I am 44,married and working witha pvt. sector. yesterday my coleguges some of them are known to me for seven years helda party in third floor ( i sit in ground floor) and did not invite me. It did not hurt me ,what shocked me is the girl who use to come to me for borrowing money, know her status as job secutity( iam close to management.) gave 50% of the party amount but did not call me . what this means?
is this girl just useing me?
how to tackle this girl in future?
2007-08-07 18:03:47 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
maybe, they just want to have fun without management knowing about it or they think you're not that much fun to be around or they think you wouldn't like to be in their company. i suggest you don't let her borrow from you from now on if she doesn't like your company
2007-08-07 18:11:40 · answer #1 · answered by mayo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, you are having trouble developing real friendships. And you didn't realize how much it meant to you until last night. You are desperate for lasting friendships.
You thought this girl was a friend, but she's just blowing your money. No more loans, cold shoulder for her.
I think work is not the right place to look for friends. Look at places more like yourself, like maybe a dog park, church, outdoor theater, cooking or building seminars.
Office relationships always get sticky. Man-woman, woman-woman, it doesn't matter. Treat these people like temporary characters. Don't get attached, and don't get overly personal. Look somewhere else for long-lasting relationships.
TX Mom
2007-08-15 20:51:35 · answer #2 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't feel bad about they aren't real friends anyways and i think that girl was just using you and the next time she comes to you for money then you should tell her that you no longer want to let her borrow money because of the unfriendly way that she treated you after you let her borrow your hard earned money. but i think you should give everyone on floor three a cold shoulder for a while until you feel better emotionally about the situation.
2007-08-14 19:26:21 · answer #3 · answered by lil bad azz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really can't believe that you shed a tear or lost a minutes sleep over this situation. You are so lucky to have found out about her true colors. Respect your position of being close to management and remember not to let someone like her take advantage of you again.
2007-08-14 19:50:27 · answer #4 · answered by jcf6865 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I know the feeling, well we live and learn. Everybody is not who we think they are. When she come to u again asking to borrow money, tell her you don't have money to loan out.
2007-08-14 21:33:31 · answer #5 · answered by dbrh_soto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yes big time you are being used, My advice to you is to not borrow this girl any more funds at all.
2007-08-08 01:14:51 · answer #6 · answered by Cindybear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has totally been using you. When she asks you for money the next time, say sure. go in your purse and hand her a bill EXAMPLE:
$______-date(from begining)
$______-date(last time b4 party)
$______-date-of Party that I wasn't invited to
then tell her, I will loan you more money when you pay this bill
2007-08-15 22:38:09 · answer #7 · answered by Tina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, she is using you. Do not ever give her money again. What a hag!
2007-08-15 17:08:35 · answer #8 · answered by Jan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
learn the word no.
2007-08-15 22:14:00 · answer #9 · answered by misspocketbook2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋