My husband recently had a picture on his laptop of a naked 30 somthing brunett I happen to see.Im turning 50 and I look good my figure is great I get comments .I look good I think.But turning 50 and seeing the picture kind a made me feel bad .I know Im getting older and now I seem to know another side of my husband like his preference on age and it hurts somehow.
2007-08-07 17:35:45 · 18 answers · asked by jessy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell him how you feel! Tell him that downloading naked 30 or 20 yr olds makes you feel bad. To let this eat at you. Theres nothing wrong w/ you and a naked bimbo on the computer shouldn't make you self consciences.
2007-08-07 18:56:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not over at the age of 50, on the contrary, the women are very attractive at this age.
Every stage of our lives has a special taste, even when we become old.
My dear have confidence in yourself , nothing wrong with you at all, if your husband is seriously after younger girls that indicates something wrong with him and not you, my wife is in your age and every day passes I feel closer to her not to others or younger women, who will care about me when I feel sick or depressed, who will be my companion when I become old and retired.
Sex is important part of our lives but it is not everything, there are kindness, tenderness,caring, supporting and sincere love that cannot be found except with the wife that spent her life beside her husband.
Despite what you have seen from your husband, keep close to him, show him your tenderness, kindness, support and love.
In the same time try to change the style of your dress , hair, make up, try to tease him when you catch good opportunity, with those unfamiliar actions you might break the routine and create new atmosphere
Best luck.
2007-08-08 02:02:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course that hurt you and I would certainly express that to him. It's great that you take care of yourself for sure and he should show his appreciation to you for that... (my opinion)
He needs to be concentrating on being IN LOVE with his wife... That picture of some other female needs to be dumped and YOUR picture should be there....
You have every right in the world to feel hurt. Don't let it go any further than this if you can help it however...
Seduce him, flirt with him, DO special things for him, etc... The same as you did when you were first dating and in love then... Give him something that he can't look away from and if he is a MAN, he will know that he has a wife that he can admire and appreciate...
Good Luck.... We're all right behind you .... :o) ... and I mean that in the chronological age sense of the word b/c it's the truth... :o)
2007-08-08 01:01:26 · answer #3 · answered by ~Me~ 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have just had my 55th birthday, and believe me, it sure is NOT over. I too still have a good figure, ( not much has really sagged much, because I am naturally small, so didn’t have much to sag in the first place!) and am still young in mind, and keep my husband in fits of laughter most of the time. Having a picture of a naked, young woman, on his computer isn’t necessarily a bad thing, most men enjoy looking at naked and semi naked women, and it usually isn’t a problem. I think it is only because society makes us think that 50 is “over the hill” for women that some of us start to have doubts about ourselves., and start to think that our husbands prefer younger women. I don’t think it is the age so much that he is enjoying, but the nudity! After all, how many picture of nicely built, older, naked women have you seen out there for them to look at! Take it from someone even older than you, age really is just a number, you can still enjoy life and your husband to the full, even at our “advanced” age. Personally, if his having the picture disturbed me so much, I would put one of a young, naked man on mine, and allow him to see it!
2007-08-08 03:39:59 · answer #4 · answered by sparrow 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sweet Pea you are as young as you feel. Old is an ugly word you are just a lot more mature. I don't feel your husband doesn't love you, he is looking for something that he thinks might interest him. Little does he know its you. You may have to get out your sexy little gear, you know the one in the bottom of the drawer and wear it for him. Be spontaneous and I will bet he will forget about the naked brunette! Good luck my dear!
2007-08-08 00:44:40 · answer #5 · answered by b n real 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Men are such simple creatures who need constant visual reminders of what they're on this planet for. Don't take it to heart - you sound like an attractive almost 50 year old (and I'm heading in that direction myself) - it's normal. Make sure he knows you still think he's a hunk. Pamper the ego dearie.
2007-08-08 01:48:14 · answer #6 · answered by Sunny 1st 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your problem isn't that you're turning 50. It's that your husband looks at porn. How are any of us ever supposed to compete with those air-brushed, professionally enhanced photographs of barely 20-somethings in positions we never even knew the human body was capable of contorting itself into?
My ex-husband liked to look at porn and, indirectly, that's one of the reasons we got divorced. I never felt like I was ever enough for him and that was one solid thing I could point to and say, "See! If I were enough for you, why would you need those magazines?"
When you have the safety and security of a solid relationship, it shouldn't be an issue whether you're turning 50 or 70 or 90. But if you're really that concerned about it, you need to talk to your husband and make him convince you that you're still desirable to him...because that's what you're really asking here, isn't it?
If convincing you means forgoing all porn from here on out, that's the route he needs to take to make you feel secure in your relationship with him and secure in yourself.
Peace, sister. I know what you're going through.
2007-08-08 01:12:45 · answer #7 · answered by ann81969 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
some day the naked 30 something will be a 50 something grandma answering the same question to her grandkids. Let your husband know yours feelings
2007-08-08 00:50:37 · answer #8 · answered by noteworthy5 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck, no! Age is totally in your head. Men will look at beautiful young women regardless of whether their wives are 20 or 80 -- that's just the way they are, and the internet just makes it easier, that's all. He can look, but you're the one in his bed. ;-)
Don't make more of it than it is, and try not to take it personally. It wasn't meant that way. If you need a little extra boost of confidence, go get your hair done, get a manicure/pedicure, or treat yourself to a spa day.
2007-08-08 00:53:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I bet he doesn't look like a 30 year old hunk. Don't worry about it.. he knows he doesn't have a chance of getting a young chick like that in his bed. Men are very visual creatures. Let him has his fun. And oh yeah.. it isn't over for a woman after 50.. believe me
2007-08-08 00:49:43 · answer #10 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋