I have been married for 12 years now to a wonderful guy. My problem is that I had a one night stand with my first love (an ex-boyfriend of mine). I ran into him back in April and we had sex. It wasn't the best but it meant so much to me since he was my first love. After several months, I decided to call him (he wanted me to). Now he acts like he NEVER knew me. I am very hurt because he was a very special person in my life (relationship lasted 4 years) and now he acts like nothing. I know that we have separate lives now but I just can't get over the fact of what happened between us in April. Especially now that he acts like nothing happened in April. I don't know what is going through me right now. Please help!
2007-08-07 17:47:39 · 11 answers · asked by Mary S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you need to understand that you have moved on with your life and so has he you are now married you brought back old memories from th past you cant undo your actions but realize that he's in your past for a reason he was meant to be there and stay there its not easy to be put aside by someone who meant so much to you but focus on your present you seem happilly married so why risk ruining that for a man who obviously didnt share the same feelings that you did after you met up with him. You need to dig deep inside you and ask yourself what do i really want because your ex can come back in your life at anytime like he has before and what are you going to do then?
2007-08-07 18:01:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you need to tell ur Husband. You two can work together on this and the reason why you cheated.Sorry but for a couple to be married that long, there has to be some kind of problem or problems going on in the relationship to make one cheat. Talk to ur Husband tell him what happen, tell him what made you cheat. He will help you get through this..As far as the other guy, it is obvious he don`t want anything to do with you now he got what he wanted and that was that. Forget about him You need to work on ur marriage...
Good Luck
2007-08-08 00:57:13 · answer #2 · answered by babycakesconner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should ask yourself why you are pining away for this guy who you cheated with who completely ignores you but meanwhile have a perfectly good *husband* at home.
Perhaps you are missing something within yourself and you need to figure out what that is.
If this guy thought you were as special as you do him, he would have never treated you this way. He probably didn't realize how much you cared and quite frankly, didn't care--he just saw an opportunity to sleep with you and took it.
Whatever the case, you deserve SO much better. You deserve a wonderful man who is going to love you, take care of you, and marry you. Maybe it's time you gave your husband another chance to be that person.
Good luck.
2007-08-08 01:08:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweet Pea i think that is a sign that you need to pay more attention to your wonderful hubbie than this guy. He was obviously after one thing he got it and probably felt the same as you, it wasn't all that good. Let it go focus on your hubbie, and you will be alright. Good luck!
2007-08-08 00:56:13 · answer #4 · answered by b n real 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are married to a wonderful guy as you say. Don't get confused over a feeling you have with a guy that doesn't even acknowledge you anymore. Forget him, and start doing things with your husband. Don't mess up your life with these feelings.
2007-08-08 01:07:28 · answer #5 · answered by pattimaris1675@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what most women do in your exact situation. Cheat more, and that will fix everything. How can you respect a woman that cheats in a marriage. That's probably why he wants nothing to do with you. I know I wouldn't !
2007-08-08 01:11:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was using you for the sex. Pure and simple. Get over it, move on and thank your lucky stars you're husband doesn't know.
2007-08-08 01:00:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey... get over it...
He was a warrior.. and he came to conquer his quest.. and that was to go to bed with u...
he did...
and now it is over...
U were toooo e-z...
sad.. but true...
You cheated on ur hubby.. for this creep?? u should be ashamed...
2007-08-08 01:33:15 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ Blondie ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why is everyone so nice to a woman when she cheats, and there ready to hang the man when he confesses
2007-08-08 00:59:08 · answer #9 · answered by charlesjerrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a deep breath and move on.. Count yourself lucky your husband doesn't know.
You are a grown up- you made promises.
2007-08-08 00:51:53 · answer #10 · answered by Christine H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋