · answer #5 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm careful about getting to close to my husband's brother's wife. We can talk and have a good time when we are together but - it doesn't go much past that. I'm grateful she lives 5 hours away.....
I'm careful because you never know what part of your conversation will be shared, or how much it will be taken out of context....Now maybe she wouldn't do that, but then again maybe she will.
By the way, this is the second wife for the brother....so they may come and they may go....
2007-08-08 01:51:12 · answer #6 · answered by rainy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never ever get to close to anyone who may or could in the future turn on u....
Your family is your back bone..
do not do or say anything at any time.... that she could black mail u in the future.. u never no when she will go cold for all times... and it will be bad for u...
2007-08-08 01:18:44 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ Blondie ♥ 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sweet Pea I think it is great to have a close relationship with you sis and law. My hubbie sis and i are very close to. good luck!
2007-08-08 01:24:25 · answer #8 · answered by b n real 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to friendly ? when u invite them over for sleep overs
2007-08-08 01:39:24 · answer #9 · answered by charlesjerrell 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ME NO WIFE/GOO...ME DUNO HEH!
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2007-08-08 01:33:37 · answer #10 · answered by Dongfeng!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋