Should I break his heart or break my parent's trust?

Question

So, I'm not allowed to date until I'm 16.
I'll be turning 15 in october, by the way.
Just about a month ago i starting dating one particular guy.
Secretly of course.
I like him a lot but I've never met him in person. This being because I'm not allowed to date. He lives just a few blocks from my house and i can't walk to his house because of the fact that my parents don't even trust me to do that.(how lame is that)

I feel like us not being able to see eachother is holding down this relationship. Should I just breakup with him and let him be free until i turn 16?

Do you think he'll find someone new and not return to me when i'm 16? He always claims we're soulmates.

Thank you chad for your big mouth comments.

My parents actually trust me a lot because I'm a goodie. I'm not rebelious either, thank you very much. In fact, i am an honors student.

Answer 1

To be honest you should have told him up front your parents won't allow you to date until then. I mean you could have spent all that time actually getitng to know each other as friends first. I have been told once that with each year you get older you are supposed to learn more than you have fro the last year. I feel this is true. So I mean if you have been seeing this guy in secert while you have been 14 or so, then it was ok for you. But now you are turning 15 and realizing that maybe you are hurting him by going against your parents. And probably when you turn 16 you will realize he isn't even your real soulmate. So I say just end things for now and try and be friends with him and get to know more of what he is really about. Because if it every gets back to your parents you went against their wishes they may move up your dating age to 18 or something since they feel you are so adult and such to be making decisions behind their back. So slow things down and explain more to your boyfriend your situation before things get you into more trouble.

Answer 2

You may think that what there doing is lame but they just want what's best for you. Does he know that this is the reason that you can't see each other? You can in a way continue to get to know each other until you turn 16, you don't really have to break up with him. But even if you do, if he really believes that you are soul mates then he will wait the few months for you. It's not a long time and try to understand your parents point of view. They are the ones that are always going to be there for you.

Answer 3

Break up with him sister, if he is your soul mate he will be there when you are old enough to date in your parents eyes.
Your parents give you rules because they love you and don't want anything bad to happen to you.
The only way to prove to your parents that you are mature is to follow all the rules that they give you.
If you want a very open trusting relationship with your parents (the best kind), then after you tell your boyfriend that he has to wait a few more years, go and tell your parents what you did and accept whatever punishment they give you.
If you do what your parents want:
you will not be grounded,
you will have more freedom,
you will get to drive the car.
If you don't do what your parents want:
you will be grounded,
they will not trust you to let you go out with your friends
you will be pegged a liar and a cheater by your parents
your parents will feel bad and wonder what they did wrong in raising you up.
you sound like a smart girl to me, just because you are asking questions before leaping in to far. please, for everyone's sake make the good choice. You will soon have all the time in the world to date boys.

Answer 4

Will ur parents let guys come to ur house, when they're home? Do u have guy friends that they let come over? I mean, maybe u can compromise, and just chill out at ur place w/ ur folks. I know it sounds lame, but ur parents only haVe good intentions, and the way society is going, u can never be too careful, and until ur eighteen, they're responsible for u. Yeah, he'll probably move on if u break up with him...he might break up with his gf for when ur ready though...if ur truly soulmates. But I'd try to shoot for a compromise with ur folks so they can meet him, and so can u. It's better than sneaking out to his house, and getting grounded, or getting in a tandled situation, and loosing ur folks trust for any length of time. The teen years especially, are not a time parents and kids shouldn't be trusting one another...this will help u out in the long run...and u'll definatley understand this point later in life.

Answer 5

If you've never met him, I suggest u don't take any action, because people rarely or never really know true love until they meet each other. And by how u say he claims ur soulmates, it make him even more suspicious, am not saying anything, but u should not trust anyone so easily and yes, I suggest u break up with him. ur parents have a good reason not to let u date till 16, because the younger u start dating, the more heart breaks ur gonna get, quiet impossible to find your soulmate when ur just15. and, ur still better, I have to be 20 to be allowed to date.

Answer 6

Good for you that you've at the very least stayed away from him to try to keep your promise...I know it is hard to let someone go, especially when you feel like your ready, but I would talk to may parents, ask them why they are basing everything on a number (16), and if the responsibility that you've shown is not proof enough for them. If they still say no, I really hope that you will respect their wishes. 16 is just around the corner (kinda), and like you said, you should be out having fun, not sneaking around, fearful that your parents are going to be totally disappointed. If you are indeed soulmates, then I guess you'll always have the future together...

Answer 7

For crying out loud. Obey your parents. Are you just trying to look for trouble? Break his heart? Give me a break. The two of you are only experiencing the very hormonal thing that is the reason why your parents have forbidden dating until you are 16. Don't you know that you can get pregnant???? Then what? You are too young now. At least when you are 16 you will have a better chance if you do get pregnant. Why do you want to hurry up your life, you have a long long long life ahead of you yet; don't rush it. Be a kid while you can.

Answer 8

Well make sure he knows that your not allowed to date until your 16. Than explain to him that not being able to see him is holding down the relationship. And ask him if he wants to break up and wait until your 16 or if he just wants to break up. You really don't know how he feels about yalls relationship until you talk to him about it. So tell him the stuff that your on here telling everybody and ask him the questions. And I'm sorry your parents are making you wait so long to date.

Answer 9

OK, sooooo, u met some guy on-line that you have never met, but he lives down the street from you. Let me be perfectly honest. You have no idea who this guy is. He could be an adult lying to you. A very easy thing to do on-line....Your parents trust is worth more than an on-line romance. You have plenty of time and life ahead of you. You're parents make rules for a reason. Stay away from this guy.

Answer 10

its sweet that you have a little puppy love with this guy, but you shouldn't break your parents trust. Just be friends with this guy, get to know eachother, and for the next year continue to show your parents that you are trustable, that way when your 16 (or maybe sooner if you make a really good impresion) your parents will let you date freely w/o them riding your back. If you sneek behind their back now you will be showing yourself untrustable and this will cause you trouble untill you move out! Just explain your situation to your guy and lay low, If he is the right guy then he wont mind waiting a little over a year!